sirtyner Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 My ex girlfriend broke up with me about a couple weeks ago. However we have still maintained a good friendship of some sort and we still talk just about everyday. However last night she calls me in the middle of the night drunk. She has never been like this before and doesn't even drink like that. Anyways she calls me crying and tells me this "Hey I just want to say I'm really sorry for breaking your heart and leaving you. I know you care about me so much,love me, and took great care of me. I know you still love me and I love you too. I just had to do it and I just love you so much, I have a lot going on right now. I just didn't feel the same as when we first started talking. You loved me more and I didn't want you to be in a one sided relationship." Also, she kept telling me sorry and was crying really hard on the phone. Anyways, does this mean anything or is she just saying things because she's drunk and doesn't mean it.
Ruby65 Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 She means what she says. You loved her more than she loved you. She loves you.... but she's not IN LOVE with you. Try to believe her -- and cut contact. It's not helping you heal or move on! Do you really need to stay in her life and let her relieve herself (of her guilt) all over you? Nope, not really. Here's a guide that will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com Good luck to you. 2
GreenWellington Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 She was drunk and probably felt really guilty about it all. I know this might sound harsh, but it means nothing. The only thing it means is that she was probably drunk, alone, and emotional and caved in to calling you. My ex has done the same once, and the next day when we talked nothing at all had changed. ''I stand by my decision'' were her exact words. Move on, and as hard as it is, the next time she calls don't answer. If she really wants to reconcile she'll find a way to contact you and make it explicitly clear (e-mail, etc.). The above poster said it, you loved her more than she loved you. Why would you want to be with a woman who can't reciprocate what you feel for her on a similar level? Go NC and heal, and you'll eventually find someone who can offer what she couldn't and more. Take care of yourself 1
dave_1966 Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 If you have an iPhone, you can buy a silent ringtone from the app store and assign her number to it. It's done me wonders, including with my ex. 1
Satu Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 *we have still maintained a good friendship of some sort What makes it good, and who is it good for? 1
SolidGoldTurd Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I just had to do it and I just love you so much Woooooh, this takes the prize for the greatest break up excuse EVER. If she loved you, she wouldn't dump you. Anyways, does this mean anything or is she just saying things because she's drunk and doesn't mean it. There really is nothing to this whatsoever. It doesn't matter if she meant it or not ... she's done.
lauri Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Give me a break. She's just trying to keep you around. Wait till the next guy comes along and works out, see how fast she disappears. You are simply a plan B, maybe even a plan C, and she just wants to make sure you don't hate her. This is all this is. Youre kidding yourself if you think there is any hope here. She lost interest in you and is trying to make this as EASY as possible for herself. Key word here is herself. She isn't doing you any favours nor will she. Start to move on. Block her. There is absolutely no reason for you to stay in contact with her, it'll only stunt your healing process.
frigginlost Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 (edited) This has No Contact written all over it... She is shedding guilt, that's all. As hard as this is going to sound, it had nothing to do with you. 20 years ago I recieved the exact call from a girl I was dating who dumped me. The words are almost word for word to what you heard. Edited May 25, 2015 by frigginlost
NoLeafClover Posted May 25, 2015 Posted May 25, 2015 Ive done this to an ex i was with for 7 years except that I didnt drunk dial her at night. I was a actually at work on my lunch break. I said something across the lines of what your ex said..I cant say if your ex is legit but my guess would be she is telling the truth. They still love you and care a lot about you but there is something that you will never know that is making them think that someone better or more fit for them will come along. Its a crappy situation to be on both ends assuming the Dumper is honest... and frankly there is really no easy way out. My advise is to try NC and start by avoiding the daily contact. Goodluck.
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