ayeshau Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I mentioned a couple weeks back I started seeing an amazing person. He lives kind of close and we click so well that pretty much every other day we end up seeing eachother. Time flies when we hang out, we click so well, and its just been really awesome. A couple days ago, I got pretty tipsy at his place and we started talking about "what page were on" and I said some sort of gibberish about just enjoying hanging out. He agreed and we stopped talking about it, but when I got home that night I texted him saying "I don't think I was honest about what page I'm on. I'm not looking for anything physical or emotional right now." I honestly forgot I even said that to him, I didn't even really mean it I think he's a great guy and I'd love to see where things ago. I really just said that because the last time I was in a relationship, I let my guard down and got brutally hurt by the first person I fell in love with. This ended only 5 months ago and now that something amazing has come along again, I find myself sabotaging it because I'm subconsciously trying to protect myself from getting hurt again by ruining it before he does? I don't know- its messed up. Has anybody else dealt with this? And if so, how do you go about it? I've been trying to open as possible but I'm terrible at communicating how I truly feel 1
La.Primavera Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 You need to start a new rule of not texting when you have been drinking. Turn it off or hide it. Trust me, it will save a lot of misunderstandings and trouble in the long run. Secondly, if you haven't done this already, you need to talk to as soon as possible to let him know you made a mistake, that you panicked and the reason why. I know it will hard for you but the alternative is that throw away the opportunity to get closer to someone you actually like. If you don't address it he will find it difficult to trust you. I know it is hard but the sooner you open up the better it will be for both of you. 1
Satu Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Don't drink to the point where you start to behave in ways that you will later regret. It's a matter of mindfulness. Know your limits. 1
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