Not exactly sure what this girl wants?

[spiritofjosh]

To start this is actually involving a girl I dated almost two years ago for two months. I don't really consider this something to put in a break up section because it seems to be a clean slate currently.

 

For the breakup; we began dating pretty quickly but we got along very well and she was very good to me. We broke up because we started drifting in different directions emotionally and we just decided we wouldn't date anymore then somewhat lost touch with each other. From then until now she reached out to make small talk a few times but nothing serious.

 

Recently me and someone I dated for 6 months ended our relationship and a month later the girl in question now started snapchatting me one night I was out at a bar. She finally texted me asking how I was then to come meet up with her, I said I didn't drive but to meet with me. She left to come to me 10 minutes after I said to then kept buying me drinks. She ended up driving me home and I let her stay over, we didn't hook up and I tried kissing her but she did nothing more than kiss me a few times normally (not make out). She woke up the next morning and laid on my chest then kissed my neck when she left because she had work.

 

The coming days following she started asking me to hang out a lot, almost daily. She'd ask me about a lot of stuff she remembered from when we dated etc. Since I didn't want to pursue her she'd usually do the texting and asking to hang out, but over time it seemed to fluctuate. We went out almost every weekend and she stayed over twice last weekend and this passing Friday I asked her to go out and she stayed over again and we ended up sleeping with each other. I didn't hear from her Saturday because she went to sleep after she got off work and texted me a little bit Sunday but asked me to hang out for a bit. When she dropped me back home she asked if I wanted to see a movie this week and I said yeah. It's now Wednesday and I've only heard from her briefly Monday night when she sent me a picture of movie times, but I fell asleep after work so I didn't get back to her until later on that night. She answered me the next day saying she wants to still go but will let me know what days she works earlier so we don't have to go super late. That was yesterday afternoon and I haven't heard from her since.

 

She hasn't been asking me to hang out as much as she used to now and hasn't been texting me quite as much if at all. But I do know that when she's at work she gets no service and texts don't send. Also, when we went out a few times I was getting home super late when I have work very early, prompting her to say she felt bad keeping me out.

 

Basically I want to kind of know what she wants whether she wants to just stay friends or possibly be a little more involved? I'm not ready to date anybody right now but I do enjoy her company specifically and the "more than friends" idea she started showing. I just don't want to ask her straight because I don't want to turn her off but she hasn't mentioned anything to me herself.

 

I appreciate any and all responses but please, I don't need to be asked why I'd want her and not somebody new. I understand this but at my age and schedule plus my group of friends and what we do, I don't have a lot of opportunities to meet new people. I don't meet girls at bars and I don't do online dating and I'm not interested in dating just yet now anyway, just want to have fun with somebody familiar.

[casey.lives]

do some small talk with her.. how can we know??

[phineas]

fricken ask her what she wants with you.

sheesh.

I've had women from my past do this all of a sudden out of the blue.

I ask them what they want with me.

And I do it before i meet them.

 

it really is that simple.