EMY711 Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 I started an intense graduate program where I spend approx. 40 hours a week with my classmates. I just finished my first year and became good friends with a guy in my class. He is 40 y/o and divorced because his wife left him for a women about 5 years ago. Many of my classmates swore there was a connection but I kept insisting that we were just friends until I became sexually attracted to him and my feelings started to grow stronger. I expressed my interest to him and he was quite surprised. Our conversations via text and in person overtime became more sexual and he would initiate almost all of them. Due to our busy schedule, we decided to go on a real date when classes ended. When our classes did end, we went out twice with a group of friends but body language and behavior wasn't the same as our conversations via text. It was more of a friend relationship in person. I confronted him about it because I was confused and he pulled the we are here for a reason and that is school. Right now the focus is school...then proceeded to pull the "sister" card. I'm sorry but unless he is into incest, brothers and sisters do not have the conversations like we had. After the talk knowing I was upset, he still persisted to be around me the next day. He left his hat in my car and messaged me saying he hopes I didn't do anything too naughty with his hat. He then left to go to Europe and still managed to take time and email me while over there. Just want input or if someone has been in a similar situation...do you think he is scared and maybe interested? or just wants to keep me as a friend? Stringing me along because he is too focused with school? It doesn't make sense to send me sexual messages or ask for pictures and then not make a move with me.
Satu Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Texts never represent the face to face reality. What happens face to face is the reality. 1
jen1447 Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Sounds like he doesn't quite know what he wants and he's not bothering to let you in on it. That's a little douche-y but it's not exactly evil. If I were you I'd tell him to get his f*cking sh*t together and figure himself out and that you're not gonna be his temp playmate on text when he's bored or lonely. (Unless you're actually cool with that.) Gotta expect and demand the respect sister! 1
ThisisIt606 Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 40 and divorced? wife left him for a woman? stressful grad program? This guy has baggage beyond belief. Perhaps your texts are just a noncommittal way to have fun, relax and are nice for both if you. WHen push comes to shove ( in person contact) he's pooping out to the extreme. I think he's a lost cause, even the whole emails from europe thing is still a form if distant (non face to face, non intimate) contact. He seems to only be able to operate with you ( and maybe any other woman for the time being) on the surface level and not delve into anything more meaningful. I dont think you should invest too much time/energy into this one. 1
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