Author GTR King Posted May 26, 2015 Author Posted May 26, 2015 Drinking is fine but not every weekened once a month (Maybe 2 times a month at most) How we supposed to spend time with them if they are always drinking?? Also they if they can't take care of them selfs e.g keeping clean/brushing teeth etc then thats a big no no for me. They must be good at saving/keeping money
bebe23 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 (edited) It's been a while, I haven't been single since the mid-90's but this is what I remember: Bad teeth Smoker Tattoos Beards (goatees are fine) Long hair Too redneck/low class (Rednecks with a college education but still like country music, huntin' and fishin' is perfectly fine!) Drinker/druggie/barfly Arrogance- talking too much about himself Very obese (but I like chubby men) Very scrawny (but I like thin men) Lives with Mommy Has a minimum wage McJob (but when I was in my 20's this was okay, because everyone my age had it even with a degree. It was only bad if the guy can't get any better job.) Edited May 26, 2015 by bebe23
Author GTR King Posted May 26, 2015 Author Posted May 26, 2015 minium wage job don't bother me at all
alphamale Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 How we supposed to spend time with them if they are always drinking?? that is an alcoholic, their first love is the bottle 1
Author GTR King Posted May 26, 2015 Author Posted May 26, 2015 (edited) yeah that is true last girl i dated liked to go out most weekends drunk way more than me. I go out once or twice a month at most Edited May 26, 2015 by GTR King 2
Omei Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 (edited) Smoking/badteeth- means you smell at all times Punctuality- everyone's time is valuable Drugs- anything besides green is no no. Partying- unless its casual like a drink after work or once and a while like twice a month those days are over for me and I could never keep up. Large Egos and Ex talk- If they boast way too much and rather talk about themselves than get to know me. Ex talk longer than what's needed to know I don't need to hear every story about you and your ex. Being over 25 and not even having a part time job- this isn't a deal breaker but it makes me wonder they better be doing some serious schooling or courses. Piercings facial/body and gauged ears- Just don't like men with this but small earrings is okay. Having a dysfunctional family- tried that twice they both lacked in what was appropriate towards other people in the social aspects, rather date a nice guy without a family or a nice guy with a stable family Bad hygiene and guys who smother their hair in gel so it ends up looking like bad hygiene Guys who keep ex's close- Just wont do it unless its been a friendship of years and they have their own partner. So many people here have tattoo's listed :/ well done tattoo's can be really beautiful I do get kinda turned off by people who have poorly done artwork you usually see them on the less fortunate, faded, bulky black crooked tattoo's are a turn off for me because I like them so much. Edited May 26, 2015 by Omei
candie13 Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 - liars - being judgmental - non monogamists - not wanting children - lack of social life / active hobbies - other than playing games on pc - lack of generosity - and I do not mean money, but time and efforts - lack of altruism - having a good heart is much appreciated - selfishness - cheaters / womanizers / party animals / drunks / drug addicts - lack of sensitivity - I click best with people with a mild artistic touch - or at least appreciating art / music / photography - lack of decent relationships with his parents - no friends - that says something about their character - too good RS with the exes - that shows lack of authenticity. if 2 people dated, it's that they were involved at some point. if it's over, it's for a reason. I also think a guy badmouthing his exes is also a red flag - lack of energy and lack of tolerance for people who have a lot of energy - lack of spontaneity - or not tolerating spontaneity - I have a lot of that too - avoiding fights: there will be fights. might as well be a grown up and face them - hates music - I love music and concerts - unable to handle a strong character - it just won't work, because I will eventually lose my cool. Not today, not for the first 3 -6 months. But I will lose it at some point and he should be able to handle me, at my worst. And I can be one mean smartass - unable to tolerate independence - in thinking, in acting, etc. I don't need my man to agree in everything with me, but I do need him to tolerate my thinking differently and my having a life - my own set of friends, hobbies, need of alone time, etc - manipulators, mind f*ckers, gas lighters - men who don't know themselves - most of those haven't worked through their past, most of the times - men who don't talk about themselves - not telling the truth is just as bad as lying, sometimes worst - men who are not spiritual - or do not have faith in a higher ground - men who don't stand up for what they believe in - men wanting to be pushed around or mistreated / seeking a master, not a lover; I treat men nicely,maybe to nicely - man lacking initiative - I'm a planner and a do-er, While I enjoy participating, I don't want to be the only one taking action; somewhat linked to spontaneity - control freaks - men who expect to have everything their way, who want to make the decisions for the couple - there will be talks and negotiations, even vetos if they date me - men who don't respect women's opinions, desires, career, hobbies, friends, time etc: I'm a full grown adult demanding respect. if they seek a companion who just tags along, they should get a dog, not a gf - men who dislike talking or debating - I'm a big communicator 1
Author GTR King Posted May 27, 2015 Author Posted May 27, 2015 If a girl lies or don't tell the truth that also put me off e.g gone on 1-3 dates then says she has a kid can't she say it at the beginning. also when she losses interest not don't wanna see me any more would rather know why so I can move on etc
alphamale Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 e.g gone on 1-3 dates then says she has a kid can't she say it at the beginning. most of the chicks i've dated are pretty up-front about kids. usually their kids are #1
Erised Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Someone who was devotedly religious. It is too different from my perspective, and I must (to reevaluate what a previous poster said) wonder about a person who can only do good because they think they're being watched by an invisible sky daddy. Dishonesty Lack of insight to current and past faults Lack of passion (job or hobby or issues) Lack of drive to learn Treats people poorly Poor grammar/spelling Materialistic Not skeptical/believes in pseudoscience and woo Doesn't read Hipster 1
Author GTR King Posted May 28, 2015 Author Posted May 28, 2015 alphamale really some girls have but most won't tell you until you start talking to them for a little bit. That's what i have found out when dating girls
acrosstheuniverse Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 (edited) No job Lives with parents Right-wing political views Has a religion Lack of passion Takes any illegal drugs, or drinks to excess Not into music Doesn't want kids Actively dislikes kids (I don't want my own for a few years but have nephews I adore and spend a lot of time with and another niece and nephew on the way... if a guy can't even come along and make an effort to get to know them even if kids aren't 'his thing' then it's just not gonna work) Mocks other people's beliefs and cultures That's about it really. The other stuff I can work with... but these are absolute dealbreakers. Edited May 28, 2015 by acrosstheuniverse
joseb Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 People who have really long lists of things they don't want in a person
deadelvis Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Ha! this is funny to me... The things I look for in a partner are Smoking Tattoos Drinking Drugs Piercings (I hate children, so we can agree on that) Sounds like we must be soul mates. Pick you up at 8?
deadelvis Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 i was only half serious. the things I really avoid are fat chicks rap music (see: fat chicks) missing teeth a penis ugly face UG boots swastika tattoos visible herpes (this can be negotiable) married (unless he's in prison) kids (I hate children) necrophelia sparkle designs on her jeans AIDS or HIV
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