tomtheman1234 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 I think this is a bit odd. I am a man from the UK in my late 30's I met this girl on a match making site who is in her early 30's. We have known each other for about 3 months and met up 4 times. She live about an hour away from me and each of the 4 times we have met up I have driven the hours drive down to meet up with her. The first 3 dates went really well. We just went out for dinner very casual. At the end of the 3 dates she gave me a quick goodbye kiss not a proper kiss. The forth time we met up we went to her parents place where she lives and watched TV and got a take away. She spent most of the evening fussing about weather her cat liked me. I asked her if she would like me to give her a proper kiss just before I left she said no as French kissing makes her feel sick. She also said she has never had sex and that she is waiting until the time is right but not sure she really wants sex. I never asked her if she wanted sex. She said French kissing is never going to happen. She also said that she was engaged to some bloke and she broke it off with him as he asked her to move in with him and his Dad and that if she did move in he said that she would have to put some money towards the rent. I text her last week to ask if she would like to come up my way to see me and she said no. I asked if we could meet half way she said no. I then text her to say there is a small chance I might move out of the area. She then replayed with a few very nasty and hurtful texts and said if I move let's be friends but if I don't let's be a proper couple. I am not sure we are no the same wave length. To me this is all a bit odd.
CarrieT Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 This is why you date; you have now figured out all you need to know about her. Time to break up... 1
Toodaloo Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 To me this is all a bit odd. To me this is very "odd". Time to say good bye. This one is not for you and there is nothing you can do that will change that.
empresario Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Unless there is some cultural difference I'm not understanding...this woman is very selfish and lacks empathy/sympathy. You know who else lacks those things? Sociopaths. Narcissists. A-holes. Either way, this is not someone you deserve to have in your life.
GemmaUK Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Eek! She sounds very strange to me! I'd be cutting ties if I were you. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Yes, it's odd. I wouldn't see her again. Too many red flags here.
misspond Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Let her go and go about finding someone who doesn't make you jump through hoops so that they can feel better about themselves. She sounds like a total nightmare.
losangelena Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Next her. Frenching makes her feel ill? How does she become aroused? I feel like she's maybe saying that to let you down easy. She doesn't like kissing and she's waiting to have sex for when the time is right? If you inspired her to drop her undies, I guarantee, the time would be right. Surely there is someone closer/more compatible.
Author tomtheman1234 Posted May 21, 2015 Author Posted May 21, 2015 (edited) Thanks to everyone for your advice. As it happens I have decided to move out of my area and to move to Totnes in Devon in the UK which is about 3 hours from where I live at the moment. There is now nothing to keep me in my area. Over the last year I have made friends with a band from Devon and made friends with some of there groupies and crew and hangers on. Also Totnes has been voted 15th out of 50 best places for single man and woman to live in the UK. For the last 2 years i have been thinking of moving to that area. I hope I will meet someone on my wave length down there. It will be a more chilled out way of life. Edited May 21, 2015 by tomtheman1234
Phoenician Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 you are to lucky Bastard to know all this at early stage run run as fast as u can ....
Phoenician Posted May 21, 2015 Posted May 21, 2015 Next her. Frenching makes her feel ill? How does she become aroused? I feel like she's maybe saying that to let you down easy. She doesn't like kissing and she's waiting to have sex for when the time is right? If you inspired her to drop her undies, I guarantee, the time would be right. Surely there is someone closer/more compatible. losangelena , My wife gave me a french kiss only after 12 years of marriage ... She always claimed that she can't breath from her nose properly !
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