Princess24 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 I met this guy online 2 months ago and we met for first time he asked me out , It is marriage website and I am looking for serious relationship only I am 30 he is 29 , first time when we met I figured he is speed dating girls , and I personally don't like immature young guys , so we talked and I intentionally left in 30 minutes only . Then for 15 days , he disappeared , I didn't bother much either . he contacts after 2 weeks and I refused , I said I am busy and bla bla and told him since you disappeared it shows you are not serious enough to see me . He insisted and said he wants to spend some quality time with me , we went for movie and dinner. After that we met 2 more times , and he was all over me , how much he likes me , doing all sweet talks , I moved to new place , he even offered help in moving but I didn't take any help . Here comes my mistake , we kissed on Third date passionately as there was lot of heat between us , and after 4-5 dates , he came over to my place and we slept together for first time , after that he will come over to my place most of the time and I didn't mind that either , I will cook for him , breakfast , lunch and dinner , he was impressed with the way I keep my house and take care of him , he will always mention you have everything I want in woman , this is like my wife . Perfect hostess , Takes care of me , respect family and have good job. Never seen such perfect woman bla bla .He even started saying lets move in together , I said are you out of your mind , it is too early , we just met , take time . Then in between we went out twice , but when we go out his attitude was different like he will be silent most the time or just in his own world . May be I was reading too much into It but I could feel the distance , I told him once and he said it will take time for both of us to get comfortable completely. then second time we go out , and I asked oh I am going to change my whatsapp picture and upload this new one , he goes but I am in that picture , he was hesitant if I will put pic with him . I was upset as he sugar coat lot of good things about me when we are at my place , where he stayed most the time and I cooked for him . We come back home and I was angry , and we had this heated argument where I mentioned him when we go out you are totally different person and at home you say 100 good things about me like I am your wife . he said I am just too tied up with work issues and need next 1-2 months , and I had asked you for time earlier , in argument I said unnecessary things about his live-in past ,I have huge problem with that , and I hate it you lived with someone for 2 years . He did console me and tried to show I don't need to feel insecure and he is not seeing anyone coz he is at my place most the time and he left. That's it , he disappeared since then , its been one week now , I realized I shouldn't have used some words , I messaged next day no response , I called day after no answer , I called from different number , he answered but was confused didn't know what to say , he hung up saying I cant right now but I will call you in night , no call . Next day again I followed up by text , he replied I do want to Talk in person but I am really tied up with things and I want to keep things simple between us and I need next 2 months to sort out my things . I wanted Love you game me all that , you are nice person but I feel sorry I am stressed and when I meet you I don't feel happy coz I am lost. I will make things ok soon , don't think negative . I told him you could have told m earlier and I would have understood and would have given you space , no worries , take your time. My friends said , it is an excuse , you think for 2 months he is super busy and wont have time to see you for 10 minutes , i said he is pissed off coz i demanded attention and i shouldn't have expected too much too early , I sent him long text again , as i saw he updated his dating profile and pictures so it was clear lie . I told him how much i cared for you , how i cooked , how i held you in my arms , bla bla and you just walked away brutally over one argument and you were talking about marriage ? i even said Goodluck for your future , no hard feeling . In a way i broke up , he replied , he will talk about it soon . He still didn't admit Sure , goodluck to you too . And there is this silence now , its killing me , i miss him badly. I am 100% sure , since he updated his dating profile , he has started seeing other girls . But why this coward doesn't tell me it was nice spending time with you and it wont work out . He wants to keep me as option ? He is confused ? He is genuinely busy or what the heck ? I am so scared , i am not dating anyone now , i cared so much for him , i treated him as my baby , he will hold me whole night and sleep . I should mention he had broken up with someone 4 months ago only and i was hesitant to date him , but he said he is over it and chased me so i went out with him. Please suggest , why he didn't break up officialy , may be coz we dated month only , but he was saying big things to me . and i could see attraction. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 His communication has been less than clear throughout this whole thing. Most people hate being the bad guy; hence he's trying to disappear rather than say the words to make a clean break. I understand that you want to be married but perhaps slow your emotions & libido down a bit.
Author Princess24 Posted May 27, 2015 Author Posted May 27, 2015 His communication has been less than clear throughout this whole thing. Most people hate being the bad guy; hence he's trying to disappear rather than say the words to make a clean break. I understand that you want to be married but perhaps slow your emotions & libido down a bit. Thanks for the reply , so this guy after I contacted him again , officially broke up with me day before yesterday saying . I am sorry I don't want to give you any false hope about future , you were nice , bla bla .... and I said I don't agree with your reason but anyways , God will do justice with time .... Very Next day , in noon at 4 PM I receive his message "How are you doing" , I was surprised , because he just broke up with me yesterday , I didn't reply coz I thought he is just covering his guilt. Then another Text midnight at 12 AM , "Missing You" , I am assuming he wants booty call. How would one breakup yesterday and next day sends how are you and missing you message in night , it doesn't make any sense , I am guessing its all BS , but please pour your suggestions. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 You nailed it: booty call. I'd ignore & block. Then move on.
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