thesouthernlady Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Okay, I have a tendency to really draw things out when writing about them - English major problems - so I will try to sum this up effectively, yet precisely. We met on Tinder. I know that it is not a place to really expect anything from, but this guy really seemed to be into me. We texted a few days and then we just kinda stopped, which happened because... We were chatting one night and the conversation was dying, so I told him, politely, that I would talk to him later and for him to have a good night. He asks, "Are you going to bed?" Then proceeded to send me text messages continuing our conversation, almost like he was rejecting my attempt to end the conversation...that was my first red flag and definitely made me raise my eyebrows. I text him back the next morning, apologizing for having to leave the conversation and proceeded to continue...he never replied and I thought that was rude and red flag #2. We didn't talk for a week until he text me, asking about graduation and when I didn't reply in two hours, he sent "Heyyyy." Red flag #3. A few days later, I decided to reply and told him I had been busy and hoped we could catch up soon and told him to have a good day. (Not completely a lie, but he had dropped down on my priority list since he decided to ignore me for no good reason.) A few days later, he messages me, I reply, and he doesn't reply...until 4 a.m. when he sees my post about players (yes, so passive aggressive of me...I will admit it) and says he "napped" all day, didn't see my message, and that my post was so true. Really? I thought the fact that he mentioned my post was a joke. Lol. A few days later, we are texting and he asks to call me. We chat for an hour or two - he said he could really relate to me because we both came from divorced families and face a lot of the same issues that stem from that, that he respected women, etc. - and he asks me to go to Six Flags in his home state, which is only about an hour and a half for me and 45 minutes for him. He asked about that weekend, but I was scheduled to work all weekend, so I told him I would let him know about next week's schedule, but definitely wanted to! He text me the next night and we had a flirty conversation. I joked with him about him being closer to 30 at 26 years old than me (almost 23 years old) and he replied with a Hmmmm. I didn't reply to that because what could I say? He didn't text me for three days, which was odd, considering our recent more consistent conversations and so I decided to ask him if he was free for this Thursday, since I had told him I would get back to him. He didn't reply. So, I had had it. I was over his double standard treatment of ignoring me and replying 5 hours later, only to hit me with a "Heyyyy" or a "?" when I didn't respond fast enough for him. The next morning after my ignored text that asked if he was free Thursday, I sent him, "Actually, never mind. I'm not into the whole "place the ball in her court" approach. It's so weak. Lol. You've just shown way too many inconsistencies in your words and actions for me. One example being that you get impatient if I don't answer you in an hour, but don't reply to me for 5 hours or at all. It was fun talking to you and I wish you the best in the future!" Even just reading what I have wrote here, it makes me feel better about my choice, even if my "cutting off" text was kinda mean. It just seems like he was texting me whenever it was convenient for him, but getting mad if I didn't cater to him when he wanted to talk to me. And, the continuing the conversation when I wished him a good night? Really screams "I think I am entitled to whatever I want, whenever I want." I always second guess myself when it comes to cutting guys out because I can be overly sensitive to perceived bull**** and games, but I think this is one instance in which I made the right choice to end it before he could drag me along for more. Am I wrong? I've been beating myself up over cutting ties with someone who got the whole "divorced parent" thing, but I think that is my hope talking instead of reality.
jen1447 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Sounds justified to me hon. You might have some regret over lost potential creeping into your assessment of your conduct, but it's best not to mix the two up. I hate slow texters too.
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