ajcole Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 (edited) I joined to vent. Me and my ex broke up less than a week ago. I'm thinking it was my fault for falsely accusing her. Meaning I had reason to I'm get into that later. So we stop talking for a couple of days and I decided maybe I should change for the better...so I waited until she texted me..and I responded with "let's work this out I don't wanna lose you" yada yada yada. Then I ask her was she talking to anybody and she said no. Keep in mind guys I'm not insecure. Damn I messed up the story lls. Guys she's a cheater she was cheating on me ever since we got togwther and we been together for almost 3 years. So I wasn't being insecure when I asked her. But she said no she wasn't so I said that Saturday morning to call me and well talking on the phone tonight. So its 10:00 I called her and it rung all the way to voicemail..then I text no reply ..until that morning she said she was at church with her friend and they got out late..so I said Iight but I had my suspicion but I didn't make a big deal it wasn't until later that after noon....I came across a pic of a guy a knew and her friend she went to church with so I ask him was she at church and he said her friend was but she wasn't ... So I called her up..and ask her and finally she says no..and I say well y u lie...then she told me she been talking to her co worker from work.....and she's breaking up with me....that's really not the full story...but long story Short I love this girl I still do even after everything she did..I see a good side in her that nobody else could see..but she so stuck on "what else" "turn up".... I'm all for the turn up but I don't want nobody else but her.....she promised me when we got together she wasn't gonna do me the way she did her ex(they was having problems and she was talking to me) but in reality she did. I just wanna know one question...is it okay to want her back even after the messed up stuff she did ..I mean I'm NC but if she text me do I respond or do I let her go.....she was the type were she go talk to other dudes but have a heart attack when I do...basically a hypocrite....man all the answers are in this text but I still just want her back...not if she gonna do the same.... tbh it doesn't hurt as bad because I expected it..but I can't help but think what if she's faithful to him ..what was I missing...the sex was amazing we couldn't get enuff...I was always there when she needed me..never did anything while we were in a relationship...bought her gifts spent every time I could with her...when she wasn't rejecting it...man if it was a fail...or if u wasn't interested why didn't u leave sooner why would u stay just to break me down...its crazy but I still miss her...but idk what to do..I'm happy and smiling and talking to other but still wondering what she doing.... **** crazy. Edited May 27, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs, but still a mess. :(
d0nnivain Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Whatever you are feeling is what you are feeling. Feelings are not right or wrong. You need to take the feeling out of this. She cheated on you which involves lying to you for 3 YEARS. This was not a drunken ONS. Whether she was talking to a co-worker or not now is not the issue. Her pattern of deception is the issue. Why would you want to be with someone you can't trust? It's not a matter of being insecure. She has repeatedly broken your trust & is not doing anything to earn it back. Let this go & move on to a more honest person. 2
minime13 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 I joined to vent. Me and my ex broke up less than a week ago. I'm thinking it was my fault for falsely accusing her. Meaning I had reason to I'm get into that later. So we stop talking for a couple of days and I decided maybe I should change for the better...so I waited until she texted me..and I responded with "let's work this out I don't wanna lose you" yada yada yada. Then I ask her was she talking to anybody and she said no. Keep in mind guys I'm not insecure. Damn I messed up the story lls. Guys she's a cheater she was cheating on me ever since we got togwther and we been together for almost 3 years. So I wasn't being insecure when I asked her. But she said no she wasn't so I said that Saturday morning to call me and well talking on the phone tonight. So its 10:00 I called her and it rung all the way to voicemail..then I text no reply ..until that morning she said she was at church with her friend and they got out late..so I said Iight but I had my suspicion but I didn't make a big deal it wasn't until later that after noon....I came across a pic of a guy a knew and her friend she went to church with so I ask him was she at church and he said her friend was but she wasn't ... So I called her up..and ask her and finally she says no..and I say well y u lie...then she told me she been talking to her co worker from work.....and she's breaking up with me....that's really not the full story...but long story Short I love this girl I still do even after everything she did..I see a good side in her that nobody else could see..but she so stuck on "what else" "turn up".... I'm all for the turn up but I don't want nobody else but her.....she promised me when we got together she wasn't gonna do me the way she did her ex(they was having problems and she was talking to me) but in reality she did. I just wanna know one question...is it okay to want her back even after the messed up stuff she did ..I mean I'm NC but if she text me do I respond or do I let her go.....she was the type were she go talk to other dudes but have a heart attack when I do...basically a hypocrite....man all the answers are in this text but I still just want her back...not if she gonna do the same.... tbh it doesn't hurt as bad because I expected it..but I can't help but think what if she's faithful to him ..what was I missing...the sex was amazing we couldn't get enuff...I was always there when she needed me..never did anything while we were in a relationship...bought her gifts spent every time I could with her...when she wasn't rejecting it...man if it was a fail...or if u wasn't interested why didn't u leave sooner why would u stay just to break me down...its crazy but I still miss her...but idk what to do..I'm happy and smiling and talking to other but still wondering what she doing.... **** crazy. Honestly, it's okay to still love someone you have been with for so long, even if she did do you wrong. But, if it's not the right relationship, it's not the right relationship. Just keep up with NC, and focus on yourself. You don't trust her anymore, and rightly so because you caught her in a lie. I doubt it was the first lie, too. So, without trust, your relationship has no foundation. When she left her ex for you, did she cheat on him with you? That should have been a red flag. If she did, then she's likely not been faithful to you, and this guy she's been talking to was just the guy she was talking to at the moment when you caught her in a lie. It's what cheaters do. Instead of feeling remorse for being caught, and trying to fix things, they usually jump ship with whoever they are with at the moment, because it's easier for them. Move on from this and focus on your own healing. Forget her, and stay NC.
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