Tiffanimonroe85 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Ok so I'm 19 years old and a college student , I'm really attractive and get a lot of attention from men on social media , I met my boyfriend on social media a year ago and we've been on an off since October of 2013 , I was in the process of dating his friend before him but ended up liking him more so we talked on the phone every night , hung out , he met my family I met his , we even contemplated marriage and having children in the future , the only problem is he says I'm "too friendly " on social media with guys and it's really disrespectful to him , and I am "friendly" in a way , if someone comments up under my pictures I will politely respond , "thank you " , but to him that's being "friendly" he even gets angry if guys comment up under my statuses and I respond, I don't know if it's an insecurity issue or what because he comments up under girl's pictures all the time and I Don't get angry , he also always accused me of cheating and he doesn't allow me to have male friends ,he thinks all my male friends secretly want to have sex with me . Okay, to get to the point , last week my boyfriend asked me for 250 dollars last week because he had to pay court fees , I am currently unemployed but I asked my dad for the money , unfortunately I was unable to get the money for him and he got angry and said he thought I didn't care if he went to jail which was completely untrue , but I mistakenly sent him a text meant for a friend that said " I Deleted it all , he's not gonna find out" and he flipped on me , he texted me and said ,"lose my number " I'm out of your life for good , you're single " " I don't want to be with you , I don't care anymore" . This really hurt me because he has walked out of my life before but never said those words to me they really hurt because this is the same guy that said he wanted to Marry me and I was the girl of his dreams . He's done many other things to hurt me in the past like lying about owning a car and some mysterious girl even Messaged me from his Twitter account saying she was with him for 11 MONTHS and that he had been driving HER CAR and I still forgave him for all that but I texted him trying to reason with him and see him one last time and all he said was , "k." I finally gave up and stopped texting him but I'm still hurt , I miss him , I'm in love with him but I don't know what to do.
lolablue17 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Just of curiosity - How did you mistakenly send a message says: "I Deleted it all , he's not gonna find out"? I mean, what was the real meaning of that text? 1
Author Tiffanimonroe85 Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 Just of curiosity - How did you mistakenly send a message says: "I Deleted it all , he's not gonna find out"? I mean, what was the real meaning of that text? Honesty it was meant to see how he would respond , , childish I know , but I just wanted to see how he would respond because he was kind of giving me the cold shoulder all day. 1
lolablue17 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 (edited) Honestly it was meant to see how he would respond , ��, childish I know , but I just wanted to see how he would respond because he was kind of giving me the cold shoulder all day. Well now you understand. It does seems odd. You made a joke and faked an evidence showing as if you're cheating. Your timing to make the joke was exactly when he is mad at you, and disappointed of you. If i were him i would figure out that it's unreasonable for you to tell that joke on that timing, so it must be a true evidence. Also i must add that me too, without knowing you, i don't totally buy that explanation of yours. About the 250$... It's not so much money so how did he manage to find himself in a situation which he's going to jail for 250$??!! His cellphone costs more... And why was he angry when you didn't raise the money? It seems very strange to me. I mean, if he's mad at you for 250$, you don't want him anyway. Edited May 20, 2015 by lolablue17 2
ManyDissapoint Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Hang on...you sent him a text that made it look like you were cheating on him in order to test him. And now he broke up with you? That is crazy behavior. 1
Satu Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 You seem to like messing with each others heads. Drama. I don't see much to enjoy. Time to do some serious and honest thinking.
elaine567 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Ok so I'm 19 years old and a college student , I'm really attractive and get a lot of attention from men on social media., we even contemplated marriage and having children in the future he says I'm "too friendly " on social media with guys he comments up under girl's pictures all the time and I Don't get angry he also always accused me of cheating and he doesn't allow me to have male friends, he thinks all my male friends secretly want to have sex with me he had to pay court fees I was unable to get the money for him and he got angry I mistakenly sent him a text meant for a friend that said " I Deleted it all , he's not gonna find out" (He replies) " I'm out of your life for good , you're single " He's done many other things to hurt me in the past like lying about owning a car some mysterious girl even Messaged me from his Twitter account saying she was with him for 11 MONTHS and that he had been driving HER CAR All this stuff about marriage and kids in the future, is pie in the sky. You have a drama filled, immature relationship with a possessive guy with a criminal record, a temper and a very loose connection with the truth. Is that really who you want to get hitched to? That sounds like no fun to me. Concentrate on your studying, finding a job and sorting your own life out and find someone a lot better. 1
SLee Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 You're 19, so the good news is you're young and you have time to fix this behavior. Sending texts or doing anything else to "test" a partner is game playing and it's juvenile. If you want a longterm partner and are looking to marry in the future, this type of thing CANNOT happen. What you need to do now is mature. It's not a crime or even a bad thing to be immature at 19. It's normal, but if you want to keep any partner around you have to stop with the games. I'm in my early 20s and I see people in their mid-20s and up playing these game and it always ends up bad. Don't be that person. Playing games will get old real quick for you and for anyone you date. Next time a boyfriend gives you a cold shoulder, ask "Are you okay?" or "Is something wrong?" instead of sending fake texts. Don't insight drama. No one you want to be with permanently will stand for that and it won't lead to anything. Grow from this. 1
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