Gilmore2427 Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 This will be long but hope for some advice. I've known this girl for 4 months now hit it off from the beginning. We chat everyday and hangout a lot at least 6 days a week and have lunch every day. She has a son who I have met about a month or so in. After few times hanging out with both she said he asked about me and she said its best not to hang around him because she can't have him get attached just can't but we can still hangout. Are friendship continues getting close and at this point I have feelings for her and she knows my intentions in wanting more. (back story on her she was married when met but separated now and recently divorced but few months before me she dated this guy while still just separated he ended up cheating with his ex and currently married to the ex. She said has kept in contact and when he makes comments about missing her she just ask how's your wife doing? I'm guessing she still has feelings because few weeks ago she made a comment about knowing how it feels not having someone you can't have I'm assuming she meant him? Yesterday she got upset because she heard he is having a baby she made a comment saying that's funny because just talked to him last night and didn't mention it. She got mad and deleted all contacts and said hope you have a good life etc.) Back to me we have had several discussions where she says not sure if ever will be in another relationship and when I say we need to stop all together because having feelings only way to move on is no contact. She gets upset well next day I see she still upset so told her don't want her out of my life and continue being friends to me looked like a relief off her shoulders from face expression so we start hanging out again and I'm hanging out with her son again. Gets to a point where she tells her son to hug me when I leave and has been a few times where he said he loves me. Talking about yesterday with the ex boyfriend she said glad her son didn't get attached to him but he has to me. I ask anything you want me to do different and she says no. About month ago she did say she wanted sex but just friends with benefits so I went to that level with her. The way I see the situation and matter of fact everyone else were in a relationship but she don't see it. We had a talk 2 days ago where she said are friendship is not a normal friendship and need to talk because she has noticed signs. She went back to the don't want a relationship and not sure if ever will also said no feelings so I cut ties. After this happened she told me she cried several times (feelings right?) Well we ended up hanging out that night with her little boy. He did his on thing and we were on the couch i asked are we ok she said not sure yet because I was going to end it all but little later that night she placed her head on me like cuddling after that she did something with her hand like a motion wanted to hold so I went and held her hand and she didn't pull away. When I left that night she told her son to hug me goodnight. When leaving we hugged and I kissed her and she didn't pull away. Well last night I was planning to go over but she ended up cancelling but told me she wanted sex and wasn't doing that with me because I would think of it more. She did end up letting me come over. I started rubbing on her but she said no sex so asked can we at least kiss so we did make out little. When leaving last night she hugged me first I kissed her and ended up making out. Today she told me didn't sleep good because her emotions with me and other things going on (I'm guessing her ex bf finding out having baby) she said because other day things between us are now different. Forgot to mention little over month ago she had family pictures made with her son and got 4 copies. One for her, mom, dad, and me. I didn't ask she just did it. I don't want to give up because deep down I feel something is there and she will come around. She did mention more hurt over ex bf then ex husband. I think she is just scared to get close because when things start going good with us she brings up the don't want relationship talk. I've never pressured she brings it up on her on.
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