Toughcall11 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Hello, I was in a scenario the other day and want thoughts on it. I have a girlfriend who I have been dating for 5 years and are relationship is great. The other day I was at my mates house with his ex girlfriend( they are still friends) and all 3 of us were drinking( getting really drunk) at his house.we are all around 25 years old. My partner who was not there is also friends with his ex. My mates ex started to get really drunk as we all were and started to try and tease him sneakily. For example she was wearing a tank top and very short shorts that just covered her butt, besides the couch we were sitting on there was a radio and on purpose kept on bending over in front of him to change the channel. He was sitting across from her and I was sitting next to her and it was obvious what she was doing but she made it look like a accident.She did this a few times and also while sitting on the couch she would spread her legs in front of him to give him a peak. From where I was sitting even if I wanted to look my view would only be from the side and I did not want to get busted looking. The show was clearly for him but she obviously didint mind me being near by and risking a flash towards me. To be honest she is pretty hot and the one of the times she bent over I got a sneak look at her butt and a glimpse of her pussy as her shorts had accidentally moved to one side, but out of respect I would not stare( which was so frigging hard) My question is does this class as cheating on my girlfriend? I have and won't tell her about what I saw as she may get pissed with my mates ex. Her show did not bother me at all and I did not feel uncomfortable, her "accidental flashing" was also not directed at me, we are all pretty close friends but I don't think it's worth bringing up with my girlfriend as she may get jealous. Thoughts? 1
Phoenician Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Yes it us cheating Would u accept that ur girlfriend do the same ? I am glad that u feel guilty, so dont worry we wont cast u:) But i advise u to be careful next time.. Since is ur first attempt no need to create a storm out of it , But i also advise to set boundaries on you and her so that both of u knows when theu are crossed
kjohn Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 No. That is not cheating. In retrospect, if you were truly that uncomfortable perhaps you should have left to avoid any suspicion that you were enjoying the show. My advice to you, though, would be to absolutely tell your girlfriend about this. Tell her what happened and that it made you feel uncomfortable. If you are open and honest with her, she may get pissed at her friend but she will appreciate your honesty and trust you to be open with her, even when it's uncomfortable. If you keep this from her and she somehow finds out about it down the road, she will wonder why you did not tell her about it and that will only raise suspicion and make your life difficult. Openness and honesty are always the way to go, in my opinion. 4
sandylee1 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Not cheating IMO. But rather inappropriate. Next time those shenanigans start, go home. 5
elaine567 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Next time those shenanigans start, go home. ^^^this^^^ Were you hoping for a threesome?
Author Toughcall11 Posted May 22, 2015 Author Posted May 22, 2015 I did not feel uncomfortable being there it only lasted 10mins. If I was seeing a lot then I may of said something in a joking way like " your hanging out" and laugh it off. No I was not hoping for a 3some, I would not do that to my girlfriend plus even if I was single I still would not, she is good looking but I look at her as a friend. I don't think it is cheating as I was doing nothing, she also would not no thaf I caught a quick glimpse either so there is no point bringing it up. I was just more curious what society in general would think if it was cheating or not... 1
understand50 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 I would let your G/F know about it and tell her how uncomfortable you were with it. Once, wound up being the designated driver for some friends in the Army at a strip club. Did not have a good time. Told my wife all about it. 648 1
Got it Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Not cheating but inappropriate. I would tell your girlfriend, tell her your concerns on it and tell your plan for next time. Some people wouldn't care about this at all, kind of just looking and not touching, but you are being proactively transparent and honest which is an awesome trait to have! 2
Satu Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Not cheating, but remember that too much alcohol brings out the worst in people. Know your limit. 1
carhill Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 My .02: Since your partner and the lady in question are friends, what has been the friends actions around you in other instances of contact? Yours? If your partner had been present, would she have disapproved of your actions? I would tend to lean towards inappropriate with the cheating flavor turning upon your historical interactions with this friend of your partner. 1
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