RedRobin Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 (edited) I don't view your histories as being all that different, except she has been in long term relationships and you haven't. I think you are acting very immaturely... And I am not a 'past is the past' kind of person at all. I also think you want to try and talk her down so that you can feel in charge and on top of things, rather than pull your head out...take some responsibility, and do your part to slow things down if they are going too fast. Either way, you aren't relationship material for anyone the way you are going about things. Everyone ought to be concerned about STDs, no matter how 'good a family' one comes from. I ask every one of my partners to get tested before having any kind of sex. It weeds out the ones who aren't serious. ...one more thing... I think it is odd that some 'men' are turned off by the fact that their love interest loved someone before them. In my experience, most SANE people fall in love at least once by the time they are in their mid twenties. I am not a 'high count' person, but I am a quick learner. I had one ONS when I was about that age... And I also lived with a guy for over a year without marriage about that age as well. Never did either one again. When you are young, lots of people are trying to understand what their values are. IMHO, I really don't see how your sexual values and hers differ all that much, except you sound like a hypocrite and she isn't. I learned about that too... Never date a hypocrite. They are always looking for something to trash you about so that they can feel secure. Edited May 27, 2015 by RedRobin 1
kenji_t Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 5 guys....and you think that's too much... You call 3 partners pathetic, but 5 is a Sodom & Gomorrah citizen? I don't follow your logic... I think you want a woman who has only "tasted" you. It's gonna be hard to find. 3
kendahke Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Which is it: But then... she started telling me all about her sexual history... ...Last night we spoke about mine and her exs/sexual history. I asked first. First, off, she didn't just start telling you her sexual history. You asked a question the answer to which you knew you couldn't handle. Own that. Everyone has a past. If you don't want a woman with a history, date virgins. Problem solved. No, I think you should just stop seeing her. You can't handle her truth because it's not neat and tidy enough for you not to be intimidated by it. She's lived some life and perhaps she would do better with a man who isn't undone by false comparisions to other men. You will never give this up as long as you're with her--it's always going to be your insecurities getting in the way and destroying this relationship, so do you and her a huge favor and let her go.
RedRobin Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 FYI... even virgins have an emotional history and a life before you came along... So, you are screwed since you didn't marry your high school sweetheart, basically. Man, I feel sorry for young women today... having to deal with guys who have been brainwashed by PUA culture.
HereTodayGoneTomorow Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Her sex history is messing with my head. Should I care? So the truth is, in a very short format. I only had sex with 3 females. Yes, pathetic! Need I mention that I'm 24? I did however have many GFs that were so prude along the way, which is why I only had sex with 3 females. So just because you have only been with 3 females, this new female is messing with you head because she has been with more? You state that you have been with 3 only because some of your ex GFs refused you. But you would have had more if you could have. If all the opportunities this new girl had were presented to you, (based on what youve said above) surely you would have had more females too. So my question to you is: Why would you condemn this new girl because of her history when you yourself could have had a long list too?
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