iichloegirl Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 When my boyfriend and I first got together we would have sex 2 times a day and I wa salways in the mood. Latley every time we have sex I feel like we are both just going through the motions and we have sex maybe once a week or so if I am lucky. I know after couples have been together for awhile this happens ( we have been together for 3 and half years) but I don't want us to be one of those couples who only has sex just to "get it over with". I know alot of it is for some reason this past year my sex drive has gone away and I never try to initatate sex like I used to anymore. My question is mostly how can I get my sex drive back or at least close to where it used to be. I also want to know how can I make sex hotter at least some of the time for us?
Pocky Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 Have you perused the sexuality/relationship section of your local bookstore? There are several books out that are intended to help you spice up your sex life and often provided you with more ideas than you could imagine. Try searching at Amazon and read some of the reviews before purchasing a book.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 do not have sex for a week. and when you do, make it very sexy with lingerie, or make it very unexpected, like in the car on the way home from dinner..... anything unexpected and out of the ordinary.
Skullcrusher Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 good work females. remember it's yo job to keep the spice up cause a real man drops interest almost 25-50% after we bang.
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 Any guesses on how much longer it will be before Skullcrusher is banned?
yuv Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 Read Testosterone: The Hormone of Desire. (Then try to find a doctor in the entire United States who is interested in or will listen to ideas about women and Testosterone.) I used to post this anonymously, because I was scared that people would say all sorts of things like "it will give a woman a moustache!" "It will make her a man!" "Testosterone has nothing to do with libido, it's all in your head!" "It will give her prostate problems!" (Ok I didn't really think I'd see that last one.) I know three women with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) and their Test levels are through the roof as far as women's levels go. They all say, independently of one another, that prior to developing PCOS, their sex lives and desires were low to moderate. After having PCOS, their libidos became by their admission nearly unmanageable, and two of them cheated on their husbands, citing sex as the reason, with one going on a binge after her divorce with literally dozens of men. The other went on an antidepressant for the express purpose of killing her sexual desire because it was becoming such an issue. There is a product called Androgel, and there are creams of Testosterone made in pharmacies, to treat inhibited desire. The important thing is that you KNOW what normal feels like, and you recognize that you no longer feel it. Go to a doc (and NOT to an endocrinologist, but hold that thought, I'll get to why in a second) and see if they won't try something like this. If they say "it's normal" or "this issue hasn't been studied enough" or "your breasts will shrink" or "it's all in your head, I'll refer you to a psychotherapist," find another general practitioner. Find someone who will at least TRY it without telling you it's a normal part of the aging process or perimenopause. (Don't go to an endo, b/c they know diabetes, not Test issues. Use the 'net to find an endo specializing in this in your area, because it IS a specialty.) The amount of Test you'd use is VERY small, and the object is to get your blood tested for total, free, and bound Testosterone, then take the gel or cream, and then after a few weeks see if you aren't normalizing, and see if you don't feel more like your old self!
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