Short Term Material Is Better Under Rare Circumstances

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As far as relationship encounters are concerned there are 2 types of women I am likely to run into. Those who see me as long term material such as marriage or living together and possibly kids. Then there are those who see me as good enough for now and for the short term and just a guy to pass the time with.

 

Under normal circumstances a guy does not want a woman who just sees him as good enough for now but not long term material. However there are rare circumstances in which a short term deal is better an ideal. The rare circumstance I am talking about is a man dying from terminal cancer or AIDS or some other terminal disease.

 

I am a 34 year old man in that category. My days are numbered with liver metastatic cancer and metastasis in other areas of my body. If I were being optimistic I will probably be gone in a couple years. I'm not really holding my breath for any new breakthrough treatment to turn this around. Once there's metastasis to organs like the liver you are pretty much finished. There's nothing else to do except settle your own financial affairs, try to enjoy your short life, possibly have a short term fling if you are up to it. I haven't completely made up my mind one way or the other about entering into any flings if an offer is made.

 

However I know that long term relationships are out of the question for me regardless because of other forces outside my control. I'm certainly not going to get close to any woman who talks about the future concerning her and myself. When women talk about the future that's one of the signs that they see a man as long term material. That's not a good sign for someone in my position because that means if something happens to me tomorrow they are going to be that much more devestated as a result of getting her hopes up for a long term relationship. So I do my best to avoid those women because I don't want to go to my grave with that on my conscience.

 

But the women who think of me as good enough for the short term and don't see it lasting but are just with me because they are lonely and want a guy to pass the time with? Yeah I am definitely compatible with those women at this stage of my life. I will not live much longer anyway so whatever time we spend together is going to be short anyway and nobody gets hurt if I drop dead tomorrow. Short term flings are feasible if I am up for it but long term stuff is out of the question. I said if I am up for it because in the days ahead I don't know how the cancer is going to effect my sex drive. It has already effected my appetite for food as I am not really all that hungry these days.

 

So I don't have anything to lose agreeing to a short term fling because I know it is going to be short either way. I'm not going to live long enough to worry about what kind of wife she would be to me or how well we will manage finances and other practical things. It is all a moot point now. When one has knowledge of a terminal condition their priorities change. I'm not worried about being used to pass time when whatever time we have is going to be short anyway for other reasons.

 

So bottom line is short term arrangements are more ideal than long term ones under rare circumstances.

[Atomic bomb]

Come to think of it I would be the ideal candidate to be used as a rebound guy. I mean why not? There's women who get out of long term relationships all the time and quickly enter into a rebound relationship. Rebounds do serve a useful purpose no matter how short they are. On average a rebound relationship lasts about 3 months. I may not have 3 more months to live anyway so might as well just enjoy the rebound for what it is.

[I_Give_Up67]

Is this JoshCube???

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I don't know what you mean.

[Robert]

Come to think of it I would be the ideal candidate to be used as a rebound guy. I mean why not? There's women who get out of long term relationships all the time and quickly enter into a rebound relationship. Rebounds do serve a useful purpose no matter how short they are. On average a rebound relationship lasts about 3 months. I may not have 3 more months to live anyway so might as well just enjoy the rebound for what it is.

 

As long as you want to agree to those standards..short lived is good, but in moderation land...........well, you know the drill.....