jonnylad Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 [color=black][/color][font=arial][/font] Meand my girlfriend had been going out for 2years she dumped me 2days befor we were ment to go on holiday together and within 4days she was seeing a guy she worked with and who is 8yrs older than her. she didnt talk to me or waant to see me wen we broke up for 2weeks now shes' with this guy and wen she saw me in the town we live in she walked away from me but when i saw her again she started to kiss him and show him of i keep thinking about her and after 2yrs and after everything i did for her how can she treat me like this. I dont no what to do its been 5weeks now and i just want to disapear and get away from were i live and her. Every time i see her walking or driving aroung my heat pounds i hate it and i always worry that i'm going to bump into her. she has never not had a boyfriend she has even slept with her best m8s dad after she split up with her past boyfriend then came onto me one side says i deserve more and the other misses all the close moments we had what can i do to get her out of my mind and get on with my exams plz help
CinnamonGrl Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 There's 2 sides to every story - what did you do to cause her to suddenly exit?
moon Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 That sounds like my ex boyfriend. It's been almost six months for me and I still have lingering feelings of pain about it here and there. I am lucky that I don't live near him. I don't see what he's doing at all and I don't communicate with him. But it is one of those hurts that really hurts. It's unlike any kind of betrayal I've ever felt. My ex was also the type who sort of needed a women to prop him up. I wouldn't say he was the type to always have a girlfriend, but I think he's basically connected to a women in a relationship-way one way or another----it doesn't necessarily have to be serious. My ex had a checkered past too. It took me a LONG time to decide to trust him. I wish I hadn't because he totally screwed me over and hooked up with a new woman (right away) he might and might not still be with. But it doesn't matter who he's with now, he isn't with me---nor can he ever be again. I think you kick yourself a lot for being so stupid when you end up with the people your gut was telling you to not entirely trust. Well, it took four years of knowing the guy before he totally f*cked me over.......so I guess I can't say that I didn't keep both feet on the ground for a long time. It wasn't until things were getting much more serious that it all went to hell. So anyway, it's a wound. It'll heal eventually. Day by day it gets earier. I mean I didn't think it would be six months later and I'd be thinking about it......but it's not like this sort of thing happens everyday. Anyway, just try to stay away from the girl. I'll tell you what my therapist said about my ex when I told her everything about him. She said, "he sounds like trouble." You know that alone has helped me move on day by day, because I know I could never go back. Your ex sounds a bit like trouble too. Keep your distance and realize it's gonna kill and hurt for a while---but just ride it out and try to stay busy. Do things for yourself and know that sh*t like this does happen in life and for whatever reason you're supposed to go through it. I think you do need to take a hard look at somebody's past, background and choices before you date them. I know this now!!!! Good luck.
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