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fireflywy Established Member

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My ex told ME when I had to end it with her and I was breaking with her, she shrugged and said "Okay. I don't fight for people who want to leave." (Even though I expressed love toward her but that her page was different then mine based on her PREVIOUS words which showed total lack of affection and commitment on her part lol)

 

She then said, knowing my despair and emotions for HER. "Don't worry. You'll find someone someday."

 

At one time, during our relationship, and when my dad was DYING of cancer, she put this Luther Vandross song up on her computer called "Dance with my father again" (an absolutelty EMOTIONAL SONG, and then GIGGLED "I bet you wish you could dance with him again eh?" Total disrepect and uncooth.

 

Glad she's gone now lmao. I'm SOO much better off.

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guest569 Established Member

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My ex told ME when I had to end it with her and I was breaking with her, she shrugged and said "Okay. I don't fight for people who want to leave." (Even though I expressed love toward her but that her page was different then mine based on her PREVIOUS words which showed total lack of affection and commitment on her part lol)

 

She then said, knowing my despair and emotions for HER. "Don't worry. You'll find someone someday."

 

At one time, during our relationship, and when my dad was DYING of cancer, she put this Luther Vandross song up on her computer called "Dance with my father again" (an absolutelty EMOTIONAL SONG, and then GIGGLED "I bet you wish you could dance with him again eh?" Total disrepect and uncooth.

 

Glad she's gone now lmao. I'm SOO much better off.

 

Ugh! How sickening, that is awful..

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Meli22 Established Member

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Oh I remembered one from my young disaster breakup -

 

Me: [feeling despair]

Him: Try reading a book or watching TV. It'll take your mind off it.

Me: [feeling despair and thinking that's really all you've got for me?]

 

Wasn't intended to be cruel but it was dehumanizing in the utter lack of understanding (and concern for) the depth of my despair. People who are rapidly bleeding to death don't watch TV to distract themselves from dying, they just die. :p

 

Ugh! That would have really p****d me off

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My ex told ME when I had to end it with her and I was breaking with her, she shrugged and said "Okay. I don't fight for people who want to leave." (Even though I expressed love toward her but that her page was different then mine based on her PREVIOUS words which showed total lack of affection and commitment on her part lol)

 

She then said, knowing my despair and emotions for HER. "Don't worry. You'll find someone someday."

 

At one time, during our relationship, and when my dad was DYING of cancer, she put this Luther Vandross song up on her computer called "Dance with my father again" (an absolutelty EMOTIONAL SONG, and then GIGGLED "I bet you wish you could dance with him again eh?" Total disrepect and uncooth.

 

Glad she's gone now lmao. I'm SOO much better off.

 

That is disgusting. She sounds psychotic.

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My ex told ME when I had to end it with her and I was breaking with her, she shrugged and said "Okay. I don't fight for people who want to leave." (Even though I expressed love toward her but that her page was different then mine based on her PREVIOUS words which showed total lack of affection and commitment on her part lol)

 

She then said, knowing my despair and emotions for HER. "Don't worry. You'll find someone someday."

 

At one time, during our relationship, and when my dad was DYING of cancer, she put this Luther Vandross song up on her computer called "Dance with my father again" (an absolutelty EMOTIONAL SONG, and then GIGGLED "I bet you wish you could dance with him again eh?" Total disrepect and uncooth.

 

Glad she's gone now lmao. I'm SOO much better off.

 

Wow!! Be glad you got rid of her. She's sick. I don't understand how people speak poorly about people's dying/deceased parents. It blows my mind..

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fireflywy Established Member

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That is disgusting. She sounds psychotic.

 

Her humor was based on cutting people down all the time. We were hiking with a few friends of hers one time and this one female friend had brought this new guy she was seeing along. Well, this woman had lost a ton of weight, became very athletic but was insecure about her chest and had made comments in private about it.

 

Well, we were going up this switchback and we all stopped for a drink when the notion of flatter terrain near the top of the mountain came up. The ex, said something to the effect to her friend "Yeah. C (can lead us) she knows all about flat and saggy terrain."

 

We were all aghast. Her friend's guy didn't say squat and C just went up the hill. I gave ky ex a stern look (I called.her out on it in the car) and then I ran up the hill to catch up to C (no one else was) to apologize for my ex. When I caught up to her, this woman was crying.

 

Yeah. My ex thought making fun of people was funny.

Chi townD Established Member

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When I confronted my Ex about her cheating on me.

 

 

She called me a loser, too stupid to ever get into University, satisfied with working dead end jobs my whole life and never going anywhere in life. She's going to be with someone that had a future!

 

 

Uh huh...I proved her wrong though. I did go to college and I got my Doctorate. I heard that "Mr. Going with someone that had a future" had to drop out of college and is now an ambulance driver.

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Latino4Lyfe Established Member

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When I confronted my Ex about her cheating on me.

 

 

She called me a loser, too stupid to ever get into University, satisfied with working dead end jobs my whole life and never going anywhere in life. She's going to be with someone that had a future!

 

 

Uh huh...I proved her wrong though. I did go to college and I got my Doctorate. I heard that "Mr. Going with someone that had a future" had to drop out of college and is now an ambulance driver.

 

Was she still with him when you found this out? lol Congrats on your success btw. :)

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Wow! What *******s! One way to look at it is that it just gives you all the more reason to move on. Part of the problem in my breakup is that we didn't have one harsh thing to say about each other and said we still loved each other. So sometimes I grasp at that...

 

But when we met up for the first time for me to get my things 5 weeks post breakup, he said he still loved me and wished i never left, but when the subject of us getting back together came up he said it would 'be too much pressure.' and he said that he always felt a looming pressure because my two older sisters have husbands and kids and my dad really liked him etc.

 

those things remind me that he's not ready to plan a future with anyone (not even himself) so on the one hand all of this is good... but we are really struggling to let go of each other..

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Was she still with him when you found this out? lol Congrats on your success btw. :)

 

Yeah, I heard that he had to drop out and transfer to the University of I'm pregnant and you need to get a job.

 

 

IDK, I've been in NC with her for years! I was told this information by a girl that knew him and thought he was an asshat.

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guest569 Established Member

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Wow!! Be glad you got rid of her. She's sick. I don't understand how people speak poorly about people's dying/deceased parents. It blows my mind..

 

While I was still with my ex and a relative died tragically fairly young, all he did was make a joke about it. I've never forgotten that, and because part of the reason he dumped me seemed to be because I had been feeling down, he just had no understanding or sympathy at all! His attitude during the breakup was that I am a negative person and not good enough. "I'm a really happy person. I know you've been depressed, but..." But what, get over it? He talks as if i was upset because my ice cream fell on the ground.

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my ex got quite cruel when we broke up...called me a retard ...told me he would not ever let me see my girls again if i kept talking.....that i was an unfit mother and a joke...he laughed at me when i started to cry..he had been drinking at the other woman's place.......he did the best thing by me by saying what he said....i was in hospital at the time.....which was good he did it to me while i was in there....for my own personal emotional health i was protected........and it spurred me to get better......and get my girls and move on.......because theres no way i would leave my girls with a guy who could say something like that to a woman who raised his daughters stood by him thick and thin.....and never asked for anything but love.......he made me realize ...i was a good mother..that he didtn deserve my loyalty anymore......god whispered to me in the height of my depression.....to my heart god said....see he never loved you like you should be loved..........get your girls and go..and i did....my ex also took all of it back.....we are friends now.....i live interstate with my daughters and my son............deb

ColdandLonelyinAK Established Member

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Oh, I almost forgot this one from my first ex:

 

"Your t*ts are lopsided."

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao:

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StrangerThanFiction Established Member

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"You'll never be with someone as good as me again, ever. And now that we're broken up my life is going to be so much better. You're life is going to suck and no one will want you."

 

This from the 43 year old man who's been couch surfing or living with his dad when he wasn't leeching off me, never sees his two kids, is virtually unemployed, is in massive debt, has barely any friends, and basically has nothing to his name. Also, I think the woman he cheated on me with and then chose over me might have friend-zoned him. Who knows, maybe he's bettered his lot in the 2-3 weeks since I kicked his sorry bulbous butt out for the final time.

 

I'm 29, just got a significant promotion at work and the raise to go with it, have a group of kickass friends, zero debt, have my own place, am slowly getting back into shape, and have a 23 year old little cutie lusting after me. But yeah, he's probably right that my life will suck without him :rolleyes:

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jen1447 Established Member

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^ That's actually a great example of someone lashing out defensively, or preemptively. It seems pretty obvious none of those things are true, and he probably knows it, and he's trying his best to leverage the situation to his advantage by going on the offensive.

 

You should really pity him. Truly.

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^ That's actually a great example of someone lashing out defensively, or preemptively. It seems pretty obvious none of those things are true, and he probably knows it, and he's trying his best to leverage the situation to his advantage by going on the offensive.

 

You should really pity him. Truly.

 

To be honest, I actually do pity him a bit. Don't get me wrong, there's times I still get super pissed and upset about the crappy things he did to me, but with the with the more time that passes and distance between myself and the whole situation of our BU, I feel sorry for him. Wow, never thought I would be able to say that and actually mean it!

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Kamila Established Member

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" You'll have a hard time finding someone that's as good as me. "

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I had an ex boyfriend of three years break up with me for about a week then we got back together. I later found out he had screwed some whore during that time and and said that he broke up with me so he could screw her and then called me back so I could wash his dirty underwear from where he screwed her....Karma has his name and I will laugh last!

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I actually had a very close relative of mine pass away a couple of weeks before we broke up. Obviously I was devastated and she would continue to tell me to grow up and get over it. Think that was the final nail in the coffin, no pun intended ;), in our relationship. Ended shortly after that!

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I tend to think the death-of-a-relative thing isn't so much cruelty as immaturity and lack of empathy. They probably genuinely don't understand why you'd be grieving, bc they don't understand grief. (Maybe they never lost a loved one?)

 

Anyway reality crashes down hard on those people eventually.

 

The dirty underwear thing is genuinely cruel otoh. Congrats, AlwaysAKL. ;)

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mossycup Established Member

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After a year and a half of telling me every day I was his soulmate and the perfect woman for him and he was sure he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that I was the most helpful person to him and also that I was very strong and wise:

 

"I was never sure from our first kiss"

"I thought you were a rescue case and I'm tired of rescuing you" (I actively told him during our relationship that I did not need rescue and he actively said he agreed and that I was in fact helping him).

"I am a loving person - you could have been anyone. Ok I admit you were a bit special."

"I was tired whenever I came to your house because I was so tired from rescuing you."

 

You guys obviously never met this guy so I wish I could describe to you how completely and utterly this contradicted everything he said and did during our time together.

 

I frankly have a hard time even believing he meant that stuff since it was so contradictory. But it still really, really hurt.

Still reeling from it. A month ago now.

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Thecondor1991 Established Member

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"we can still be friends and have sex occasionally if you want."

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Me: "I just wanted to thank you for everything you've done for me. Thank you."

 

her: "I don't care, this relationship has been moving towards friends for the last few weeks anyway. It's your first relationship, you'll get over it."

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Me: Why you want to leave me? What is exactly my fault?

Her: The only fault you always do is try so hard to stick up with this relationship. You should just let go. I need you, but I don't want you.

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Said for me to get lost and get the f*ck out of his life. I felt like there were pins and needles in my heart after that

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