birdie79 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 I don't really know where to start.... Ok, my boyfriend of almost 2 years hasn't worked or contributed financially despite living with me and my 4 children from my prev marriage, ever. I have also paid probably into 2,000 for things he has wanted and said he'd pay back, holidays, hobbies etc. He smokes cannabis and plays video games every day, but as he has reduced it since we had our now 5 month old twins he says I have no reason to criticise. his attitude is lazy and if anything doesn't go his way he is very angry and aggressive, not physically towards me but not nice to witness. He is 35. Before we met he lived with his mum, she still bales him out too. He hates my mum and has stopped her coming to my house, hates it when I visit her with babies. He tells me he loves me all the time. He pinches and tickles me and slaps my bum hard all the time, hard to the point of irritation. Since having his babies 6 months ago I have got up with them every morning at 5/6/7 he doesn't surface til 10/11or12. He says I'm too soft on my kids, my 4 year old in particular and doesn't seem to appreciate that they are great kids at all. We are very short of money and i have taken an occasional job which is as much as I can handle while looking after 6 young children & a house, and him. He does nothing around the house and said he wont clean up after 'some other guys kids'. Ugghhh. I'm sure there's more but this I getting very long. Any advice appreciated thanks. Think I know what I need to do bit trying to gain soe strength.
StalwartMind Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Kick his royal heinie into gear, I'd feel rather bad if I showed anyone that kind of attitude. I'm well aware some people just don't have the drive or motivation, but the longer you tolerate someone's poor behavior then they'll just continue if there are no consequences. Unfortunately so I'm afraid. At times it's sort of baffling to see adults have a worse maturity than that of a fair disciplined 10 year old. I don't aim this directly at him, just in general from things I've seen. Either way you need to find out a way to get him to contribute both financially and also otherwise within the household, else things can easily derail to worse. I'll gladly come and give him a viking nudge if it should be required...actually I think I'll start a little side business where people can hire me to come kick their partners into an upper gear. (All humor within this post shall be taken with a grain of salt, no offense or harm intended)
joseb Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Wow he sounds like a keeper Seriously, can you explain why it is you are still with him, other than the tickling? 1
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