Pastmen Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Okay so this is my story, i'm really heartbroken and I hope some of you can help me with some answers. My girlfriend (17) and me (19) were dating for a bit over a year and everything was always great. We never had a fight during our relationship and we've talked every day. Since she was living about 3 hours away from me, I saw her once every week. These meetings we're always very nice for the both of us and we always we're very happy to see each other again. This was the same the last week before the break up where I could finally see her again after she had been on vacation for 2 weeks. She told me stories of guys that said that they didn't like it that she was seeing someone cause otherwise they would try to be with her and she seemed to like that (her confidence was really bad at the beginning of the relationship but now after a year with me she started to get a lot more confidence and this made it just even better for her I think). I'm not a really jealous person so I just accepted it and felt actually kind of proud about it . But I went and see her the week after her vacation and everything was great again we had a lot of fun like always and nothing seemed wrong. We kissed a lot again and played games, you get my point. Also via texts a day after I was there just nothing was wrong. She even told me she really liked it again and already was missing me again. Those words we're her last words that day and all of a sudden, the next morning she came up to me and said to me that we had to talk about us... She was crying and told me that her feelings were gone and she just felt so bad about it. I couldn't believe my ears, that was just the last thing I would've expected to happen that day. I don't know if she is just an great actor and hid her feelings for me but if there is anything wrong, most of the time you see it, right? I'm just lost for words and don't know why she has broken up with me in all of a sudden. I hope someone can help me and give me maybe some answers so I can stop thinking about it. If you need any more information, I will be here to answer it just really please help me!
Author Pastmen Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 We made an agreement that I would talk to her again when i'm ready but I also don't know when this has to happen and what I can expect from that conversation. What should I tell her? About my feelings for her, or that I just can't be friends? I really like her and would love to get her back eventually...
AIJ Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Give it a few weeks and you'll begin to look back and pick up on some of the signals and 'red flags'. You won't get her back, that's the reality of it. She is done with you, your part in her life is over. Remove her, block her etc... no contact should be very easy in you situation, seeing as she lives quite far away from you. No real reason to ever accidentally bump in to one another. In a few months you'll be fine Oh also, chances are someone else more local came in to the picture. I'm not saying it's a guarantee, but if you do happen to see her all cuddled up to another guy that was 'just a friend', or even someone that you'd never heard of, in a few weeks time, don't be surprised.
Author Pastmen Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 Give it a few weeks and you'll begin to look back and pick up on some of the signals and 'red flags'. You won't get her back, that's the reality of it. She is done with you, your part in her life is over. Remove her, block her etc... no contact should be very easy in you situation, seeing as she lives quite far away from you. No real reason to ever accidentally bump in to one another. In a few months you'll be fine Oh also, chances are someone else more local came in to the picture. I'm not saying it's a guarantee, but if you do happen to see her all cuddled up to another guy that was 'just a friend', or even someone that you'd never heard of, in a few weeks time, don't be surprised. Thank you for your reaction, but I just don't think she is such a kind of person. She was crying when she told me and send me apologies even after the break up I can't see her being with someone else right now... How is it possible that when everything is going fine and then the next moment she just breaks up with you? I just can't understand it.
AIJ Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Thank you for your reaction, but I just don't think she is such a kind of person. She was crying when she told me and send me apologies even after the break up I can't see her being with someone else right now... How is it possible that when everything is going fine and then the next moment she just breaks up with you? I just can't understand it. She's crying because she feels guilty for hurting you. Obviously everything wasn't fine on her end.
Author Pastmen Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 She's crying because she feels guilty for hurting you. Obviously everything wasn't fine on her end. But how can you than explain that she wasn't reluctant and everything just felt great seeing her again, she arranged for us a meeting so she could see me again even though she was busy we kissed a lot was this all fake?
AIJ Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 But how can you than explain that she wasn't reluctant and everything just felt great seeing her again, she arranged for us a meeting so she could see me again even though she was busy we kissed a lot was this all fake? Most likely to keep you on the backburner in case whoever she's got lined up at the moment falls through.
Author Pastmen Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 Wow.. I really can't see all this in my girlfriend and it hurts to read such things about her.. But I guess I can't do anything about it and I have to move on to a girl that just likes me for who I am... I still want to wait for her but if these things are really true its just not worth it..
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