Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Your text was way over the top to begin with. I would agree that his text was a bit forced that she took a step back, the key for him is to not pour it on but let it flow
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 She's not interested... Oh well... next her and learn from this...
Lansing Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Yeah, glad you are moving on OP. I have much more respect if a girl is upfront instead of "yeah, I will find a time and let you know" or.. specifically asks you to call them/contact them about something and then when you do they don't even respond. I have been known to give girls more than one chance because I think "oh, she must be really busy but I am sure she does want to hang out".... I am at the point now I can't be bothered to keep putting effort in if the girl doesn't return the effort... Or, at least, that is my plan.
hollycraze Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 You can't know if it's a no/yes if you don't see her way of saying it...that's the worst part of texting...try to text her again with something funny & ridiculous like, "I rarely text someone...but I think I should do this because I saw you in my dream last night...it's horrible..." If she texts back, she's intrigued...but if she doesn't, she's not into you...move on! Send me message to know more!
SunnySide0418 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 She's not interested... That's fine, I've been on a couple of other dates since then, and finally met someone who is actually keen. How do you know - what happened?
SunnySide0418 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 "I drive away from dinner with a big smile on my face! I just meet a beautiful, intelligent, and amazing woman. I hope you felt a connection too. I would of course like to see you again..." If a guy wrote this to me and I really liked him I would be so happy. If I felt the same I would not have thought it was too much.
Author yxalitis Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 "I drive away from dinner with a big smile on my face! I just meet a beautiful, intelligent, and amazing woman. I hope you felt a connection too. I would of course like to see you again..." If a guy wrote this to me and I really liked him I would be so happy. If I felt the same I would not have thought it was too much. Thanks... And to answer the other question... I texted her a message, basically saying that it's OK to say you just want to be friends, better to know for sure...and she answered in the affirmative
SunnySide0418 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Thanks... And to answer the other question... I texted her a message, basically saying that it's OK to say you just want to be friends, better to know for sure...and she answered in the affirmative Ugh - I hate games. Why do people (men and women) find it so difficult to just be straightforward? And it's so easy now with texting. Sorry, you'll find better!
Author yxalitis Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 I guess she's not familiar with the dating game. I had two dates in a row with two Chinese woman who were both taxation accountants. What are the odds?
ZA Dater Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I would have to agree with Cessna. It was a mild rejection. "Talk soon" means nothing. I think it was only thrown in because of how strongly you came on with your text. "Nice to meet you too" and "Thank you for the company" are dead giveaways. She returned no compliments or expressed any enjoyment in the date. Next! I think this is exactly what happened here. It always amazes me that as guys we never get any critique as to why we were rejected and this is a classic example. "Talk soon" implies what it says but the meaning is quite the opposite. Why not say to the guy "Look I feel it wont work because of ABC reason", is this really too much to ask?
Renton Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Too much gets lost in translation when texting. Makes you wonder how people dated years ago.
Cowboysnation Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 The last date I went on I received a very similar response from the girl the same night. I can't remember it verbatim but it was along the lines of "thanks again for tonight, was nice meeting you". I knew that was her way of blowing me off, I replied anyway and would bet my house on her never getting back to me. She didn't. Yeah "it was nice meeting you" is definitely a blow out and had to learn that myself last summer.
Bobbi7 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I take that as a no...at least on a first date--people give hugs or half hugs. I don't know..Plus no plans were made to meet up again.
Cowboysnation Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I take that as a no...at least on a first date--people give hugs or half hugs. I don't know..Plus no plans were made to meet up again. I think I will start making plans at the end of the first for date two so I won't have to come home guessing if she is into me.
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