arsenaluefa10s Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 (edited) This is a little of my story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/526873-i-like-girl-who-used-liked-me-we-haven-t-talk-year-there-still-chance After a year, now I am reconnecting with her again. It first started by she saying hi to me when I like her old fb picture, then we keeps texting each other regularly for about a month now. There is 1-2 times where she response my text slowly and doesn't seems want to talk (idk maybe she's playing some games with me), but mostly she response immediately whenever I text her, even when she's studying or busy with something else, she stopped whatever she do to talk with me. She makes an effort to keep the conversation going, everything seems to go really well. My feeling for her is getting stronger and stronger everyday. I am not sure whether or not she still has the feeling for me, so I wanted to ask her on a date and find out. However, there's one problem. I don't think I am ready for a relationship and this suck. At first I was not going to reconnect with her until the end of the year or next year until my problems is sorted out. She randomly text me then I cannot stop myself to talk to her. I'm scared that she would not wait for me. I'm scared that I would lose her before I’m ready. I really don't know whether or not I should ask her out for a date or continue talking to her. My family is financially struggling right now and the girl I like is from a rich family. My family used to have money too (about middle class), we used to be in the same class(I guess), cause both of us used to went to the same school, but right now my family is not doing well and we've been seriously struggling for about 3 years now. In addition, if this relationship is to happen it would be a long distance relationship. Me and her are no longer in the same country. She continues her college abroad. So if she still like me and said yes to me our relationship would be long distance and this is really expensive. I think I can afford it, but that would take a lot of work and I could be stress. I don't think my problem would be solves for at least 6-12 months. What should I do. Should I go for her and be honest with her about my feeling and situation right now? Or should I stop and wait until I'm ready? I really don't know what to do right now. I don't want to hurt her feeling again for the second times. Sorry, for bad english Edited May 25, 2015 by arsenaluefa10s
Natalie8 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Why do you think it matters to her what financial situation your family is in? Do you depend on your parents financially? Would you be able to visit her in a other country or would the relationship entirely consist of talking on the phone/ skype? Are you not even ready for that? I always thought if a guy really liked a girl there wont be such thing as not being ready The right person doesnt always come along when everything in our life is ready and sorted..and sometimes waiting for everything to be in order means losing that person. Only you can decide what to do I think you should tell her how you feel. But i also think it is not fair on her to suggest that she waits for you.
Author arsenaluefa10s Posted May 26, 2015 Author Posted May 26, 2015 (edited) Why do you think it matters to her what financial situation your family is in? Do you depend on your parents financially? Would you be able to visit her in a other country or would the relationship entirely consist of talking on the phone/ skype? Are you not even ready for that? I always thought if a guy really liked a girl there wont be such thing as not being ready The right person doesnt always come along when everything in our life is ready and sorted..and sometimes waiting for everything to be in order means losing that person. Only you can decide what to do I think you should tell her how you feel. But i also think it is not fair on her to suggest that she waits for you. Yes, I'm still a college student, I do have my own income but not much. I think I can afford it, but sometimes I'm scared that I could mess everything up. Plus, I felt inferior. Anyway, thank you, I made up my mind I'll tell her honestly and see what happen. Edited May 26, 2015 by arsenaluefa10s
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