thoughts on how to proceed

[chowmander]

So community friends, i got a situation i'd like to share and get on insight from everyone

i'm a 29M and shez a 28F, living in same city.

met about a 18 months ago via mutual friends and havent really communicate much untill about 3 months ago i started getting in touch more with her. below are some facts

 

- we talk on daily basis vie texting (never phonecall, personally not a phonecall person). Both of us don't reply instantly due to our jobs and of course neither of us seem to have a big issue over it.

- i initate most of the getting together invitation ( i suggest it 3 times and she does once?) and she hasn't rejected so far only due to family issues nor has she flaked out.

-when we go out, she is quite persistant on insisting to split bills or movie tickets.

-limited physical contact when we are out (i hunch my back sometimes and she smacks my back when she see it, does that count?)

-neither of us bring up to our common friends that we see each other outside of the group.(not sure if good or bad sign)

 

I do want to take it to the next level, but i believe some signs are showing that she's not showing mutual interest and is just being friendly??

 

would love some thoughts on how to proceed or just share some similar cases or stories

 

sorry for the long post

[d0nnivain]

She is your friend & has no interest in being your GF. You can either tolerate the status quo or walk away but I doubt you will be able to convince her to date you. Sorry.

[computersandsuch]

I have a female friend that sounds a lot like her. Your friend is not interested. If she insists on paying, she wants you to know she's just a friend. I'm an optimist when it comes to romance, but the best advice I can give you is keep your options open and don't get hung up on one girl like I've done so many times.

[deadelvis]

read the subtle non-verbal cues. If she likes you it's very obvious.