Author greenhorn Posted April 25, 2005 Author Posted April 25, 2005 If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!" If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings-nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And-which is more-you'll be a Man, my son!
Fallen_Angel Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 I have that poem hanging on the filing cabinet behind my desk. I had one of those picture strips of me and my ex from last summer when we went to the beach hanging up behind the phone. I of course took it down and had to replace it with something. I decided to replace it with another good poem, this one by Elizabeth Bishop: One Art The art of losing isn't hard to master; so many things seem filled with the intent to be lost that their loss is no disaster. Lose something every day. Accept the fluster of lost door keys, the hour badly spent. The art of losing isn't hard to master. Then practice losing farther, losing faster; places, and names, and where it was you meant to travel. None of these things will bring disaster. ... --Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture I love) I shan't have lied. It's evident the art of losing's not too hard to master though it may look like (Write it!) like disaster. I have a degree in English, so I'm a bit of a bookworm. It's a little comforting to know people have experienced the feelings we currently have for hundreds of years, and somehow they plowed through!
Author greenhorn Posted April 25, 2005 Author Posted April 25, 2005 Yeah that poem has always been a source of strength for me and today also I am reading it again.Well this time I am coping a lot better than about five months back when I had to go to the hospital. today night seems very hard to me but I will pass it I know and so much for the co incidence that I wanted to talk to my Mom but her phone has gone dead grrrrrrr but LS is helping me big time, I have three windows opened for LS in my laptop which is beside my pillow. I have taken the pill and will sleep sweetly the whole night. thanks all
johnjohnsmith Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Greenhorn, I thought I should at least tell you how much YOUR posts have helped me, take your own advice my friend. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.
Author greenhorn Posted April 26, 2005 Author Posted April 26, 2005 Yeah Romeo, Feeling a lot better than yesterday, though still stressed but with every passing minute I am trying to accept the new development. I am trying to absorb myself into work so that I dont think much. It is much better than december thanks to support from all of you. I will be posting updates, how about you?? How is your day ?
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Well done for already starting to bounce back... this news was a huge blow. I'm feeling a lot better myself today. My news wasn't as bad as yours - finally heard in crystal clarity Juliet's reason for breaking up with me. She's silly, that's all I can say
Author greenhorn Posted April 26, 2005 Author Posted April 26, 2005 Well yeah that news is a huge blow to me but what can I do? Whatever I do, however I wail or howmuch I shout it is not going to change? I can't ask her anything cause my resolve is steadfast that I will die but will not contact her ! . I don't have any latitude for anything except to accept this fact. The sooner I accept it the better for me. I am trying for it minute by minute, the moment I fail I will come here to post it.. So did you talk to Juliet ?? hmm whatever it is , it is good that you are feeling better.
moon Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Greenhorn, Sorry about your saddness in relation to the news of your ex-girlfriend. I am sure you are trying to make any sense you can over it. I am sure it is very painful for you to deal with. Rightfully so. It doesn't seem fair does it? What to do??? I guess you just have to think that life works in mysterious ways. This may seem like the darkest hour for you, yet one day, when you get through it, grow and learn from it and find a person you are more compatible with---these days might be remembered as the turning point for you. This time period might just be the catalist for a new life and vision for yourself. The girl you were with before seems shallow. She doesn't seem to experience life as deeply as you. That in itself is an incompatibility because she will probably never understand your approach. She is probably content to skate on the surface. I guess you can thank God that you didn't marry this girl. With her flippant attitude and breezy style she might have left the marriage at some point and ran off with somebody from the circus. Now what would you have done then? So right now it seems like nothing could be worse, but I guess the only thing worse would be being with a person who wasn't fully committed to you and who have left you on some capricious whim. Not good. Not good at all. So it sounds like the worst has come your way. Relax....it can only get better from here on out. Realize you ARE going through a hard time and you don't have to talk yourself out of that. It is painful, anybody can see that. But imagine yourself coming out of it on top. Imagine your life one day back to normal and while enjoying a truly reciprocal relationship----that is more ease than work...... More gain than pain. Take care of yourself!!!!
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