Turning my bad day into remembering how proud I am for how far I've come

[Clarence_Boddicker]

My opinion is: Who knows, who cares. Ironically the guy my ex cheated with & dumped me for shares my name.

[TunaCat]

If I asked myself that question at all, I'd be knee deep in a tub of rocky road ice cream.

 

Seriously though, it doesn't matter if they think about us. The relationship is over. No matter who ended it, it's dead.

[HeBa]

well i cant be sure if he is thinking about me or not , maybe yes maybe no but i am sure he don't feel as bad as i feel.

 

and actually when i was the dumper i was thinking about the other partner.

But Still it do not change anything !

 

Continue on Moving On

[Kitkatleen24]

I've never been the dumper, always the dumpee. My ex still thinks of me I'm sure. Of course they do think of you, after all you spent months/years together. But that doesn't change anything because that doesn't mean they will want to come back. I think of them and wonder if they think of me but eventually I realise if they really loved me, they would had done everything to get me back like what I would had done. But no, they didn't. The most they did is throw some breadcrumbs. I realise I deserve better. I don't know but I think more male dumpers will tend to come back after a few months. The way we girls handle the break up is way different.

 

I'm not saying it's true for everyone but had been true for me & my circle of friends. Girls usually cry and talk to all their friends about the BU and then get over it, it's also easier for a girl to find a new boyfriend. While guys tends to feel the freedom and then crashes down few months later. Guys have to chase girls and they tend to meet with a lot of rejection, they can't talk to their buddies about the BU due to ego issue. So I feel like male dumpers are more prone to think of their ex. But anyway, the main point is yes they do think of you. But you should move on because if they wanted you, they will put in the effort.

[Jonp219]

I was just thinking about this today.

 

Like, I think about her a little less every week, so to me i'm thinking I must be a complete afterthought to her.

 

Today i'm missing her quite a bit, I even have the urge to check her Twitter (which I haven't checked in over a month). But I know I shouldn't, I don't want to find something I didn't want to see.

[kismetkismet]

There's no way to know for sure. I broke up with my boyfriend almost 2 months ago and I think about him and cry over it almost every day... I broke up with him because we wanted different things for the long term though.. not because I didn't love him anymore. We reopened contact a couple of weeks ago and slept together, but he was messaging me too much and it was too hard for me to deal with, so I asked him to stop.

 

There's really no way to know whether or not they are. Even though I was the one to leave and the one to sever contact, I'm having a lot of difficulty dealing with it. It doesn't mean breaking up wasn't the right thing to do, but I still miss him horribly sometimes.

[Jonp219]

I also feel 'dumpers' at times have a 'dumpee' mentality too.

 

Like, "Oh if he loves me he would contact me to get me back", or "Oh he probably moved on, i'm not going to embarrass myself and contact him". Either way, break ups are just ugh, i'm going to miss her like crazy this summer...

[mimiMobile]

2 months after break up of a 3 year relationship, I did something stupid and ended up at my ex's place. It was like 3 a.m. Long story. We were in a dramatic confrontation and sitting on a couch having a talk. I remember distinctly asking him, "Do you ever regret letting me go?"

and he responded with, "I think about you every single day. And I ask myself that every single day."

 

So yes. Depending on how much you loved each other, the feelings don't just disappear. Unless you were broken up with for reasons like "I don't love you anymore" etc. I don't believe love is something you can switch on or off.

[gnick]

I'm sending mine a birthday and Christmas card every year untill either one of us is not around anymore so she will think of me twice a year whether she rolls her eyes or whatever lol

[LooperDooper]

Today was a bad day for me, I've gotten accustomed to seeing my ex and her new relationship in class everyday, but she's never been the cuddling type. Today she showed some public affection with him, not sure if maybe she's been like this with him all the time or I've just gotten to the point where I choose to not see it, and today it was inevitable.

 

It was hard, I know I couldn't get back together with her ever again so this shouldn't hurt or make me care. I thought I was becoming indifferent forcefully by seeing them together every day but today it hurt, a little.

 

So instead of moping around, I'm going to give myself a pat on the back. I'm very proud of myself having over come to the best of my abilities these things. I am not yet the person I want to become, but either way I'm doing it slowly for myself and not for anybody else. I've learned to reject incoming love because I recognize I cannot be in a relationship at the moment, I've grown to accept other people and try to be more friendly and sociable, I've learned to accept myself for who I am and whatever insecurities I have. I've come to appreciate the people around me and I've come to learn how to help my friends going through the same thing as I did 3-4 months ago.

 

I'm having a bad day, but I'm not letting it get to me and neither should you. These are the days we should remember how far we've come, how secure we can be, and how strong we will be in the end. My ex is the type who can't be alone and will jump from relationship to relationship, unfortunately beginning most of her relationships in bed. Unfortunately I feel bad for her, because few men will reject her and frankly she will spring an image of insecurity among others, let's hope she one day becomes strong enough to accept herself on her own and without people taking disrespecting her.

 

I am happy, I am proud. So let's hear some good things because I'm done ruining my days with sadness.

 

What are you proud of for doing yourself?

[darkbloom]

I'm proud that I got my ass to the gym today.

 

I'm also proud that I haven't checked his social media once since the breakup. I haven't unblocked him on anything. And even when his username shows up on insta, I ignore and move on.

[Familia]

So proud of the both of you, takes so much effort and hard work. Well done and keep moving forward

 

I am proud of myself for doing all of the above since seeing my EX with a new partner, I have no desire in my brain anymore to reconcile, my heart does

[imbax]

Today was a bad day for me, I've gotten accustomed to seeing my ex and her new relationship in class everyday, but she's never been the cuddling type. Today she showed some public affection with him, not sure if maybe she's been like this with him all the time or I've just gotten to the point where I choose to not see it, and today it was inevitable.

 

It was hard, I know I couldn't get back together with her ever again so this shouldn't hurt or make me care. I thought I was becoming indifferent forcefully by seeing them together every day but today it hurt, a little.

 

So instead of moping around, I'm going to give myself a pat on the back. I'm very proud of myself having over come to the best of my abilities these things. I am not yet the person I want to become, but either way I'm doing it slowly for myself and not for anybody else. I've learned to reject incoming love because I recognize I cannot be in a relationship at the moment, I've grown to accept other people and try to be more friendly and sociable, I've learned to accept myself for who I am and whatever insecurities I have. I've come to appreciate the people around me and I've come to learn how to help my friends going through the same thing as I did 3-4 months ago.

 

I'm having a bad day, but I'm not letting it get to me and neither should you. These are the days we should remember how far we've come, how secure we can be, and how strong we will be in the end. My ex is the type who can't be alone and will jump from relationship to relationship, unfortunately beginning most of her relationships in bed. Unfortunately I feel bad for her, because few men will reject her and frankly she will spring an image of insecurity among others, let's hope she one day becomes strong enough to accept herself on her own and without people taking disrespecting her.

 

I am happy, I am proud. So let's hear some good things because I'm done ruining my days with sadness.

 

What are you proud of for doing yourself?

 

Hey man it would suck to have to see her with another guy most days. That would cut anyone really deep. How are you on the surface though? Do you hide it well? NEVER allow her to get the satisfaction of hurting you. Be strong on the surface and if you need to go home and have a cry do so, but never show her that she has got the better of you. You will eventually come out stronger and the better guy that everyone appreciates.

 

I think I am proud for only breaking NC once and ever since I haven't contacted her, not a single whisper from me. I have kept my dignity intact. That's the only thing I am proud about...