Moley87 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Morning all on LS hope everyone is feeling positive today x Interesting reaction from ex yesterday on the basis her best friend and I are good friends and the ex hasn't had an issue with this since BU ( she is engaged so no dodgy play going on lol) however have now been in no contact with the ex for 2 weeks and yesterday got angry with her best friend for speaking with me ? Strange as its never been an issue before ? Girls any reason for this reaction ?
FancyFace Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 You shouldnt place too much emphasis on how your ex girlfriend reacts to anything. In the grander scheme of things, it pretty much means nothing because at the end of the day, you guys are still broken up and you still have to go through the process of moving on and healing. Also, if you are really following NC, why do you know what your ex's reaction to anything is? 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Morning all on LS hope everyone is feeling positive today x Interesting reaction from ex yesterday on the basis her best friend and I are good friends and the ex hasn't had an issue with this since BU ( she is engaged so no dodgy play going on lol) however have now been in no contact with the ex for 2 weeks and yesterday got angry with her best friend for speaking with me ? Strange as its never been an issue before ? Girls any reason for this reaction ? That's their problem, not yours. However, you really should be carrying on with total, strict No Contact. And being in touch with her friend, is NOT 'No Contact'. That gives you indirect access to your ex, and drip-feeds you news she may not want to share. In essence, you are breaking the deal. Frankly, I can understand why she is annoyed. 2
Author Moley87 Posted May 25, 2015 Author Posted May 25, 2015 This isn't about the ex if I'm honest I'm not to bothered how she reacts but obv this wasn't an issue so seems strange she now is reacting to her friend like this ? The background is the ex's best friend is also a close friend of mine so contact will always be there and I don't plan to lose mutual friends due to the ex Just what would of sparked the response for the ex to react to her friend now ?
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Just what would of sparked the response for the ex to react to her friend now ? They're both women. There is an unspoken sense of loyalty and the frisson of assumed or suspected attraction. She sees it as her "sistah" betraying her by still being open to contact with you. If you like, it's a 'gurl' thing. You just don't keep overly friendly with the guy you are done with. So neither should your 'gurlfriend'. (And it's 'would HAVE'.....)
Lizrd3000 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Stop over analyzing. Let it go. If you don't really care, than it's all the easier to let it go. Analyzing might only possibly hurt you. It's not worth it. Let it go
joseb Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Stop over analyzing. Let it go. If you don't really care, than it's all the easier to let it go. Analyzing might only possibly hurt you. It's not worth it. Let it go Sounds to me like you do care, or you wouldn't be wondering. Stay NC, tell your mutual friend that you do not want to hear anything about your ex from now on.
Author Moley87 Posted May 25, 2015 Author Posted May 25, 2015 They're both women. There is an unspoken sense of loyalty and the frisson of assumed or suspected attraction. She sees it as her "sistah" betraying her by still being open to contact with you. If you like, it's a 'gurl' thing. You just don't keep overly friendly with the guy you are done with. So neither should your 'gurlfriend'. (And it's 'would HAVE'.....) Yeah apology for the bad grammar haha but get the above but this was all agreed by both of them and upto now the ex hadn't had an issue with us talking but just randomly changed ? Isn't anything flirty or anything it's literally just civil friendly comments
Author Moley87 Posted May 25, 2015 Author Posted May 25, 2015 Sounds to me like you do care, or you wouldn't be wondering. Stay NC, tell your mutual friend that you do not want to hear anything about your ex from now on. Well I'm not overally concerned but I don't want the situation turning awkward or nasty so ideally i would like some advice on what provoked the change of thought if you get me No contact remains with the ex and will but I would be interested to know the thinkkng behind it just so I don't cause unnecessary situations especially as the mutual friend circle is very close
elaine567 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Just what would of sparked the response for the ex to react to her friend now ? It is an awkward situation, and her best friend (bf) by speaking to you, is "consorting with the enemy", so she is going to be upset. Break ups often necessitate that sides need taken, a bf needs to be there and listen to the rants and the bitchiness and agree at the right time. The real best friend (bf) ...................................... the ex:He was a B*stard, the bf: Yes, he was, remember that time he stood you up. the ex: Oh yes, and it was pouring rain too. the bf: He never did apologise did he? the ex: NO, the b*stard the bf: The b*stard The "sneaky" bf moving between both camps .................................................................... the ex:He was a B*stard, the bf: Well he isn't all bad. the ex: Of course he was, he stood me up that time in the pouring rain the bf: Well, he had a good reason. the ex: He never even apologised, he didn't care. the bf: You were no better, what about that time, you had a tantrum and you hit him with the flowers he bought you? the ex: How did you know about that? the bf: He told me the ex: Whose side are you on???? .................................................................. 1
dumbass2 Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Do you still have romantic feelings for your ex and do you want to get back together with her?
Author Moley87 Posted May 25, 2015 Author Posted May 25, 2015 Do you still have romantic feelings for your ex and do you want to get back together with her? Still care about her yes but background is she emigrates to Oz in December so there is no future which we both accept but was my decision to go no contact However out circle of friends all live within 3 streets (8 friends) so basically we all keep in contact and ex works 2 floors above me in work This is why it was agreed we would all be happy staying in contact as December she would be leaving anyway but seems she now angry at the fact her bf is speaking with me ?
mightycpa Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Morning all on LS hope everyone is feeling positive today x Interesting reaction from ex yesterday on the basis her best friend and I are good friends and the ex hasn't had an issue with this since BU ( she is engaged so no dodgy play going on lol) however have now been in no contact with the ex for 2 weeks and yesterday got angry with her best friend for speaking with me ? Strange as its never been an issue before ? Girls any reason for this reaction ? You should try banging the friend to see what happens. 1
Author Moley87 Posted May 26, 2015 Author Posted May 26, 2015 That made me laugh this morning but that's the thing I wouldn't which makes the situation crazy I have no intention on trying it on This is why I don't understand the concept of her being angry with her ?
organizedchaos Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Morning all on LS hope everyone is feeling positive today x Interesting reaction from ex yesterday on the basis her best friend and I are good friends and the ex hasn't had an issue with this since BU ( she is engaged so no dodgy play going on lol) however have now been in no contact with the ex for 2 weeks and yesterday got angry with her best friend for speaking with me ? Strange as its never been an issue before ? Girls any reason for this reaction ? Who knows, who cares. Why do you? She's engaged and you've been NC two weeks. I'm confused. How long has the breakup been?
joseb Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 Who knows, who cares. Why do you? She's engaged and you've been NC two weeks. I'm confused. How long has the breakup been? I think it's his ex's friend who he is hanging around with that is engaged. But I agree - why do you care? Really, it's not surprising to me at all that she would be annoyed by her friend spending time with you, especially if she was more her friend.
organizedchaos Posted May 26, 2015 Posted May 26, 2015 I think it's his ex's friend who he is hanging around with that is engaged. But I agree - why do you care? Really, it's not surprising to me at all that she would be annoyed by her friend spending time with you, especially if she was more her friend. Ah, read that again, thanks. The friend is engaged.
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