Megas10 Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Long story short, we have been very close friends for 3 years in school. We really understand each other although our conversations in school are always short and very brief. You could say its because of her answering always shorty with a yes or no. The point is that i really like her and asked her to hang out. We went to a café and talked fluently for 2 hours. She even started the topics we talked.We laughed at times and had lots of fun. Pretty standart date. Nothing serious happend. Logically after this i started to treat her differently at school. I sat near to her. Try to talk to her even more. I still walk her home (we live in the same direction) but now i kiss her on the cheek and bla bla but she is acting the same: giving short answers and never starting anything with me. I always have to be the one who activates anything at school. Last friday i asked her if she was free, she was not (had lots of activities). She has been very honest with me and i don't reckon she is lying. IMO i think it's beacause of social pressure around her. She is kinda popular and im kinda an introvert. Her friends would definetly not see this relationship "normal" as im a kinda of a rare guy... Do get me wrong, it would be ok for me to have a "secret relationship" and she is comfortable with that then fine but i would like it to be an official secret relationship rather than this high wire of relationship we are both in. How to solve this? Would it be ok to talk and point this action out of hers? Should i ask her for a second date this week or am i being to pushy?
preraph Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Keep asking her out, but if you get a couple more "I'm busy" in a row, she's done with dating you. Have some self-respect. You do NOT want to be the boyfriend she is embarrassed of. And you don't want to be with a girl who is really like that either. 1
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