mightycpa Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Look, ordinary drinkers don't black out and do things they wouldn't do sober. So you are a serious alcoholic. That's a pretty big leap. I think maybe he just drinks a lot. You can't diagnose an alcoholic by referring to a few drunk episodes, no matter how drunk someone gets.
eleve82 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 That's a pretty big leap. I think maybe he just drinks a lot. You can't diagnose an alcoholic by referring to a few drunk episodes, no matter how drunk someone gets. His behavior was atrocious even for a casual drinker though... I too often question if how a person behaves or what he or she says when drunk is a reflection of deeper sentiments. No drunk bf of mine has been so disrespectful to me before.
mightycpa Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 His behavior was atrocious even for a casual drinker though... I too often question if how a person behaves or what he or she says when drunk is a reflection of deeper sentiments. No drunk bf of mine has been so disrespectful to me before.No disagreement there... he definitely has something going on with that girl inside of him that came out while he was drunk. However, that has nothing to do with alcoholism. For all we know, he didn't eat anything and got served unusually strong drinks, and went over the edge unintentionally. It happens.
joseb Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 For all we know, he didn't eat anything and got served unusually strong drinks, and went over the edge unintentionally. It happens. I guess it's possible, but he said he was out for a meal - so unlikely he didnt eat anything, and also stated that it was the second time this happened, so I think it might be a bit more than simple over indulgence.
Diezel Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 What's sad is he'll probably do it again now that they are back together. For both their sakes, I hope not, because blacking out like that means he went past the point of alcohol abuse by FAR. That is not healthy, and to say it's the SECOND time. I wish he would have gotten the help he needs BEFORE trying to get back with her.
minime13 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Just to let you guys know. I got back together with my GF after bickering for a few days Saturday night she told me it was definitely over for good. I replied by saying okay and that we won't be able to speak if you really mean that. Sunday morning I had a text apologising saying she was a bit harsh etc. And that she just needs time. Today we met up and sorted everything out and we are back on. Hope to not get in this situation again too soon thanks for the help guys. It's going to keep happening if you don't fix the issues you are having. A woman (nor a man, really) can honestly get over the things you've said and done that quickly. So, just be prepared for another blow-up. If you really want to fix this relationship, come back when you're ready to listen.
minime13 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 His behavior was atrocious even for a casual drinker though... I too often question if how a person behaves or what he or she says when drunk is a reflection of deeper sentiments. No drunk bf of mine has been so disrespectful to me before. None of us are qualified to diagnose someone as an alcoholic over the internet. He could be, or he could be abusing it to self-medicate for deeper problems. Or he could just drink a lot and get to the point of no return. Blacking out doesn't equal alcoholic. That label is thrown around too much, and it actually is damaging to tell a person they have a disease when they don't.
minime13 Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 It's going to keep happening if you don't fix the issues you are having. A woman (nor a man, really) can honestly get over the things you've said and done that quickly. So, just be prepared for another blow-up. If you really want to fix this relationship, come back when you're ready to listen. *No woman is what that should read.
mightycpa Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 What's sad is he'll probably do it again now that they are back together. For both their sakes, I hope not, because blacking out like that means he went past the point of alcohol abuse by FAR. That is not healthy, and to say it's the SECOND time. I wish he would have gotten the help he needs BEFORE trying to get back with her.Oooooooh, TWO TIMES! Meh. He is who he is, and if he feels the need to get blackout drunk every now and again, then that's who he is. Is it particularly healthy? No, but it is probably no worse than smoking a pack of cigarettes every once in a while. If he doesn't drive, it will probably only shorten his life a little. It all depends on how often, right? Once a week is a lot different than once every couple years. Who's to say he needs "help"? Maybe he just needs to figure out how to know when he's approaching his personal limit, because he doesn't seem to respond to the usual clues. I'm not going to go all Carrie Nation on him just for doing that a couple of times. He may very well dish out more abuse to his girl, and she may very well decide not to put up with it. But that's his problem, and I don't think one that he necessarily needs help figuring out. Maybe he just needs to decide which of the two things he can live without - her, or drinking his face off in front of her.
joseb Posted May 27, 2015 Posted May 27, 2015 Yeah I guess you make a good point - 2 times over, say, 2 years is maybe not such a big deal. I for one get pretty blotto on occasion. But I can't remember a time getting like that when with a girlfriend tbh, especially at a meal. I'd agree it doesn't equal alcoholic, but I think it's indicative of a bigger problem (in the relationship)
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