Worried I am going to lose her

[monkey1980]

Been with my girlfriend for almost a year and half and we've had such an amazing relationship in that time.

 

There has been the occasional emotional disagreement or 'talk' if you like, but last night on the phone I called her out for being a little bit dismissive of my feelings when she left work the other day (we work at the same place occasionally). She took that a bit personal and I was trying so hard last night to repair the damage when she later on in the call said she was confused.

 

I was acting like an insecure and needy man at this point and was trying my best to say things that would make her perk up a bit about me and her and our feelings towards one another.

 

She thought she was responsible for making me sad or unhappy and I tried to reassure her that this was not the case.

 

She said I need to be more positive about things and stop overthinking or overanalyzing situations. I agreed with this as its always been a character flaw of mine, which I am well aware of.

 

The call fizzled out late on and we said goodnight to eachother. Not in our usual lovey-dovey or nice way.

 

Now I know for a fact she is not one to give up so easily on us after last night, but even today on the phone she was quite distant with me after last night. She said she has a busy day ahead until the evening and wouldn't be able to catch up until then at best. So I will obviously leave her to it.

 

I don't want to lose her through my own faults and flaws with how I handle relationships. I try my best to make the right choices and say the right things, but I can sometimes come unstuck and say something I regret.

 

How do I move this forward? She doesn't like it when I say sorry to her as she often tells me I have nothing to say sorry for.

 

But I can't help but feel that way as I have put her 'needlessly' on the spot with this, and all I want now more than anything in the world is to make it right and not worry that our relationship is on the slow road to decline.

 

Would absolutely kill me to lose her now after putting so much energy into her and knowing that this would be the one that got away if it messes up now.

 

I am so lost.

Edited May 26, 2015 by monkey1980

[El Pallasso]

Women like confident men who aren't constantly walking around eggshells or always worried.

 

You have to start being your own man and stop being so afraid of her leaving you. You have a massive case of oneitis and that is what is destroying your relationship.

[monkey1980]

Could do with a bit of advice.

 

Itching to call her soon but not make a fool of myself again.

[GemmaUK]

What was it that she said that you say upset you from the other morning?

[whirl3daway]

There are a few things here.

 

The way I'm reading this is that you discussed your feelings about the way your girlfriend treated you (which was with disregard), and she handled the conversation with more disregard towards you. You are 100% well within your rights to speak up when someone treats you in a way that you don't like - you should NEVER apologize for sticking up for yourself. If you were rude or disrespectful or did it at an inappropriate time, those are reasons to apologize. However, your emotional needs are just as important as hers.

 

Secondly, your posts does come off a bit "OMG HALP I'M LOST AND INSECURE" - this is not an attractive quality in either gender. I'm wondering if what your gf means by "don't say sorry, you didn't do anything wrong" - is that she wants you to be more confident in yourself. So yes - you called her out on what she did, but then you apologized for having emotional needs/problems/insecurities. Now you're apologizing for "putting her on the spot" - what does that mean?

 

If I were you, I'd give her space and let her come to you and when she does, make it clear that your emotional needs are just as valid as her own and don't apologize for having them. Tell her that the way she treated you upset you, you needed to talk about it, and in the future you would like her to treat you with a bit more respect when you have an issue.

[monkey1980]

What was it that she said that you say upset you from the other morning?

 

Wasn't so much being upset with something she said, it was just how she was just going to leave without even a hint of 'talk to you later' or 'goodbye' etc. and then was a bit off with me as she was leaving anyway.

 

It is something she has done on the odd occasion and makes me feel like I am not important enough to her sometimes just to know this one little thing. It was a long day and all I wanted was to see and talk to her and find out about her day, even if it was just for a brief moment to catch up before she left.

 

She gets so much space from me almost all the time otherwise.

 

We see eachother about once a week at best and I mostly stay at hers for a day or 2 when I do actually see her. Sometimes might be 2 weeks or more depending on how busy we both can be at times.

 

Just feels like the relationship is slowly becoming one-sided and on the path to ruin if I don't find a way to fit both our lifestyles and how we used to be with eachother.

 

Losing the 'honeymoon phase' really does hurt sometimes.

[monkey1980]

And I really do wish I was better at dealing with the next phase in the relationship after that.

 

Never been good at it.

 

But now I worry more than ever that I will lose the first real 'love of my life'.

 

I love this woman dearly and with all my heart.

[GemmaUK]

Maybe she is feeling smothered.

 

You say you give her loads of space yet you already spoke once today, you know she had a tough day ahead and now you're itching to speak to her again.

 

In a morning if I am in a hurry I'll either say bye when I am in the same room as my partner or will shout goodbye up to them. I can't risk being late for work and if someone is around then I tend not to get ready as fast as normal.

 

It wouldn't phase me at all if a man of mine hollered a goodbye when he was leaving, his priority is his work, not me at that time of day and I am considerate about that.

[ExpatInItaly]

Is this need for plenty of space a recent change, or has she always preferred things that way? If it's recent, then I would venture to guess she's feeling smothered. If she's always been this way, then you might just have incompatible relationship styles. I get the sense you would like to see her more.

 

You say you tried to say things to perk her up during your phone conversation. What did you say?

 

Let her come to you now. Stop apologizing. It takes two to make a relationship work. You can makes some changes but you have to also understand that she needs to meet you halfway. Now is a good time to step back and assess whether she seems willing to do that.

[monkey1980]

Is this need for plenty of space a recent change, or has she always preferred things that way? If it's recent, then I would venture to guess she's feeling smothered. If she's always been this way, then you might just have incompatible relationship styles. I get the sense you would like to see her more.

 

You say you tried to say things to perk her up during your phone conversation. What did you say?

 

Let her come to you now. Stop apologizing. It takes two to make a relationship work. You can makes some changes but you have to also understand that she needs to meet you halfway. Now is a good time to step back and assess whether she seems willing to do that.

 

Her need for space has always been there to be honest. She is fiercely independant and is very much into planning her days and weeks in advance. I have given her that space alot in our relationship. Sometimes not calling or bothering her so she can focus on what she needs to do.

 

In regards to the phonecall, I guess I just tried to drop reminders in there about our relationship and what I love about her to reassure her that she does not make me sad or upset. Even the most smallest things that she says or does rocks my world.

 

I want her to come to me... I am actually sick to the pit of my stomach waiting for her to call or drop me a line right now.

 

If she doesn't tonight, I know I will hurt tonight for sure.

Edited May 26, 2015 by monkey1980

[todreaminblue]

when you say even the smallest things she says or does rocks my world...can you give an example?

 

because if what you say is true....you need to develop a strategy that allows you a bit of headroom...a bit of a breather in there......because that is probably what is making you needy and insecure...you say she is busy and makes plans..........a lot...what do you do ......what interests you and what do you do when you arent together......deb

[smackie9]

Why don't you just ditch it and go do your own thing....keep busy go out with your buddies to a bar or something. Checking your phone every two mins for her call is ridiculous. You are emotionally losing control, and you are letting it run your life. So what if she doesn't call you, it doesn't mean jack s hit. She is still your GF, yes, but she isn't the reason why you are still alive.

[inpeices]

Her need for space has always been there to be honest. She is fiercely independant and is very much into planning her days and weeks in advance. I have given her that space alot in our relationship. Sometimes not calling or bothering her so she can focus on what she needs to do.

 

In regards to the phonecall, I guess I just tried to drop reminders in there about our relationship and what I love about her to reassure her that she does not make me sad or upset. Even the most smallest things that she says or does rocks my world.

 

I want her to come to me... I am actually sick to the pit of my stomach waiting for her to call or drop me a line right now.

 

If she doesn't tonight, I know I will hurt tonight for sure.

 

 

 

You remind me of my best friends' boyfriend a year or so into their relationship.. He was so lovesick and needy that she was getting smothered and well.. We call it the elastic band theory.. One person pulls.. The other is drawn..

 

They are happily married 5yrs down the road.. But he had to grow a pair and stop acting like a needy puppy when she was busy career building and socialising and being her VERY independent and often selfish thoughtless self...

 

And boy can she be selfish!

 

You need to examine the man you were when she met you... And yes we change in relationships but, re-address the balance.. It's gone one-sided and has for a while by the sounds of it.. Who is monkey1980 as an individual? And what would monkey1980 be doing if this lady was not in his life?

 

Quit chasing her and get yourself an "interdependent" life instead of a "co-dependent life...

Trust me, the latter is painful and you are experiencing it!

 

Good luck! Go live YOUR life and see if she follows!

 

[monkey1980]

Thanks for the replies.

 

It has helped somewhat, but now I feel more confused than ever.

 

We spoke on the phone this evening and she was okay to some level when talking to me but it feels like something is missing and she is not the kind, warm and caring person that she was this past weekend.

 

There was once a time where she asked me once, many months ago, what stuff I'd like her to work on to improve our relationship. I gave her my thoughts (nothing too serious) and she worked on those a bit more going forward.

 

I kind of asked for some reciprication tonight (mainly because of present circumstance) as I would like to know if there is something there, and that I kind of deserve the opportunity to know before it becomes completely irritating to her.

 

...well, I can't help but feel that time has come and gone.

 

To say I am missing her affection and warm, kind, caring personality to me is an understatement. Kind of feeling numb inside and close to being broken-hearted now that I may never be given the opportunity to make ammends for any mistake or improve as a person in this present relationship.

 

Simply put, this is the woman I wanted to marry, and I had been making concerted efforts recently to work on a proposal.

 

I now genuinely feel like something is completely irritating her and the biggest one may be the needyness that I have exhibited to her from time to time. It is a relationship killer, I know, and wish I could turn the clock back and had not done these things.

 

I guess my only option is to flat out ask her if something is wrong or how her feelings are toward me now, but want to do this in person when we next see eachother.

 

As things stand she has side-stepped that on a few occasions since the day we first had this issue.

 

I wish I could be positive about the outcome, but every part of my being now is sensing the opposite. If she really wanted to see me..she would make time for me, right?

[Cicerone]

This is weird to say, but you're almost my twin in personalities as well as this experience.

 

This happened to me a while back.. Exact same scenario almost.

 

She complains she's busy doesn't have much time... Dismissive about your feelings..

 

If she was too busy, SHE WOULD MAKE TIME FOR YOU.

My girl was too busy, but didn't make time for me and her excuse was she was too busy.. There's always time bro.

When she came running back, that busy schedule of hers all of a sudden included me again.

 

Ask her if she loves you. Ask her if she's IN love with you. There's a difference.

 

YOU can feel yourself being pushed away and it eats you inside out. It's killing you not knowing the near future. It's killing you not knowing the true way she feels.

 

I'll tell you now, if it's anything REALLY like my case, she's smothered and her mind is elsewhere.

 

I can almost say, maybe another guy is present. That was my case. I didn't want to see it, didn't want to accept it. Everyone kept telling me so, but sure enough there was.

 

We ended things, I was crushed beyond belief. I too was plotting marriage with her, until all this went down.

 

We ended our relationship as she started up another with a guy who was in a relationship. Slept with him once, they had a whole thing and she realized, what am I doing?

 

Weeks later she came running back and we slowly began our relationship again. Happy to say, in 3 months and 30 days, she'll be my wife.

 

We all make mistakes, we all run away. The grass always seems greener, until you experience it.

 

Don't get your hopes down too much, be strong. Hopefully you're just overly worrying and everything really is fine. But just know, and this is easier said than done, all will be fine in the end. God's always got a plan

[monkey1980]

Every fiber of my being is hoping for the best now. I just had the worst sleep ever in my life because I am physically and emotionally drained in trying to understand what is going on with her.

 

I have failed on so many occasions in previous relationships because of my overly sensitive and curious nature as to what the other person may be thinking, and I really felt that this woman was finally the one that would accept me for me and help guide me into making better decisions, and is far stronger than all that came before her and would be able to ride this out until the very end.

 

I want this woman in my life and want the chance to make our relationship work and be a happy one again, and it most certainly was just less than a week ago! It's killing me inside to not know what happened to make her change so suddenly towards me. It was only around then that she mentioned about being together in 40 years time and what we might both look and be like.

 

Maybe there were things beneath the surface that I was just unaware, stupid or too blind to see, but situations like this help you gain a special kind of clarity to know where I am failing in this relationship. There are definitely two or three things that I could well see being an issue now that maybe were things that were borderline okay with her before, but now not so much after what happened the other day.

 

I am close to just forcing the issue to see her later to ask her these things.

 

The last time we spent any meaningful time together was almost 2 weeks ago now, and prior to that...almost another 2 weeks. Maybe the writing was already close to being on the wall? Who knows.

 

I know this might be counter-productive and could drive her away further, but I need to know where I stand, even if I am not going to like it and it is going to hurt me so much. It's already hurting right now anyway.

 

Her seeing someone else or liking someone else was always the last thing on my mind. I have never seen this in her because of her religous background and her faith in God. She knows she would compromise these values massively if she were to ever do that, but now I am not so sure because she has near shut me out and is semi-expecting me to figure things out by myself.

 

She did mention I am a man full of secrets with her as well on the phone, where I know in my heart I have nothing else in my life that I am scared or worried about in divulging to her. She has taken all of what I am. My mind, body and soul are hers. Hence the preparations to propose to her in the summer.

 

I just don't know what's left to do short of calling her out completely on our relationship, but easier said than done when you have a feeling that she may just finish it completely and would have never given me the chance to work on things that I might have been unaware of in the first place.

 

I am trying to remain positive about the outcome, but until I see her properly again... I just can't say with a certainty what the future holds anymore.

 

You just don't find people in life like this so easily.

 

Sure, she is not perfect... this being a possibly a great example of that, but I am being flooded now of memories and times we shared together that make her so special to me, and are now making me dread the worst.

 

I could really do with God helping me out now and smiling in my direction today.

[ExpatInItaly]

Thanks for the replies.

 

It has helped somewhat, but now I feel more confused than ever.

 

We spoke on the phone this evening and she was okay to some level when talking to me but it feels like something is missing and she is not the kind, warm and caring person that she was this past weekend.

 

There was once a time where she asked me once, many months ago, what stuff I'd like her to work on to improve our relationship. I gave her my thoughts (nothing too serious) and she worked on those a bit more going forward.

 

I kind of asked for some reciprication tonight (mainly because of present circumstance) as I would like to know if there is something there, and that I kind of deserve the opportunity to know before it becomes completely irritating to her.

 

...well, I can't help but feel that time has come and gone.

 

To say I am missing her affection and warm, kind, caring personality to me is an understatement. Kind of feeling numb inside and close to being broken-hearted now that I may never be given the opportunity to make ammends for any mistake or improve as a person in this present relationship.

 

Simply put, this is the woman I wanted to marry, and I had been making concerted efforts recently to work on a proposal.

 

I now genuinely feel like something is completely irritating her and the biggest one may be the needyness that I have exhibited to her from time to time. It is a relationship killer, I know, and wish I could turn the clock back and had not done these things.

 

I guess my only option is to flat out ask her if something is wrong or how her feelings are toward me now, but want to do this in person when we next see eachother.

 

As things stand she has side-stepped that on a few occasions since the day we first had this issue.

 

I wish I could be positive about the outcome, but every part of my being now is sensing the opposite. If she really wanted to see me..she would make time for me, right?

 

Yes, she would. She doesn't want that right now. I have a feeling she's having a re-think on the relationship. Your task now is to give her some space for a little bit. Stop asking questions about the relationship for a couple weeks. Don't push her.

 

After a couple weeks, I would re-address it. She might find she needed some breathing space and didn't know how to communicate that to you. It's not all lost at this point. Consider whether this is the type of relationship you want. She appears to need much more alone time than you, which is going to a point of conflict in the future too.

[ExpatInItaly]

Every fiber of my being is hoping for the best now. I just had the worst sleep ever in my life because I am physically and emotionally drained in trying to understand what is going on with her.

 

I have failed on so many occasions in previous relationships because of my overly sensitive and curious nature as to what the other person may be thinking, and I really felt that this woman was finally the one that would accept me for me and help guide me into making better decisions, and is far stronger than all that came before her and would be able to ride this out until the very end.

 

I want this woman in my life and want the chance to make our relationship work and be a happy one again, and it most certainly was just less than a week ago! It's killing me inside to not know what happened to make her change so suddenly towards me. It was only around then that she mentioned about being together in 40 years time and what we might both look and be like.

 

Maybe there were things beneath the surface that I was just unaware, stupid or too blind to see, but situations like this help you gain a special kind of clarity to know where I am failing in this relationship. There are definitely two or three things that I could well see being an issue now that maybe were things that were borderline okay with her before, but now not so much after what happened the other day.

 

I am close to just forcing the issue to see her later to ask her these things.

 

The last time we spent any meaningful time together was almost 2 weeks ago now, and prior to that...almost another 2 weeks. Maybe the writing was already close to being on the wall? Who knows.

 

I know this might be counter-productive and could drive her away further, but I need to know where I stand, even if I am not going to like it and it is going to hurt me so much. It's already hurting right now anyway.

 

Her seeing someone else or liking someone else was always the last thing on my mind. I have never seen this in her because of her religous background and her faith in God. She knows she would compromise these values massively if she were to ever do that, but now I am not so sure because she has near shut me out and is semi-expecting me to figure things out by myself.

 

She did mention I am a man full of secrets with her as well on the phone, where I know in my heart I have nothing else in my life that I am scared or worried about in divulging to her. She has taken all of what I am. My mind, body and soul are hers. Hence the preparations to propose to her in the summer.

 

I just don't know what's left to do short of calling her out completely on our relationship, but easier said than done when you have a feeling that she may just finish it completely and would have never given me the chance to work on things that I might have been unaware of in the first place.

 

I am trying to remain positive about the outcome, but until I see her properly again... I just can't say with a certainty what the future holds anymore.

 

You just don't find people in life like this so easily.

 

Sure, she is not perfect... this being a possibly a great example of that, but I am being flooded now of memories and times we shared together that make her so special to me, and are now making me dread the worst.

 

I could really do with God helping me out now and smiling in my direction today.

 

So you have seen your girlfriend just twice in a month. Why so rarely?

 

Also, you are inadvertently putting too much pressure on her. You should never give yourself completely to another person. That makes you too dependent and leaves you with no real sense of who you are apart from her. Never a good strategy. it's not her job to complete you. That's your job.

 

If you want to salvage this, do not force the issue right now. You will not like the outcome.

[monkey1980]

So you have seen your girlfriend just twice in a month. Why so rarely?

 

Also, you are inadvertently putting too much pressure on her. You should never give yourself completely to another person. That makes you too dependent and leaves you with no real sense of who you are apart from her. Never a good strategy. it's not her job to complete you. That's your job.

 

If you want to salvage this, do not force the issue right now. You will not like the outcome.

 

Her sister was down for quite a significant proportion of that, so I don't bother her when her family are down or when she sees them. But with this in mind, I would have hoped we could have seen eachother just a little bit more between weeks.

 

I don't want to pressure her at all, and I rarely do as it happens, but I don't want her to feel like I don't care about things either.

 

I could easily go cold turkey and not call, text or arrange to meet up or whatever, but the real fear now is that with her present mindset about me (which kind of seems clear) she may find this the easiest route out of the relationship and this would devastate me further in trying to atone for my actions.

 

The balance between the two feels like such a fine line right now.

 

I think just seeing her and letting the talking flow naturally is what I want more than anything else. And you are of course right about not forcing things, hence my hesitation anyway with that line of reasoning.

 

What I would give just to have this all go away so I can focus on things again. As quite simply I was doing this before this all happened.

[GemmaUK]

I don't mean to sound mean but I think she is on her way out of this relationship.

 

From all you have posted you seem very needy and I suspect this s something she has attempted to address with you time and again. I suspect it took a while to sink in. She has also done her bit by addressing things that were a concern to you (though you didn't say what these issues were).

The point is that now you are reverting to type again whilst she has had her sister visiting.

All she is seeing is you reverting back to being needy and clingy and dependant upon her for your happiness in life.

 

She can't be just busy without it being a huge issue for you.

 

I dated a man who was very clingy and needy and it just became no fun at all.

I kept saying 'give me a chance to miss you' and he never did get it for anything more than a day or two at a time and he would be right back to square one again.

 

In his mind any 'free time' I had should be available for him to occupy.

His idea of what my free time was was 'any time that I wasn't working at my desk and the hours when he was asleep at night'.

What this meant for me was that any chores I had to do or meals I had to eat were not my own time. They were irrelevant to him and I consistently had to explain that things like these took time out of my day and were essential things that I had to do.

It was exhausting to keep up, explain all of the damn time what I was doing and why I was doing it.

 

One thing I attempted was to agree to 'date night' so that we had a few nights a week where I could set aside time, be awake, know that I had the next night to get all my chores done and that I could just have some time to myself on other nights without feeling like I had to be there to entertain him.

He said just 'no'. He said I will always be there waiting for a call every night of the week and if you can't call you will have to tell me.

This resulted in me having to tell him I wouldn't make a call - then I had to explain why - then I had to explain how long what I was doing would take and the chance of him accepting that maybe I wanted to watch a half hour tv show or read a few pages of a book was basically out of the question.

I ended up just feeling guilty for doing anything.

When we did have calls and I had said I was too tired he would be surprised when I came on the phone and sounded tired. He expected me to be bouncy and upbeat all of the time - which is tough when you are under so much pressure.

The main pressure in my life at that time was him.

I think he thought I was seeing someone else. I wasn't. I didn't have any time to even if I had wanted to (I've never cheated in my life btw).

I even pulled myself off all social media as he would literally wait and watch for me being online anywhere and then contact me within seconds.

 

You are putting all of the pressure for your happiness onto your gf just like my ex did with me.

You are also probably being OK for a few days and going right back to smothering for the next few days. She can't see this cycle ending so is withdrawing.

I'd never had a RS before like it and I never want one again.

[Cicerone]

Her seeing someone else or liking someone else was always the last thing on my mind. I have never seen this in her because of her religous background and her faith in God. She knows she would compromise these values massively if she were to ever do that, but now I am not so sure because she has near shut me out and is semi-expecting me to figure things out by myself.

 

I just want to point this exact thing out, my woman too is a woman of God.

Little did I know, she was distancing herself from me not only because she didn't think she'd be moving back from her internship, but because this guy was the new guy in her eyes. Flirting, hanging out, eventually ended up sleeping with one another once. So just know that. My girl seems so serious about being Christian and God, but we all do make mistakes..

[Cicerone]

I could really do with God helping me out now and smiling in my direction today.

 

Open up your arms and ask God for more faith. He'll give you more. He is helping with you right now, but he can only do so much. If you truly love this girl, you're going to have to let her go if she does end up leaving you. Time and time again in my situation (because gosh, seems like such twin scenarios) people said she wouldn't come back, I thought the same. I was crushed. I couldn't eat, think, or sleep without thinking of her while she was over there living life and being fine. Maybe she needs to venture out a little bit, experience new life.. Maybe she'll come running back.

[Redhead14]

Been with my girlfriend for almost a year and half and we've had such an amazing relationship in that time.

 

There has been the occasional emotional disagreement or 'talk' if you like, but last night on the phone I called her out for being a little bit dismissive of my feelings when she left work the other day (we work at the same place occasionally). She took that a bit personal and I was trying so hard last night to repair the damage when she later on in the call said she was confused.

 

I was acting like an insecure and needy man at this point and was trying my best to say things that would make her perk up a bit about me and her and our feelings towards one another.

 

She thought she was responsible for making me sad or unhappy and I tried to reassure her that this was not the case.

 

She said I need to be more positive about things and stop overthinking or overanalyzing situations. I agreed with this as its always been a character flaw of mine, which I am well aware of.

 

The call fizzled out late on and we said goodnight to eachother. Not in our usual lovey-dovey or nice way.

 

Now I know for a fact she is not one to give up so easily on us after last night, but even today on the phone she was quite distant with me after last night. She said she has a busy day ahead until the evening and wouldn't be able to catch up until then at best. So I will obviously leave her to it.

 

I don't want to lose her through my own faults and flaws with how I handle relationships. I try my best to make the right choices and say the right things, but I can sometimes come unstuck and say something I regret.

 

How do I move this forward? She doesn't like it when I say sorry to her as she often tells me I have nothing to say sorry for.

 

But I can't help but feel that way as I have put her 'needlessly' on the spot with this, and all I want now more than anything in the world is to make it right and not worry that our relationship is on the slow road to decline.

 

Would absolutely kill me to lose her now after putting so much energy into her and knowing that this would be the one that got away if it messes up now.

 

I am so lost.

 

Give her some space. Plenty of space. Let her reach out to you first. And, only respond in kind. In other words, respond to whatever she talks about, don't mention the issue or the relationship unless she does. Do not apologize again. If she mentions your neediness, etc. You tell her that you love her and respect the relationship and that you understand the problem and will make an effort to stop overanalyzing, overthinking etc. And, let it drop.

 

And, then actually stop overanalyzing, overthinking and being needy. Let her see over time that you are working on this.

[monkey1980]

Just thought I'd come back to this and mention that everything is great between us.

 

I'll admit I was very worried about our recent issues, but the last few weeks have been amazing in the sense that I know in my heart what I need to do to make it work now.

 

Will do whatever I can to just go with the flow and make a concious choice to not ever mess things up.

 

I want to marry this woman.

[omegangster]

After what all you shared the girl seems to be quite mature. She will definitely take some time but will get back to you don't worry. What all you need to do is to put on your efforts. Take her on a romantic date so that you both may feel refreshed.