Why do asexuals get into relationships with non asexuals?

[Gloria25]

Look, if you have hormones, you have some sexual urges. It's biology. What you choose to do with them is one thing. If you have no sex drive, something in your body is off, probably hormones but can be brain issues or combination of other things. You can't have normal range of hormones without having sexual needs. Now, there certainly are those who would rather just take care of those needs themselves and not be intimate and that's fine, but that came from somewhere. As I said in my first post, it can be "natural," but "natural" isn't always functional and can't be mistaken for normal. I have some very personal experience with hormone deficit due to being exposed to toxic waste as a child.

 

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[Gloria25]

I agree.

 

There are many people out there who have zero interest in sex, but in much of western culture, there is this assumption that there is something wrong with you if you if you are asexual. You need therapy, need some sort of medication, you're weird, whatever.

 

 

I think it might be especially difficult for men, as many times, a man's virility is culturally tied into his manliness and worth as a person.

 

I don't know, I grew up in foreign cultures and am Black/Hispanic and I find the lack of passion/sensuality/etc in Westerners quite "different" - whether they consider themselves asexual or normal...

[Rejected Rosebud]

I agree that there is nothing wrong with being asexual. If it is who a person is, they should not feel pressured to change or be ashamed. BUT if they knowingly married a sexual person....shame on them. .

But in fairness there wasn't really a thing called "asexual" recognized until pretty recently, those people might not have even understood that they were "different" from their partner in that way ... alot of times people don't start really enjoying sex until they find the right person or situation and I bet some asexual people take a long time in their life to discover that they are just not interested in it no matter what.

[frogs88]

Look, if you have hormones, you have some sexual urges. It's biology. What you choose to do with them is one thing. If you have no sex drive, something in your body is off, probably hormones but can be brain issues or combination of other things. You can't have normal range of hormones without having sexual needs.

 

No this isn't necessarily asexual. Asexual means not sexually attracted to anyone. They can still have a sex-drive just like a hetero-, homo- or bisexual person can lack a sex-drive. I suppose you're confused with an asexual person with no sex-drive. Whether these are a larger fraction of asexuals in general then in other sexual orientations may be true but I don't know that. But a person can be asexual and have normal hormone levels whatever that is since I'm no biologist.

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Look, if you have hormones, you have some sexual urges. It's biology. What you choose to do with them is one thing. If you have no sex drive, something in your body is off, probably hormones but can be brain issues or combination of other things. You can't have normal range of hormones without having sexual needs. Now, there certainly are those who would rather just take care of those needs themselves and not be intimate and that's fine, but that came from somewhere. As I said in my first post, it can be "natural," but "natural" isn't always functional and can't be mistaken for normal. I have some very personal experience with hormone deficit due to being exposed to toxic waste as a child.

 

 

There are many people with apserger's and other related issues that view themselves as asexual. They don't want or need sex with anyone else, and there is nothing wrong with that, so long as they are happy and satisfied in their life.

 

It's like there is nothing wrong with someone who is an extrovert, an introvert, someone who's gay, someone who is bisexual, etc., etc., etc.

 

While not wanting to have sex may not be normal for a particular individual, saying that it is not normal or functional to not have one or that everyone has some sex drive really isn't true.

 

here is an interesting article on the subject:

 

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/116655-macleansca-the-biggest-challenge-for-asexuals-navigating-a-sex-obsessed-world/

Edited May 22, 2015 by truncated