Bobbi7 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Everything was going fine until earlier in the year...I always initiated contact until one day he told me that I was messaging him too much. I was like wth? He never had a problem with it before. He told me that he was going to text me when he's free. Well, it's been 3 months and he hasn't texted me. His online dating profile is still active and checks on it weekly, he always had it active, so he doesn't have a serious girlfriend. I've been trying to contact him through text and phone calls.. Nothing. Not even a "leave me alone" "not interested" nothing even smart. 1
stillafool Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Bobbi he is not interested anymore and has made it clear. I'm sorry but please move on.
stillafool Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Because he feels any response would be leading you on and he doesn't want to do that. 1
Satu Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Yeah... But why not respond back??? Because he's not interested in you anymore.
Toodaloo Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 He is a FB no more. Thats all you were to him. He has lost interest as they do in these situations and moved on. You should to and stop stalking him. He has made it abundantly clear he does not want any contact with you. 1
mammasita Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 because you were just sex, it got old and/or he decided he was ready to find something serious. 2
Perrier Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 OP he has gone. This is what happens with FWB. Never be the one initiating contact all the time with a man. You will get the message he gave you. Move on. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 He's probably got his eye on someone else. Whatever the case, you need to stop contacting him. He's already moved on; you should start doing the same. 1
Author Bobbi7 Posted May 26, 2015 Author Posted May 26, 2015 I think it's just rude! 2 years? It wasn't a one night stand.... I don't understand how hard it is to tell someone. 1
Emilia Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 I think it's just rude! 2 years? It wasn't a one night stand.... I don't understand how hard it is to tell someone. He has told you in many ways, you just chose to ignore that. 4
mammasita Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Sure its rude, but that's the whole premise of FWB. They're dispensable. Out with the old in with the new at the drop of a dime. No explanation necessary because the "relationship" comes without the bells and whistles of actually caring about the other person to the point of wanting to take the time to explain anything. No strings attached. Precisely why, IMO, FWB is a silly arrangement because one person always fails to understand the reality of it and gets caught up. 2
Jessie1231 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 I think it's just rude! 2 years? It wasn't a one night stand.... I don't understand how hard it is to tell someone. He's told you that you message too much which is basically saying leave him alone. He told you he would contact you instead which he didn't which is also telling you to leave him alone. He has responded, just not in the way that you want him to. 1
Satu Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 It's a waste of time even thinking about this. He owes you nothing, and that's exactly what he's given you. FWB is not the way to go if you're looking for someone who cares about you and values you. 1
mightycpa Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 I don't think you were really friends. You were just to his benefit. Now you're not. When I had FWB's, we actually did things together. We went to parties, sporting events, dinners, etc. It was like dating, but without an expectation of attachment or commitment. It wasn't just sex. Did you have that? Doesn't sound like it. 1
Toodaloo Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 It is rude but that is what FB and FWB is normally about. Its just a label that effectively says I am using you for sex and that is it. These things rarely work out. They are good for a while then one or other wants out and the other take offence. Because of the casual nature it is a case of dropping you like hot cakes... Go find someone who values you and more importantly start valuing yourself. I will be honest. A few weeks ago I tried to have sex with someone that I didn't have an emotional connection with - it was an absolute disaster. Never, ever again.
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