egalew Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 Curious to hear others thoughts on the guy who has a lot of women friends.
La.Primavera Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 He either really enjoys the company of women or he is friend zoned by every woman he dates. Some guys make better friends.
Guitarisgood Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 I was raised by very strong woman in our household and essentially learnt how to 'speak' to woman better and hence relate to them more. Doesn't mean I don't have guy friends. It's wierd. If I'm waiting in class, one by one, the girls will rock up and flock to me. My male friends maybe later or not but will then hang back until I seat up next to them in class and get the hurling banter and abuse that is mateship. Honestly, stop reading too much into small things in life. Just take it on face value because it is in observing and reading these little things that then make you overthink the worse and can easily screw up a relationship. 3
neowulf Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 I've always found it easy to relate to women, so I've always had my share of female friends. *shrug* I'm naturally more empathetic and communicative than most men, so I found it easier to get along with women. Once you've learnt how to properly be friends with women, you can learn a lot on their perspective of the world. Probably the reason I've never been single for more than 10 months since the age of 16... 1
loveweary11 Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 I am this guy. Ask any questions you like... I'll answer. I just understand women and don't understand men. No Idea what to talk to guys about if they are talking at all. Team sports? Hate them. Fishing? Not my thing. Cheap beer? There are about 1 of every 500 guys I can get along with. The rest, I eliminate from my sphere. I also grew up with a mom and sister mostly. Females just make more sense to me. Just like the other posters here said... I've just about always been in a relationship or married. Taking a little break from that right now, after a 12 year run with one chick. 2
Revolver Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 I used to think I had a lot of female friends but then realized we were just acquaintances. 1
spiritofjosh Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 I was raised by a single mother so I have that "feminine" quality that makes it easy for me to relate to women so I do have a lot of female friends. Unfortunately though is a good amount of them I have had sexual relations with or have dated to some extent (non are actually an ex girlfriend, it didn't get that far). But I know some guys who have a lot of female friends that none of them had ever been physical. Some have a lot of female friends who just never wanted them despite the guy wanting more. It varies.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 (edited) Again, every guy is different and I think maturity as a LOT to do with it. My old boyfriend was one of those super social butterflies who loved to party and LOVED the company of women, lots of women. Although he didn't sleep with all of them, he did with some and probably wanted to with the rest. Some women will have issues with that straight away. For me, that wasn't as big of an issue as his whole attitude about partying and being around so many women all the time. He also had a tendencies to play games - not sure if he thought he was being cute or he just didn't know better but it was hard to deal with and messed with my mind despite being a pretty self assured and confident woman. It became obvious just how painfully insecure he was (and still is). The need for that kind of constant attention from scores of women even when you have your own hot potato to go home to is a huge red flag in my opinion and one of the many reasons I ended it. With my current partner, he too has many more female friends then he does male friends. Women LOVE him BUT it is dramatically different! The difference between old boyfriend and new boyfriend is that new boyfriend is very respectful, sensitive to the feelings and needs of others, knows a good thing when he has it which means he makes me and our relationship a priority over everything and everyone else. He would never jeopardize our relationship or play stupid games like some men in his position. It's hard to take issue with anything because he doesn't give me any reason. The interesting thing is that both men were raised by and surround with lots of women (mother/sister/aunts/grandmothers) yet there styles on how to connect with women are vastly different. And even more interesting is that even though new boyfriend is 13 years younger than my old boyfriend, he is far and away more mature and self assured than old boyfriend ever was or ever will be. I think maturity makes all the difference. Edited May 21, 2015 by Michelle ma Belle 1
Lansing Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 Most of my friends are female... I think part of it is how does someone make new friends at a certain age.... Like if you are done school already and maybe only work with a few people, I don't really have opportunities to meet guys even. I find that if I did meet a guy out in a group setting like that it is harder to "connect" with them to actually become friends. There are a few guys that I have met through these situations and we have kept in touch but I find the girls that I have met have become more regular in terms of hanging out together/etc.
loveweary11 Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 The women posters probably don't like it due to jealousy, which is totally understandable. I wouldn't want my girlfriend having all these guy friends. But, I distance myself from all friends when in a relationship and focus only on my partner. They typically become my only and best friend and I don't even do things with my friends when coupled up. So... works a little differently than the female posters are imagining, at least in my case. 1
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