mrsSmith09 Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 my bf is a otr truck driver. Recently i was on the truck with him for a month. But when i got home home life feels different. I feel empty now. The things i used to enjoy doing at home has no feeling now. Days seems to take forever now. Its a lot more boring. He's always on my mind. My heart wants to jump out my chest and run back to where he is. Am i this deep in love with him. Cause it seems that seeing him again is the only reason im still breathing. It may be a bit much. Im only 23 and he is 34. I but he has shown me such a beautiful world. He motivates me everyday to be better. He has help build me into a woman. I know he loves me if not the same, more. I don't want to mess this up for nothing. I've hurt n been hurt always knowing it was going to happen. But its different with him. I love him with every part of me.
MissBee Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 My roommate was just talking to me about something similar. She has been seeing this guy and have been attached at the hip with him morning, noon and night for the last month or so and then now they have time apart and he's freaking out. In their case they were also joined at the hip because they depend on each other emotionally to the point of isolating themselves. I'll tell you what I told her: if you spend intense amounts of time with someone esp early on, time apart will feel like withdrawal. She also agreed that it builds up an intensity where you can't always tell if it's truly love or just intensity and attachment and then withdrawal when you're apart. I told her I had that experience where I practically lived with an ex very early on and when I did that I stopped feeling like a real person as it was just all about him him him and us 24/7. I said I didn't feel like a real person and I guess it's the equivalent of things feeling different or off like you said. To me it sounds like you're experiencing that withdrawal after intense amounts of time of just you and your SO. It's not always healthy if when apart you feel like you cannot live or breathe and all you want is to be with them. It's normal to miss your SO but not to where life seems meaningless. Get back into your own routine to start feeling normal again. Do you work? Go to school? Have hobbies? Friends?
Redhead14 Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 my bf is a otr truck driver. Recently i was on the truck with him for a month. But when i got home home life feels different. I feel empty now. The things i used to enjoy doing at home has no feeling now. Days seems to take forever now. Its a lot more boring. He's always on my mind. My heart wants to jump out my chest and run back to where he is. Am i this deep in love with him. Cause it seems that seeing him again is the only reason im still breathing. It may be a bit much. Im only 23 and he is 34. I but he has shown me such a beautiful world. He motivates me everyday to be better. He has help build me into a woman. I know he loves me if not the same, more. I don't want to mess this up for nothing. I've hurt n been hurt always knowing it was going to happen. But its different with him. I love him with every part of me. If you are "losing" yourself in this man, you will lose the relationship. A man doesn't need an extension of himself, he needs someone to compliment his life. He needs to come home to a strong, secure, independent woman that he doesn't need to worry about. If you aren't living a life of your own while he is away and he is thinking that you are home alone, worrying, stressing or feeling empty, he's going to start feeling pressured as your only source of comfort and as if he is "losing" the woman he was first attracted to. Be the woman he loves, be happy, be strong, be secure in his love for you. Live a fulfilling life outside of the relationship. You'll have more to share when he's home.
Gaeta Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 my bf is a otr truck driver. Recently i was on the truck with him for a month. But when i got home home life feels different. I feel empty now. The things i used to enjoy doing at home has no feeling now. Days seems to take forever now. Its a lot more boring. He's always on my mind. My heart wants to jump out my chest and run back to where he is. Am i this deep in love with him. Cause it seems that seeing him again is the only reason im still breathing. It may be a bit much. Im only 23 and he is 34. I but he has shown me such a beautiful world. He motivates me everyday to be better. He has help build me into a woman. I know he loves me if not the same, more. I don't want to mess this up for nothing. I've hurt n been hurt always knowing it was going to happen. But its different with him. I love him with every part of me. I have known that feeling when I was a young military wife and my husband left months at a time. The feeling of emptiness last for a couple of days/weeks then you get back in your routine, it's perfectly normal. What you need to do is to live a full life, keep busy, get into sports and activities, give yourself new goal like doing sports or reading books, try volunteer work. Use this time to build stronger relationships with your family and friends. Take your mom out, spend time with your siblings. These relationships are as important as your romantic relationship and need nourishing as well. Make short term projects with your boyfriend like planning a special date or a weekend away and concentrate on that. Being with him is happiness but there is also happiness in anticipating his return and knowing someone out there truly loves you.
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