Shully22 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 So here's my story! There's this girl that was in school with me we never really talked so anyway one day we met at a party and she was drunk and hugged me and stuff, after we started chatting in Facebook and then messenger, it became and everyday chat with good morning and goodnight messages everyday, 2 days after her boyfroend of 5 years 21st birthday she tells me she likes me but can't leave her boyfriend! We remained "friends" for two years with good morning and good night messages everyday even if we did not have convo that day. I. January I told her I can't do this anymore we should stop speaking, since January I haven't spoke to her but Monday and Tuesday this week we ended up snap chatting I told her we should stop. Here's my problem even though we never speak for months I miss here everyday I think about her I can't get her out of my mind? How do I get over her??
Strength in Healing Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Time is the solution in this scenario. Habit is a lot of what you miss. You made the correct choice. Ride out the rollercoaster, there are ups and downs, but in the end, you get off at the amusement park.
Author Shully22 Posted May 22, 2015 Author Posted May 22, 2015 Problem is she was the perfect girl she is someone I would marry right now everything I ever wanted in a girl I feel for her personality
quattrob Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 (edited) Problem is she was the perfect girl she is someone I would marry right now everything I ever wanted in a girl I feel for her personality I think you're too young and inexperience and that's why you're thinking the way you are. It was already a bad choice that you decided on doing your messagings/chatting with her for the past 2 years.. and you only did this because you always hoped for a chance to be with her, hoping she would break up with her boyfriend. You got enticed when she was drunk and then "hugged" you.. she's been using you for attention and making her feel good this whole time. She may like you but not enough for her to be with you. You said you guys didn't talk since January, she has her boyfriend to keep her attention with so she doesn't really care. Don't ever waste your time with a girl that already is with somebody else, you're just wasting your time as she's just having sex with her boyfriend while you wait on the sidelines for a "chance" with her. This is really stupid and makes you look desperate. You're just asking to get hurt and used. Before the drunk/hug incident you were fine without her but after that you fallen into a trap, a trap that a lot of inexperience guys that fall for girls so easily would fall for. Please forget about this girl as she is not the PERFECT girl, you're putting her on a pedestal. Edited May 22, 2015 by quattrob 2
AIJ Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 Back in secondary school (high school, for you Americans), I was absolutely obsessed with this girl. Spoke to her for 4 years straight, absolutely adored her. Daily conversations from the minute we woke up to the minute we slept. I'm pretty sure for the first 2 years or so of this friendship, we both really liked each other (incredibly obvious, actually, after looking back at the conversations we used to have on Facebook. I was an oblivious little one back then!), never went anywhere. The second half of this friendship, I think that's where it went a little downhill. We still spoke regularly, but a few months before we were set to leave school, we began arguing a lot. HUGE argument after she got a boyfriend, the first in the entire time we'd been talking, and then we left school. Never saw each other or spoke to one another for a little over a year. Ended up at the same college as her after that year, so we spoke sometimes. Had no real romantic feelings left for her. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is just give it time Also helps MASSIVELY if you don't ever see them but sometimes it cannot be helped. I still bump in to this girl quite often considering she lives locally to me, always friendly conversation and that's that really. Be lying if I said I didn't want to **** her brains out though, very attractive girl
NoLeafClover Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 You get over a girl you never dated by growing up. 1
Hawaii51 Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 Nice, this chick was soaking up energy on a couple fronts. Had her 5 yr going on, and you always flinging her attention. She's on top of the world. You should probably focus your energy on someone focusing their energy on you.
La.Primavera Posted May 23, 2015 Posted May 23, 2015 How do I get over her?? If you are serious about getting over her then try the following; Block her number and any online communication. Do not talk to her for any reason. Any time you think of her you have to immediately think of something else and distract yourself. Spend more time hanging out with friends and immerse yourself in hobbies that you enjoy. Start getting to know new girls and go on dates. *Make sure they are single first* One day you will realize this girl would never have been a good girlfriend. How would you feel if she had been contacting another guy every morning and night if you were her boyfriend? You need to make your needs and feelings a priority because she never will. 1
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