annie0677 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 I love you all and I believe that deep down everyone is a very nice person. Sometimes we get caught up in life situations that do not bring out the best in us, or makes us do things that we would never otherwise do. Relationships are tricky. Its not as simple as it looks. So if you are here, you have definitely experienced it first hand. I am leaving this community today, as I think I could not get the right support I was looking for. Of course, we all make our mistakes, and do things that were not meant to be down in a certain way. But then life does not come with a Hand book or a Guide. Its al-right to make mistakes and realize that life does not end here. And it does NOT mean that you are a bad person. If you have loved someone and have been hurt, do not let that stop you from loving your own self. Stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself. Look in your eyes, and tell yourself that you are beautiful.You are a good person, and the reflection that you are looking at in front of you is that of a nice person. Its al-right to sit and cry over people whom we loved and who could not love us back or respect is for whom we are. Don't let it make you sad. You have a lot of potential within you. In this reflection of your self in the mirror, look at yourself and yourself alone without the shadow of a broken or a hurtful relationship. That shadow of another MAN/WOMAN is not you...that is certainly not you. You are amazing as who you are individually. You alone are special. Take a bath and remove the hurt from yourself, and remove the pain of a broken heart. And please don't let anyone judge you for what has happened. Don't let the social norms of the world make you feel bad about yourself. Don't let anything make you feel bad about yourself. Tell yourself that NO ONE has a right to judge you based on what they think is right or wrong. And you also don't judge anyone. Hearts break- its a part of life. We run into people and give our best to them, only to realize that they never loved us back...move on. Let them be where they are, but gather yourself and move on towards something better. Do what brings out the best in you...it may be your job, it may be someone else, it may be following a passion or a hobby, but don't stop. Like ants that keep working and building their little ant hill...keep working towards something, even if you want to sit down and cry. Be with people who need you as a person, may be a group like Make a Wish Foundation - that cares for sick children, or helping your local community with something. Stand on the street and distribute flowers, or chocolates, or do anything. But be with people who can love you and appreciate you, not with the ones who never understood you and could never love you. We are in 21st Century ..don't get fooled by the notion that you need a MAN or a WOMAN to full-fill you. That is bull****. You are complete within yourself. Yes, its great to be in a relationship where you are loved, but then, you don't need person who can't love you back. Its been 8 months since I have broken away from everyone. I am alone, yes, it hurts. But then, I am not in any fake relationship. I am not begging to be loved from someone who does not love me. I respect everyone, I respect my ex-husband to gracefully let me go. Things happen for a good reason.. even when you are crying on your bed with the lights turned off. Thinks of things that you can do with your life. Earn money, be rich, help people, be nice to others, help those in need, love children and animals, they need so much of love, make this world a better place to live. Make goals for your life. with only your own self. When you find yourself crying, make yourself a hot chocolate, or a coffee, whatever makes you feel better, go out, see the world, people...its al-right to cry. This too shall pass. Remember, when someone dumps you or hurts you, its just to give you options to do amazing things with your own life. Relationships that are not meant to be just bind us down and never make us completely happy. I won't say its their loss...coz I don't care whose loss it is. Well, what matters is, that don't lose you precious life and precious days for someone who could never care for you. Don't judge anyone. Don't judge your own self. Relationship mistakes, relationship hurt, relationship pain....well, all this is a part of learning and life. Learn from your experience and build your own way of life. Stop listening to the world, listen to your own self. Believe in universal laws of truth, honesty and respect. Don't let the social rules of your community, religion or society kill you with guilt. IT IS AL-RIGHT. Be nice to people. Every one has challenges in their lives so be nice to everyone. But, don't put up with people who hurt you, your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, whoever. Don't put up with anyone who does not love you and makes you sad. Trust me, life is not bad when you are alone. Look at its options and trust me you still have a lot of potential. God bless you. Believe in God. Listen to music that calms you down, love yourself. Don't cry. I wish I could be there next to you to wipe your tears and hug you tight and make a nice warm coffee for you (I make good coffee), but I am not. So, wipe your tears, hold yourself tight and make a cup of coffee. ITS AL-RIGHT. We are good people who won't hurt anyone intentionally. Leave everything behind and make plans for a beautiful life that's in front of you. Well, I want to buy a boat this year, and a house, and a bigger car. Its difficult coz I have given away my 12 years earnings to my husband as a compensation for the hurt that happened, but its okay. I believe in God and I know I may have to work harder than before to earn it all again, but I will. I will. And I will live with dignity without hurting anyone and getting hurt myself. God bless you all, and good bye. This community wasn't for me! 1
Davey L Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 I'm sorry that you don't feel you got the help you needed, or wanted, here. Personally I think that most of the responses you got to your earlier post were reasonable. Yes, some people are very black-and-White about cheating, but everything I saw posted was meant to be helpful and to give you advice you needed, even if it wasn't wanted. I really hope things work out right for you. Good luck!
madjac74 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 You heard things you didn't want to hear and obviously couldn't handle it. Take your ball and go home
ltjg45 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 You heard things you didn't want to hear and obviously couldn't handle it. Take your ball and go home When responses like this appear, I really don't blame people like the OP to leave. That is cold, no matter if the OP didn't like the advice given to her or not.
Hawaii51 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 You may not take much from this forum, but it read's like you might be able to add something. And.. my personal opinion, you should probably steer more eastern in your studies, you have a natural inclination.
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