frs1627 Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 So I been talking to this girl for some time. Last night was our second night out. So we went to a lounge and had a few drinks. We talked for hours on end with out any stopping. We hit it off for the second time. Drinks start to take effect and next thing you know it were dancing a little and holding each other close. Shes leaning on me and all that good stuff. We're drunk but not sloppy drunk or overboard. I move her hair out the way a couple of times and then I put my hand on her cheek. Kind of like a little test to see if she would give in for a kiss buutttt... She leans in the other way and says you know I have 2 rules. I don't mess with people at school and people at work. She's done with school and we have our nursing jobs. She said it smiling and I asked her how come. She said what if it doesn't work. Then I said, what if does? She said you're absolutely right and then I told her my parents met at their jobs and in my opinion that's the best way to meet someone rather than a bar, you share a common interest and personal goal. She said I'm right again. I didn't kiss because I didn't want to be pushy. I know she's playing around with the idea in her head. I feel as if she's a little hesitant. When we waiting for the train we're pretty much holding each other. A little drunk but enough to know exactly what is going on. There was a long silence from her as she's resting her head on my chest. At the start of the night (1/4 thought drink one) we were talking about zodiac signs and she said herself jokingly...you know Scorpios and Cancers make the best relationship and she smiled. She breaks the touch contact first. She even ditched her sister to come hang out with me. We work as nurses so we do 3 shifts a week for 12 hrs and we are super busy at work and constantly running around. And we don't always work the same days. I told her no matter what, when I'm at work, my patients come first and significant other comes second. When I'm outside of work the game changes. She wants to hang out again. Do I just say screw it and kiss her on the 3rd date? Need some help...
La.Primavera Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I don't think you should push it. You raised some good points to her concerns but she has to decide if she is comfortable with that. Like you said, she is thinking it over. I would suggest continuing to see her. She hasn't given you a green light yet but she still wants to spend time with you. If she warms up to the idea you will naturally come together, there will be no need force it. 1
RoseVille Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Well, having gotten romantically involved with someone at work and having it go to sh*t, I would strongly caution you against workplace romance, especially if you cross paths or have to work with them, as opposed to different floors or whatnot. That said, kissing is irrelevant, as she's contradicting herself by even going on these dates with you. If she says yes to a third date, she's clearly okay with dating someone from work. 1
Author frs1627 Posted May 24, 2015 Author Posted May 24, 2015 I don't think you should push it. You raised some good points to her concerns but she has to decide if she is comfortable with that. Like you said, she is thinking it over. I would suggest continuing to see her. She hasn't given you a green light yet but she still wants to spend time with you. If she warms up to the idea you will naturally come together, there will be no need force it. I agree, It's very hard to resist but I was able to do it 2x. I'm trying the best I can and I really don't want to mess this up. I guess its a matter of being patient....
Author frs1627 Posted May 24, 2015 Author Posted May 24, 2015 Well, having gotten romantically involved with someone at work and having it go to sh*t, I would strongly caution you against workplace romance, especially if you cross paths or have to work with them, as opposed to different floors or whatnot. That said, kissing is irrelevant, as she's contradicting herself by even going on these dates with you. If she says yes to a third date, she's clearly okay with dating someone from work. Good point! It's all about being able to keep it professional and mature while at work. Our job is so fast pace and high strung that there's really no time for BS and horse play. I know I would be able to pretend she is not there b/c I'm always busy and running around. There's always the what if's. It's about taking that risk. I guess she just has to be sure that she will feel safe if we do become something.
La.Primavera Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 I agree, It's very hard to resist but I was able to do it 2x. I'm trying the best I can and I really don't want to mess this up. I guess its a matter of being patient.... Absolutely. The less pressure there is the more relaxed and comfortable she will be with the situation. I hope it works out for you. 2
RoseVille Posted May 24, 2015 Posted May 24, 2015 Good point! It's all about being able to keep it professional and mature while at work. Our job is so fast pace and high strung that there's really no time for BS and horse play. I know I would be able to pretend she is not there b/c I'm always busy and running around. There's always the what if's. It's about taking that risk. I guess she just has to be sure that she will feel safe if we do become something. Being mature and not engaging in horse play goes without saying. The point is, if it goes to sh*t, it's really, really going to suck to have to see her every time you go to work. It'll affect your job performance, and when you've got people's lives in your hands, that's even more dangerous.
Author frs1627 Posted May 24, 2015 Author Posted May 24, 2015 Being mature and not engaging in horse play goes without saying. The point is, if it goes to sh*t, it's really, really going to suck to have to see her every time you go to work. It'll affect your job performance, and when you've got people's lives in your hands, that's even more dangerous. The thing is, I don't plan on staying on this unit forever. I plan on transfering b/c I want to be in the cardiac ICU rather than cardiac stepdown. That's of course when I feel ready to do so. I do have an out incase things hit the fan.
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