wishfulthinking76 Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 Now that I have broken up with the love of my life I feel so down. Everything I do puts me in a worse mood. Today I drove to my ex (from 2 years ago) house to see where him and his fiance live. I don't know where this crazyness came from. Even though I totally am over my old ex I just wanted to make myself feel alone and horrible about it. I totally miss the person I just broke up with but we keep in contact regularly. We were so in love that we planned our future together and were talking about getting married and having children. Now he clearly has no interest in getting me back, which hurts. It is so hard to grasp how people can go from in love to no feelings within a month. Were his feelings even that strong to begin with? I understand that a month of fighting isn't healthy for any relationship but if you love someone enough don't you want to get back what you had?
SinceIvebeenlovingU Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 your mistake is that u feel that he should want u back after you broke up with him.... I would take that as a hint the woman doesn't want me anymore...and move on...which is what he's doing...not try to fight for the woman back...
Valentinia Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Or you didn't drive over him in a parking lot - (ok, just kidding). You're still stuck on him. When you're over someone you stop caring. You don't care what they're doing, who they're with, etc. Sometimes when a relationship ends and time goes by and you don't hear from that person you almost become a little obsessed. In your mind you portray them as having a wonderful time without you and everything going great for them - while you're still stuck in a rut. Things are never quite as great as you picture in your mind - they're having problems and going thru life just like you. Don't blow this guy out of proportion - he's the same guy you broke up with but now some other girl is dealing with him. You've got to decide it's over for good and move on.
Ty Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 your mistake is that u feel that he should want u back after you broke up with him.... bingo. Just because you all had some arguements... why did you break up with him if he was the "love of your life"? Can't blame him for not wanting you back.. You probably hurt him very bad. Maybe your just feeling alone now? Because you drive by your ex ex's house to see where he and his fiance live, then you are going mad over your ex not wanting you back. Surround yourself with people, friends, family, you'll feel better.
Author wishfulthinking76 Posted April 26, 2005 Author Posted April 26, 2005 I just think it is odd that this new breakup with my current boyfriend warranted me to go drive by my other old ex boyfriends house years after we broke up. Does this mean I still have feelings for this old ex boyfriend? Or is it a form of self torture ... to see him all happy with his fiance and his house? Meanwhile I know that the person I was currently very happy with (but recently broke up with) stopped being in love with me.
theone44 Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by wishfulthinking76 Now that I have broken up with the love of my life I feel so down. Everything I do puts me in a worse mood. Today I drove to my ex (from 2 years ago) house to see where him and his fiance live. I don't know where this crazyness came from. Even though I totally am over my old ex I just wanted to make myself feel alone and horrible about it. I totally miss the person I just broke up with but we keep in contact regularly. We were so in love that we planned our future together and were talking about getting married and having children. Now he clearly has no interest in getting me back, which hurts. It is so hard to grasp how people can go from in love to no feelings within a month. Were his feelings even that strong to begin with? I understand that a month of fighting isn't healthy for any relationship but if you love someone enough don't you want to get back what you had? You have the nerve to break up with your ex. Now you still had the nerve to ask for him back,and he don't want to come back. AND YOU MAD!!!! BOY WOMEN!!!!
Author wishfulthinking76 Posted April 27, 2005 Author Posted April 27, 2005 I broke up with my current ex because he yelled at me ... he was abusive.... he even pushed me over and pinned me down, broke my stuff, and once hit me. He was the love of my life before he got so stressed out with med school and changed into a completely horrible and selfish person. As for my old ex (a completely different person) whose house I drove by, he wasn't the love of my life (but he treated me well). For some reason I missed him after this recent horrible breakup and started thinking about him. He was the one who broke up with me. So please take the time to fully read the posts before you go off and judge people. Sometimes you don't want to break up with people because you love them but sometimes they change and you have to let them go because no one deserves to be treated like that! And sometimes you miss people from your past who treated you well but who you also know weren't right for you!
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