Jordan185 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 This a bit of a story but I am unsure of what to do here. I wouldn't even consider doing this if I hadn't gotten all of these signals. -She mentioned to me she was single -She mentioned that she would like to hangout -She was willing to hangout with me alone -She texts back and calls back quickly -She teases me So I thought hey this girl likes me I'll ask her out on a date. I called and asked her but it turns out she was busy that whole week (I know for a fact she was). She said maybe next week though. I don't know if she was just letting me down easy or what. Should I ask again? I really would like to take her out. Her family life is kind of broken so I don't know if that has a play in this or not. I think she is a great girl and I honestly would love to take her out. How should I go about this?
Strength in Healing Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Don't ask her out next time. Tell her, rather, you're coming to pick her up and you guys are going to go do something awesome. When you give a choice, psychologically, it allows doubt to breed. This is a fact. Want proof? Go to a party and go up to one of the sociable girls who are single and tell her "Just so you know, I'm totally going to kiss you when I finish talking. I'm <name>." Then try to kiss. Doesn't work 100% of the time, but it works 100% the time more than asking for a kiss will.
Author Jordan185 Posted May 22, 2015 Author Posted May 22, 2015 Don't ask her out next time. Tell her, rather, you're coming to pick her up and you guys are going to go do something awesome. When you give a choice, psychologically, it allows doubt to breed. This is a fact. Want proof? Go to a party and go up to one of the sociable girls who are single and tell her "Just so you know, I'm totally going to kiss you when I finish talking. I'm <name>." Then try to kiss. Doesn't work 100% of the time, but it works 100% the time more than asking for a kiss will. Alright I can dig that. Do you think she is interested though?
fitnessfan365 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 (edited) It doesn't matter what a woman says. Pay attention to her actions. You say she always texts/calls back quickly. But it sounds like you're always initiating contact with her. Secondly, you say she was willing to hang out with you alone. Yet she isn't actually making plans with you is she? For now, I'd back off a little bit. If she reaches out in the mean time, cut to the chase and try asking her out again. If you don't hear from her by the middle of next week, contact her and try asking her out one more time. In either case if she gives you the run around again, tell her to get back to you when her schedule is more definite and you'll plan something then. Then you walk away. If she contacts you, great. Make plans. If you never hear from her you have your answer. But always remember that when a woman is interested she will make plans with you. Edited May 22, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Author Jordan185 Posted May 22, 2015 Author Posted May 22, 2015 It doesn't matter what a woman says. Pay attention to her actions. You say she always texts/calls back quickly. But it sounds like you're always initiating contact with her. Secondly, you say she was willing to hang out with you alone. Yet she isn't actually making plans with you is she? For now, I'd back off a little bit. If she reaches out in the mean time, cut to the chase and try asking her out again. If you don't hear from her by the middle of next week, contact her and try asking her out one more time. In either case if she gives you the run around again, tell her to get back to you when her schedule is more definite and you'll plan something then. Then you walk away. If she contacts you, great. Make plans. If you never hear from her you have your answer. But always remember that when a woman is interested she will make plans with you. Part of that is true. I did the texting part and that. However whenever she saw me in person she is the one who would approach me. Even if I didn't see her she would be the one to walk up and talk to me or sit by me.
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