picky-une Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 A girlfriend and I were watching that episode of "Seinfeld" where Elaine breaks up with someone because he doesn't use an exclamation point in his phone message. And we were laughing our heads off because we're both notorious for being too picky with men. She said her pickiest moment was when when she noticed the guy had one of those plastic inserts in the silverware drawer for keeping the different types of utensils together and he had just crammed forks on top of spoons on top of knives, etc. Her justification for this was, "I knew he couldn't be considerate of a woman if he couldn't even be considerate of his teaspoons." I said my pickiest moment had been when I had started getting serious about a guy and we were talking about money. He told me how much he made and I had no problem with it. But it made me worried about the Rolex he liked showing off because there was no way he could have responsibly afforded one. I asked if he'd inherited it or something. He said no - that it was a "really good" knockoff that you'd have to open the back of to prove it wasn't genuine. He was actually boasting about what a good fake it was. And looking back I can see that was the beginning of the end. I mean think about it. He still spent a lot more on it than he would have on some Timex at the drugstore that kept time just as well. And it obviously didn't have whatever (if anything!) makes a real Rolex worth so much money. The only reason he had for spending as much on it as he did was to try to make people think he was a big shot. Can you say sense of inadequacy? So what was your pickiest moment? You don't need to have broken up over it though.
moimeme Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 picky-une ROTFL!!! I'm picky ahead of time so it doesn't cause breakups. I quickly eliminate people who aren't interested in the world and what goes on in it. If you brag you never watch news, begone
Merin Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Wow for real? LOL My problem has never been being to picky it's been in not being picky enough... I can't imagine that if I was all set with an abuser, a liar, a cheater, a flake that someone not putting silverware away in a proper manner would've been a deal breaker for me... Good God, I need therapy... Thats it Man... next guy I go out with is going to HAVE to use Snuggle in his laundry OR I'm outta there!
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by picky-une The only reason he had for spending as much on it as he did was to try to make people think he was a big shot. Can you say sense of inadequacy? I see your point, you realized he was a redneck! I don't consider as candidates men who are poor, uneducated or have bad manners. If he doesn't open the door for me or pay for my drink, he's outta my life. However, it seems that I've never been picky enough, just as Merin said for herself. I have never ditched anyone for a small reason (the big reasons didn't let me get to the small ones!)
KissMyTiara Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by picky-une A girlfriend and I were watching that episode of "Seinfeld" where Elaine breaks up with someone because he doesn't use an exclamation point in his phone message. And we were laughing our heads off because we're both notorious for being too picky with men. She said her pickiest moment was when when she noticed the guy had one of those plastic inserts in the silverware drawer for keeping the different types of utensils together and he had just crammed forks on top of spoons on top of knives, etc. Her justification for this was, "I knew he couldn't be considerate of a woman if he couldn't even be considerate of his teaspoons." I said my pickiest moment had been when I had started getting serious about a guy and we were talking about money. He told me how much he made and I had no problem with it. But it made me worried about the Rolex he liked showing off because there was no way he could have responsibly afforded one. I asked if he'd inherited it or something. He said no - that it was a "really good" knockoff that you'd have to open the back of to prove it wasn't genuine. He was actually boasting about what a good fake it was. And looking back I can see that was the beginning of the end. I mean think about it. He still spent a lot more on it than he would have on some Timex at the drugstore that kept time just as well. And it obviously didn't have whatever (if anything!) makes a real Rolex worth so much money. The only reason he had for spending as much on it as he did was to try to make people think he was a big shot. Can you say sense of inadequacy? So what was your pickiest moment? You don't need to have broken up over it though. I'm assuming you're both still single. That isn't pickiness. What you have is absolutely unrealistic expectations. Not everyone can be perfect - not even you. Are you telling me you'd never carry a perfect-knock off LV bag that normally retails for $3000? Or wear shoes that are virtually identical to this season's Jimmy Choes but came from the Fashion District and retail for 50000% less?? So what if he has a fake Rolex? Most ARE! You're worried about him spending money on a fake? Well, had he bought the drugstore watch, you probably would have thought he was a cheapskate. And if it was real, you would have freaked out that he's too spendy. He couldn't win no matter what he wore on his wrist. What you should have paid attention to is his heart, soul, manners, personality, and the way he treats you. The fact that he wanted to LOOK worthy of you but was willing to open up and be honest and fess up to the watch's quality speaks volumes about his character. You should be focusing on that, rather than a material object. Or f-ing teaspoons.
picky-une Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by KissMyTiara Are you telling me you'd never carry a perfect-knock off LV bag that normally retails for $3000? Are you telling *me* that you'd buy a fake LV because it was the best-looking bag available for the price? Sister, please. You'd buy it so people would think you were hot s**t for having such an expensive bag. The only question is who is more pathetic: - Someone who would think more of you because you spent $3,000 on a bag, - Someone willing to spend $3,000 on a bag to impress such a person, or - Someone so eager to impress such a person that they'd lie about having $3,000 to spend doing so. If I meet a man who tells time by looking at a $20 Timex because that's what he can honestly afford, or because he's saving money for a down-payment on a house, I'll have nothing but respect for him. In the meantime, if you think I missed out on a good thing with Fake Rolex Guy, feel free to pursue him with my blessing - he's available!
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