hotpotato Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 Title says it all, I got asked out, and I had a mild anxiety attack. it was horrible. One of the guys who asked me out started talking about marriage. This is the guy I've known for years who said I looked like Wesley Snipes. He asked why we never got married. Hmm Idk why...maybe because Over the past 5,6 years he has consistently chosen other women over me. I gave up after awhile He never runs out of negative things to say about me, including saying that I look like Wesley Snipes. He said I didn't wear enough black, then he would date a woman who didn't wear enough black. He got mad bc i used to text U instead of you, I'm sure there are more. So anywayz, I had a panic attack. Yes, a real one.
davidromero43 Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 Do u look like Wesley Snipes? If u don't, he might be like a school kid and teasing u because he likes u. Tell him to knock it off and it just might work out. If u do look like Wesley Snipes, he might be gay. JK 2
Gloria25 Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 Who does he think he is? Look, we've all been there...dude who treats us like crap and we grovel for any little crumbs they throw our way. Probably the panic attack is cuz you are scared he's coming for real? Girl, after all he's put you through, I wouldn't waste an ounce of energy on him asking you out on a date. I know it's easier for me to say cuz I'm not in your shoes...same way like people here can objectively tell me to forget that guy I recently started a thread about and his girl...BUT "THAT'S" why I'm telling you to forget this guy...cuz I care for you and can look at it w/o the emotion you have invested in it. Take care 3
Author hotpotato Posted May 22, 2015 Author Posted May 22, 2015 (edited) Im not really invested in guy who called me wesley snipes. I gave up on him a long time ago, but hes still giving me anxiety. ETA: Other guy is giving me anxiety,too. Edited May 22, 2015 by hotpotato
ascendotum Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Im not really invested in guy who called me wesley snipes. I gave up on him a long time ago, but hes still giving me anxiety. ETA: Other guy is giving me anxiety,too. Got admit I don't know why you would have an anxiety attack over that guy who'd given you short shift for years, unless you are still harboring a secret desire for him (that you might not want to admit to), despite him choosing others over you over that time. He's just messing with you not realizing it hurts you
Author hotpotato Posted May 22, 2015 Author Posted May 22, 2015 Got admit I don't know why you would have an anxiety attack over that guy who'd given you short shift for years, unless you are still harboring a secret desire for him (that you might not want to admit to), despite him choosing others over you over that time. He's just messing with you not realizing it hurts you Nope, no feelings for him or the other guy who I just met.
gaius Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 Why does potential intimacy make you so uncomfortable? That Wesley Snipes story is epic by the way, thanks for telling it.
Hawaii51 Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 No man tells a female they look like Wesley Snipes, in a flirting fashion. . It can't be done. Maybe to Wesley's matriarch, but no where outside of that. Ditch the dude, and put on some colors.
Author hotpotato Posted May 22, 2015 Author Posted May 22, 2015 Why does potential intimacy make you so uncomfortable? That Wesley Snipes story is epic by the way, thanks for telling it. I looked it up, and sites said it could be trauma from my past. My life seems to be full of epic stories lol. Btw, in case anyone's wonder, I'm not exaggerating when I said I had a panic attack. I had elevated breathing and heart rate for a day or two, inability to concentrate, feelings of needing to run away, etc. 1
Satu Posted May 22, 2015 Posted May 22, 2015 A panic attack doesn't normally last for days. Have a talk with your doctor. 2
candie13 Posted July 15, 2015 Posted July 15, 2015 are you able to identify what triggered them? alright, girl, we need to talk: why would you date a guy who doesn't make you feel good about yourself? Any guy who's putting you down is not worth the time of day. Of course you're having panic attacks, if I'm not mistaking, you have just started dating. Ok. so the good thing is you are putting yourself out there. Now... start the weeding process. Remove: - all guys from the past you used to have a crush on. - all guys from the past who used to like you - all guys from the past - period. If it didn't happen then, there are small chances it will happen now - all men whom you are meah about - all men who are mean to you or otherwise sound condescending or controlling You need positivity in your life. Go only after people who are able to give you that. The most important part of dating is not what happens after the first date, is actually choosing whom to have that first date with. Lots of work, girl. But it's fun, I promise. IF you are uncomfortable meeting men, I say stop dating and see a therapist. But for real, not just a one two times thing.
Author hotpotato Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 ^Well, im not dating anyone now or trying to. Nowadays i mostly meet guys by happenstance.
regine_phalange Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 I didn't know who Wesley Snipes is but I googled him and he's good looking. Hey, someone once told me I look like Da Vinci's St. John the Baptist. Anyway. The panic attack sounds horrible . It's definitely something that needs to be addressed. What kind of nightmares did you have if I may ask? Were they about this guy? 1
Male Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 A panic attack doesn't normally last for days. Have a talk with your doctor. Ditto...that just isnt right. You definitely need to talk to someone if these situations are affecting you this much. I've been told by people I look like Keanu Reeves when he had a shaved head in the movie The Matrix. 2
Author hotpotato Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 I didn't know who Wesley Snipes is but I googled him and he's good looking. Hey, someone once told me I look like Da Vinci's St. John the Baptist. Anyway. The panic attack sounds horrible . It's definitely something that needs to be addressed. What kind of nightmares did you have if I may ask? Were they about this guy? Lol i guess its good,i look like an atteactive man. Having a panic attack definitely isnt fun, esp if they are becoming regular. At least this time it only last 10, 12 hrs. Its really difficult to concentrate on tasks. I dreamed i met a guy. We went on a date. I was really happy. He invited me on another date, but he was with another woman. Thats,a vad way to get dumped.
autumnnight Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 First, I am so sorry about your panic attack and ensuing anxiety and nightmares. I hate those things because of the lack of control feeling. When I know or feel as if I have no control over something, I can really break down. I do hope the nightmares abate soon On a lighter note, Wesley Snipes can't be all bad because he was one of the main characters on "To Wong Foo..." and he was dressed as a woman I take it to mean you are tall, statuesque, and fierce 1
regine_phalange Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 Lol i guess its good,i look like an atteactive man. Having a panic attack definitely isnt fun, esp if they are becoming regular. At least this time it only last 10, 12 hrs. Its really difficult to concentrate on tasks. I dreamed i met a guy. We went on a date. I was really happy. He invited me on another date, but he was with another woman. Thats,a vad way to get dumped. What an excuse of a man! But if you see the panic attacks making your everyday life difficult, then professional advice can be helpful. Most of us go through some kind of psychological downs, but you can't wait for it to go away on its own. I've been there (not with panic attacks but depression) and I was thinking afterwards that I should have addressed it earlier! I'm not sure what kind of psychiatrist specialty is best for panic attacks, cognitive behavioural or other. But you have nothing to lose and you'll possibly acquire more tools to handle the panic attacks when they happen.
Author hotpotato Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 ^well, its not that different from what has really happened to me!
Author hotpotato Posted August 1, 2015 Author Posted August 1, 2015 Ok, here's an update. Things are better. Wesley snipes guy went away again. he'll be back. I'm kinda sorta fwb now. Him asking me repeatedly worked. lol
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