Krishira Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 hi all, So I have a friend who I have known for almost 3 years now and we've been best of friends. Lately for the past 4 to 5 months I've gained a lot of feelings for her and I'm unable to tell her anything. Firstly because she's in a 2 year relationship but her relationship is at a very bad peak right now and she has told me that she isn't happy with the guy and wants to leave him but she hasn't done it yet cause she thinks her life will become lonely. But from my side I don't know what to do because I really like her but I can't tell her, I don't want to ruin the friendship I have with her but at the same time I feel like I should just tell her. This is becoming too hard for me. I see her every day of the week but I'm unable to say or do anything.
Poppyolive Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Yes, that's a tough one. My advise, might not be right.....is to tell her, but not when she's telling you about her boyfriend problems or vulnerable. Whatever you decide yo do, you'll need to be prepared for best & worst case scenarios. All the while, maintaining respect for her & her current relationship. Also, patience!! I would tell her I'm developing feelings for you, I don't know what to make of them, but I felt like I wanted to be honest with you, I also want to respect you and your boyfriends relationship. Have a discussion but be prepared to back off your friendship for a while. You are very important here, your feelings are real, respect them, take time out for you. I'm interested to see other responses. All the best.
Quest Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Like Poppyolive, I agree, it's a tough one. My advice, though, is probably not to say anything about your feelings just now. If she's in a relationship, even one that's going badly, she's going to be consumed with that and not be in a place to think about someone else. Even if she breaks up with this guy is she going to be ready for something new right away? I'd think that was unlikely. But, on the other hand, maybe she really likes you and thinks you just think of her as a friend. It's a difficult call and depends if you think you can cope with the possibility of a negative response if you tell her how you feel. If you can, go ahead and tell her ... prepared for the worst, hoping for the best.
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