heyitsmike Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I met this girl back in October of 2014 and since then I’ve seen her a few times, but I keep having trouble trying to figure out two things: 1) are her feelings towards me just at a friendship level or could it be more? And 2) how do I make the jump into that next level? BACKGROUND: I met this girl at a charity ball I somehow found a way into and used my budding confidence that night to get her number and successfully ask her out for drinks. She is my age, a part time model, and had just arrived 2 weeks prior from Australia and was there with her aunt who organized the event. Later on that week, our first date at this wine bar went very well. We talked for 3 hours, the conversation flowed very smoothly and I saw a lot of identifiers (hair twirling, laughing and forward facing body positioning) that let me know she was enjoying my company. I dropped her off back at her aunt’s place (10 min from my house in CT), we kissed briefly and then she went inside. She was staying there temporarily before she was to move to NYC the following week. When she moved we lost touch, but about 6 months later (march ’15) after talking again on Facebook, I asked her out for brunch down in NYC. She updated me that she had obtained her visa and would continue to be able to stay in the US and that she aspired to one day move to the suburbs and start a life there in NY (which is where I am originally from). The rest of Brunch went fine, I unfortunately had been working overnights at my job and was very tired that particular day, but the date went okay. I left that day with the exact same questions I’ve posed above and she pops up on my mind from time to time. I just thought of a fun idea for the both of us to do that involves a secret speakeasy bar located in nyc. But my only hesitation is still the question of where is this going and how do I figure out how to make that potential jump to something more. TODAY: So much time has passed in between interactions because I have been either pursuing other women or I often think of our distance between CT & NYC. But the point of this message is a renewed motivation to see if things would actually work with her and to give it a go. Any advice going forward on how to answer those original questions above?
preraph Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I don't think she'd have accepted the date if she wasn't at least somewhat interested romantically. Next date, you need to start holding her hand as you walk down the street, putting your hand on her back as you pull out her chair, and throwing your arm around her at the theater. Working out the logistics is your problem. I've heard people live in Connecticut and commute to NYC all the time.
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