wow Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 My girl broke up with me 4 weeks ago and i have forced the nc rule for all 4 weeks. SHE SENT this note to a friend: Yes, i broke up with ##, my feelings for him changed. i miss him but its nice being single, having my independence. im too busy to have a boyfriend anyway. What do yall think?
Author wow Posted April 24, 2005 Author Posted April 24, 2005 any chance of getting it back and we were together for 4 years. What should be done? She has tried to contact me but i have ignored all. what can be done. Funny thing is I dont want her back, that is why nc has been so easy. BUT i have been dreaming about her at night all the time. i am one crazy bugga. but i kinda want her back... lol
Author wow Posted April 24, 2005 Author Posted April 24, 2005 let me rephrase that, if i want her back what can be done? if i want her to long for me what can i do?
moimeme Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 You can't do anything. She clearly stated her feelings have changed and she's happy on her own. This is not fixable. It's time to give it up as a lost cause and move on.
sanne Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 god moving on is literally the hardest part about all of this. even when our ex's do horrible and crappy things to us, it only seems to make us want them more.
Marshbear Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Do you want someone who doesn't want you? The is a word for this. It's called denial. Don't be in denial....
Author wow Posted April 24, 2005 Author Posted April 24, 2005 good point all and i have kinda been fine with it but the dreams really get to me. She has told me that she wants us to be best friends and hang out together. Now does that change things? I have fiends but there is currently a vacancy for a girl friend? mmmmmm
d'Arthez Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Her statement is highly suggestive that she enjoys her life without bf. You can't simply assign people to the roles you want them to take. And she'll not take up the role of gf. If you are interested in her friendship you can get it, but it is hard work, as the both of you don't seem to be on the same page romantically. If you still have feelings for her, and can't handle it (by the looks of things, you can't) a friendship would only bring you more hurt. Best thing would be to continue the No Contact with her then.
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