SycamoreCircle Posted May 29, 2015 Posted May 29, 2015 I would encourage you to adjust your thinking about some people being "better" than others. People are energies. Is one energy better than the other? Active energy requires passive energy. Passive energy requires active energy. Everything around you is growing and changing. Accept that. Allow yourself to be swept up into that change. Maybe you've found a person you deem very valuable. But did you allow yourself enough time to be alone, post BU? Can you be alone? Can you be solitary? I think a necessary part of every BU is solitude.
stillafool Posted May 29, 2015 Posted May 29, 2015 The title of your thread pretty much says it all. You thought you were better than your ex and perhaps she felt it. She apparently didn't think you were the best catch. 3
Itspointless Posted May 29, 2015 Posted May 29, 2015 (edited) I'm tall, good looking, and actually modest (aside from this thread for illustration purposes lol). The worst part is I'm very good with girls to, and have upgraded to a much better gf You, perhaps are more modest in everyday life when talking to people, but apparently not in your thinking writing that you upgraded. Who the bleep are you that you think you deserve to talk about people like that and that they deserve grades? Sorry man, but that is a big NO. You feel guilty and reading you made me sympathetic with you. But have you ever considered that withholding intimacy to her you probably made her feel like she deserved nothing much? Please seek some counselling like others have suggested. Try to work on whatever held you back. Sorry. Edited May 29, 2015 by Itspointless
minime13 Posted May 29, 2015 Posted May 29, 2015 not if he's honest with the new girl. He's going through some phases due to a bad break up. He wants to be with the new girl and no way is he going back with the old one. Her choice if she stays or leaves. If he treats the new girl fine and they have a good time, everybody wins. thing is, everyone goes through things. As long as he is transparent, it's up to the new girl to decide if the new situation is good enough to her. Bolded statement - what? What self-respecting woman would agree to continue dating a guy if he admits he is still thinking about his ex all the time and needs her to stick with him in order to try to get over her? I get what you are saying and, on paper, it sounds like the right thing to do. However, doing that will likely just put an end to that relationship. Nobody wants to be told they might just be a rebound.
minime13 Posted May 29, 2015 Posted May 29, 2015 The title of your thread pretty much says it all. You thought you were better than your ex and perhaps she felt it. She apparently didn't think you were the best catch. I think the title of the thread and the tone of the original post speak more to his hurt over the breakup than anything else. He's not over her and he moved on too quickly.
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