LookAtThisPOst Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 I've been seeing posts lately, like with the recent "Serious Online Dater" thread about people having met up with these individuals only to have deleted their profiles after the date. The last woman I went out with mentioned to me she registered her profile wit OK Cupid 6 months ago, but never did anything with it. She said she got tons of emails, but admitted to being apprehensive about online dating in general. I think the only reason she met with me is because we personally know the same friends in real life. I found this out at the conclusion of our date as I was walking her to her car that even recently, though she's chatted with a couple of guys that she was at one time considering following up with, she not really going to do so after all. Apparently, some women have been known to turn off their accounts, EVEN after a short time having been on these sites to be quite overwhelmed with the emails they receive. Recently I saw she's gone inactive on the site last week as she was usually "Online Today" on OK Cupid the week before. So I'm thinking there is a certain category of people who do online dating, but rarely stick with it longer than a few days only to go "Holy Crap! Look at these emails I have to answer!!" Of course, they aren't obligated to answer, but...just sayin'. Does anyone think that this may be the case and reason why people aren't so apt to online dating?
spiderowl Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 I started the serious online dater thread. The guy seemed nervous and somewhat depressed. He was trying the site because a friend had suggested it. His experiences - only a few days - had not been very positive. I think he was severely lacking in trust and freaked out. Maybe online dating is just not for him, but I doubt any kind of dating would be as I got the feeling he'd want things defined from the first phone call and it would have been too oppressive. I expect there are women who react in a similar way.
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 When I did it years ago, I signed up on a paid site for a 3 month membership. By the time it was over I had no desire to renew. The whole experience left me depressed. Even as a woman, I simply felt too much rejection. I didn't like it at all
chelsey Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 well people delete profiles because: 1- they find a match ad don't want to look anymore 2- they get a stalker 3- they get discouraged 4- their spose/SO catches them if you do OLD you have to get over people disappearing or standing you up online. my view is, don't concern yourself until you've met in person. we live in the age of flakes.
Gaeta Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 I do online dating 2 weeks at a time, never more, then I delete my profile. After 2 weeks I've been around and I've seen pretty much what's interesting. I have made a few contacts and we have switched to phone so I don't need the online anymore. It is also a way of not over-exposing myself on a dating site. There is no purpose being on there 6 months. If people have seen you there for a while and have not messaged you they won't message you after 6 months. I really think the best is to go 2 weeks, get a few contacts, get off of there and go back a few weeks later if none of the prospects turned into serious dating. I made a profile on a new site 7 days ago. I have made 4 contacts so far and we're setting dates. I have no use of the website any longer. All it does is collecting messages I have no time to give my attention to.
Peachland Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 When I first signed up on the free OLD sites I had to hide my profile after a few days. It was too overwhelming for me and I couldn't handle the volume. Plus I got a lot of "hey pretty" nonsense emails which made the experience pretty disappointing. You could be the sexiest man alive but I'm not responding to that kind of message. About a month or two later I signed up on a paid site and was ready to deal the messages. I still have to sort through a lot of riff-raff but the overall quality of men is much better for me.
Diezel Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 I've seen people for years on dating websites. That's the one I'm curious about.
Gary S Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 Yes, lots of people flake when they first try online dating. Why? - because it sucks. They don't anticipate the rejection.
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