zachsack Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Me and my gf rushed into a relationship and just recently I told her that I felt we were drifting apart and I didnt want us to fall apart. She agreed to told us we either had to break up or take a break. She would not tell me the issue. The next day at school she still wouldn't. She's one of the shy, really nice girls so I understand why her behavior is so. I asked her if she still had feelings, and she said I don't know, I asked her to either answer yes or no. And she said "not the same way as before, but it's still there". She wouldn't come up with a decision on what we would do so I have her a bit more time. In the end, I called her and told her that I didn't want to lose her, but I feel like breaking up is the correct decision if I'm a burden. (I asked her if I was added stress to her problems in her family, she said I guess so). Her: you aren't a burden, it is not at all your fault, I just feel like everything happened so quickly. Imean I didn't even consider you a friend, friend before you asked me out, imean we only knew each other for 2 weeks. Me: we did rush and I regret that since day one, but I felt that it was something we could fix, that's why I took it real slow. Her: what I said and taking it slow are two different things. Me: I know that now, Im stupid for my decision, I was just worried you'll lose interest. Her: No! Why would I lose interest, I really liked you at the time. Me: yeah I could tell, but even that tends to die out where you don't expect it. Her: true, but if you kept in contact with me, then I surely wouldn't have lost interest. Me: yeah, so I guess we break up then? Her: I guess so. Imean I still do like you, I just feel that getting to know the guy better and as a closer friend is important before a relationship. Me: I knew that's a importantance, I guess I was just really worried about if I would make a mistake to lose you. Her: well, imean we still might get together later on. Me: I don't want to be harsh but do you know how you sound? Her: what? Me: really desperate, gettig back together after a first relationship is a whole another thing. Her: I know it'll be different but it'll work. Imean we still have a couple weeks of school left, we could hang out more. And you'll be here a couple weeks int he summer before NY right? We can still text and call. Me: yeah. But chances of getting back together are small. Her: no, not really its a possibility. Me: ok. I guess I value your views and we break up. Her: I don't want it to be like You not talking to me anymore. I still want to have some connection with you. Me: it might be that way, but later on it'll fix. Her: well, we break up and idk. Become closer friends and later on we might give it another try. Imean it won't be hard to become closer, since we already have this history between us. Me:yeah, well I gtg. I'll talk to you later. Her: byye. That is the best I cam remember if, I don't even know if that's in order, but tahsg the closest I can get it. Honestly, I wouldn't date a girl I already went out with. But imean this ones different, she was different that the others because she was so nice and comfortable to be around. How would I proceed to become closer with her without makings it look like I want to spend all my time on her, or she think I'm only doing it so I can get her back. I plan to spend some more time with her, talk to her more. But my mind goes blank, what should I talk to her about? And, finally, does she really mean all this she says, or is she trying to be nice.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Sounds to me like she lost interest and met someone else, and she's trying to be nice. Don't bother trying to sustain a friendship, I think it will only give your grief. I'm assuming you guys are quite young? If so, don't stress. You'll have plenty of chances to meet someone else who wouldn't let you go so easily.
GoBlue Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 How old are the two of you? What does it mean that you "rushed into a relationship?" I am guessing that you are both in high school. Friendship is a great thing to focus on. Romantic connection can come later when you truly know more about one another. If you insist on one before the other you risk losing both.
Author zachsack Posted May 19, 2015 Author Posted May 19, 2015 How old are the two of you? What does it mean that you "rushed into a relationship?" I am guessing that you are both in high school. Friendship is a great thing to focus on. Romantic connection can come later when you truly know more about one another. If you insist on one before the other you risk losing both. We are in high school. I'm actually about done with this situation. There are so many signs that she talking with someone else. I guess it jealousy. But there's many more to come so oh well.
Author zachsack Posted May 19, 2015 Author Posted May 19, 2015 Sounds to me like she lost interest and met someone else, and she's trying to be nice. Don't bother trying to sustain a friendship, I think it will only give your grief. I'm assuming you guys are quite young? If so, don't stress. You'll have plenty of chances to meet someone else who wouldn't let you go so easily. Turns out that's very likely the situation. I will try to remain friends. But it won't remain the same. But in the end I don't think it'll work out.
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