confusedgirl91 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Hi! I'm very confused, need guidance. So, I have been friends with this guy for a few months and we're very close. We're both attracted to each other, neither of us are seeing other people or want to see other people, and we generally act like a couple. But this is the problem. He said once, a few weeks back, he felt himself falling for me, but he quickly covered it up and changed the subject. He hasn't mentioned it since. But this guy has said repeatedly, and he wont change his mind, that he just does not want a relationship. Not just with me, but with anyone. He has had bad relationships in the past and he just doesnt feel capable of being happy in a relationship..apparently. I dont want to force the issue, but I have fallen for him. And right now I feel like we're just stuck in limbo, not moving on with other people because we just want each other, but not being together either. It's really messing with my head. Either way, something has to be done. So what do I do?? Help :(
Toodaloo Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 But this guy has said repeatedly, and he wont change his mind, that he just does not want a relationship. And right now I feel like we're just stuck in limbo, not moving on with other people because we just want each other, but not being together either. It's really messing with my head. Either way, something has to be done. So what do I do?? Help :( You back off and slowly cut contact. You allow yourself to heal and then you pick yourself up and move on. You find new hobbies, new social scenes, new friends etc... you join classes, go go and get fit and eat healthily. Sounds simple but its heard work and heart breaking. But you have to do it or you will waste your life away on nothing. The only person who can change this is you. Good luck. You are not in a good place. I hope you are brave enough to change it.
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