lop98 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Threads like this can be so freaky... same person with two different accounts, the confused one and the supportive one. Anyway, yeah, providing this girlfriend exists, I would continue to meditate and go to therapy. Even more so if she doesn't.
Author deadelvis Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 ^^^why would someone do that? I mean about having two accounts and playing two opposing characters. thats a little schitzo... and why wouldn't my GF exist? you think I'd start this thread because I'm afraid of losing an imaginary girlfriend? maybe I'm not the one who needs therapy 1
Author deadelvis Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 Oh I think I get it. Because Noideanow is a new member who just started posting on this thread you assume it's a new account I created to "be supportive" to myself? Look at the difference in grammar and punctuation. Common sense people. and to ExPatInItaly... Hemingway called, he said he want's his likeness to be associated with the romantic and devoted lover he was during his years as an ExPat in Italy. Hemingway would say therapy is for the weak.
Noideanow Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 here is the supposed nonexistent noideanow, hahaha:) omg how can anybody be soo..., i have met illusionary people like you in real life, what a waste of time. The only important thing for me is that i have shared my thoughts with deadelvis and hopefully other likeminded people out there, and then you can judge as you want. good luck in wasting your time conspyrit;)
Noideanow Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 are you jealous lop98? would you like to get some support? maybe i can help you in some way, i just happen to identify with deadelvis as a person and his thougts and feelings, I simply want him to feel like he is not in the wrong with his feelings (because to me they are beautiful), there are too many people judging like you in here, loving to point out the same route to hell they have taken themselves, thats not love:(
Author deadelvis Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 not that it really matters to anyone besides myself, but I've been getting much better at "not pushing her away" 1
losangelena Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 I guess I was just curious if people think I'm perfectly normal and just really in love with this woman or if I'm suffering from some sort of relationship OCD mental illness. love and madness are very similar feelings To me, you sound co-dependent. I had a co-dependent relationship for a couple of years, and what felt like "love" was really just an unhealthy need to be near the other person. I felt obsessed with him—my mind would literally not rest; even if I was not thinking about something else, his name would just repeat in my mind over and over again. I did everything I could to be close to him. He lived 3,000 miles away, but we would text all day, have hours-long phone calls, and would feel like the sky was falling if I didn't hear from him in an hour or two. I threw myself into working on a project with him at the expense of my job, my housing situation, and my family. My mentality was, "as long as I have him in my life in some way, I'll be okay." I don't know if that's what's going on in your relationship, exactly (since I'm not in it), but there are shades that sound very familiar. So to answer your question, I don't think you're suffering from some kind of mental illness, but I also don't think that your relationship sounds particularly healthy (no offense). After-all, if you thought all of this were completely normal, I doubt you'd be posting about it on here.
dancingsunflowers80 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Hi @deadelvis - If you're not sure if you are simply in love or have a mental illness, it might be helpful to talk to a counselor about these issues to sort them out. I know of a nonprofit that offers free counseling over the phone if you're interested. Also, the website Boundless has some great resources on healthy dating. Hope this helps! mommato2lilmonkeys
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