foolinlove79 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Its been a couple of weeks now and i am feeling a bit better. A lot of people on here hope their ex will come back but you really dont. When your in an on/off RS it makes it very hard to move on. My ex does exactly the same things when we split. And he always changes his mind. When we break up he is always adament and then i dont know what happens..one day he just has a change of heart and the whole thing starts again. I get a how are you text. Lets be friends... I realized today i really Need to close this chapter. Somehow stop thinking about him and all the memories we made together. Start a new life really. And move on.
aloneinaz Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Its been a couple of weeks now and i am feeling a bit better. A lot of people on here hope their ex will come back but you really dont. When your in an on/off RS it makes it very hard to move on. My ex does exactly the same things when we split. And he always changes his mind. When we break up he is always adament and then i dont know what happens..one day he just has a change of heart and the whole thing starts again. I get a how are you text. Lets be friends... I realized today i really Need to close this chapter. Somehow stop thinking about him and all the memories we made together. Start a new life really. And move on. This doesn't sound like a rant, rather it sounds like you have a good grasp on needing to move away from a toxic relationship. You stated he always comes back. You know why? He gets lonely, horny and hasn't met anyone yet so you're a filler until he does. Then all the same BS starts between you two and the cycle continues.. 3
Author foolinlove79 Posted May 19, 2015 Author Posted May 19, 2015 This doesn't sound like a rant, rather it sounds like you have a good grasp on needing to move away from a toxic relationship. You stated he always comes back. You know why? He gets lonely, horny and hasn't met anyone yet so you're a filler until he does. Then all the same BS starts between you two and the cycle continues.. Yeah i know. I know he actively tries to meet another partner. And i think that hasnt worked out in the past and when he's been rejected he thinks oh ill contact my ex again. I want to work out for myself why I've put up with it this long and always take him back. I would tell myself he must really love me to keep coming back butt the flip side of that is he must really not to keep leaving like he does. I really don't think i know him that well. He definitely has a cold uncaring side. Why would anyone want to be with someone who can just run hot and cold.
aloneinaz Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Yeah i know. I know he actively tries to meet another partner. And i think that hasnt worked out in the past and when he's been rejected he thinks oh ill contact my ex again. I know shes missing me and I can at least get some female companionship and get laid until something better comes along. I want to work out for myself why I've put up with it this long and always take him back. I would tell myself he must really love me to keep coming back butt the flip side of that is he must really not to keep leaving like he does. Don't beat yourself up. Everyone on this forum as taken to much $hit from an ex. Why? We don't want to be alone. We need to work on our self esteem. Maybe we've let ourself's get out of shape while in the relationship and don't want to date looking like we do. Speaking of dating, it sucks for most people but is an end to a means. He doesn't REALLY LOVE you. If he did, he wouldn't keep dumping you and looking for someone else. People throw around the "love" word so easily these days. Why would anyone want to be with someone who can just run hot and cold. This is what you need to ask YOURSELF. YOU'RE the one who keeps accepting him back, time and again. Ask yourself why you can't simply tell him to f-off and ignore any further contact while you heal and move on to someone much better than this guy. His behavior isn't going to change until you stop it cold. Trust me, I had the pleasure of telling my ex 6 months after she dumped me NO THANKS when she contacted me for another try after I vanished from her life. Let me tell you, it feels very sweet.. I also am grateful now as she was NOT a good fit and my new GF is so much better.
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