dub4502 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 I'll try to make this quick....i've been with my girlfriend for 5 months now. Everything was going great, we always wanted to see eachother and we did. Probably too much 4-7 days a week....I know alot. A few weeks back I could tell something was wrong. So i asked about it....she said she didn't know what was wrong but didn't feel the same as she did a week or two ago? Well we talked and I suggested maybe we see each other a little to much and that takes the excitement out of it. She agreed and said she didn't see it that way before. So she was gone for the long weekend haven't seen her a 8 days. While she was gone I let her initiate contact. And she did....alot. By the end of the weekend she was sending kiss faces and I miss you texts, and suggested maybe if she wasn't going away with her girlfriends the following weekend we could get together. Figuring she was feeling better i started to initiate contact again. She suggested I come over one night this week, but also mentioned she is having our friend come over as well. Ok fair enough, I asked about Friday as it's two days away and she said she still didn't know. Now she has become completely unresponsive ignoring my texts. What do you guys think, am I getting strung along while she waits to decide whatever shes trying to decide or am I over analyzing the situation? Thanks in advance!
smackie9 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 It's either A)she was infatuated with you and burned out or B) She has another interest. The only thing you can do is let her come to you and see what happens. If she still acts flaky on you, confront her about it, and make a decision right there whether to keep seeing each other or not. I cannot tell you what is goingon with her, you have to take action in order to find out.
Author dub4502 Posted May 27, 2015 Author Posted May 27, 2015 I'm thinking it's A, as I forgot to mention shes a single mother of two kids, and most of the time shes with them or with me. Which is probably why she got burnt out, as she really has no time for herself. Thanks for the advice. Do you think this is something that can be rekindled or the flame is out it's out....
minime13 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 I'm thinking it's A, as I forgot to mention shes a single mother of two kids, and most of the time shes with them or with me. Which is probably why she got burnt out, as she really has no time for herself. Thanks for the advice. Do you think this is something that can be rekindled or the flame is out it's out.... Single mother of two kids isn't a small detail. She's burning the candle at both ends and needs some time to herself, most likely. Maybe you can bring up whether or not sometime this weekend will be good, since she originally brought up the possibility of seeing you if she wasn't going away again. If she is still unresponsive, then maybe it's time to have a conversation and see if she still feels the same way - that she is losing interest. 1
GoBlue Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 I am in agreement with minime13 - the fact that she is a single-mom with two small children is a big deal! That's a 24 hour a day job. I am very surprised that she was even able to see you as often as you say. Did the two of you spend time alone or was it with the kids? Another way to look at this is to understand what the purpose of dating is. You spend time with one another to discover if it's a relationship that can stand the test of time and can be a truly exclusive love relationship. The more time you spend together the more you get to know about one another. This is the process of discovery that determines whether a relationship survives or dies. Now, it's very possible that she is simply caught up in the process of being a mother. It's also possible that the initial infatuation has worn off and she's reconsidering the relationship. Time will tell. Honest and open communication is always the basis of any loving, committed relationship. I hope you get your answer soon. Be blessed!
smackie9 Posted May 29, 2015 Posted May 29, 2015 I'm thinking it's A, as I forgot to mention shes a single mother of two kids, and most of the time shes with them or with me. Which is probably why she got burnt out, as she really has no time for herself. Thanks for the advice. Do you think this is something that can be rekindled or the flame is out it's out.... You can't make or force someone to want to be with you. In order to to know how to proceed, you need to find out what is going on with her first.
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