Back off or work harder?

[tfx]

Hi guys,

 

I've got a problem with girl I'm not able to solve simply, because I'm still getting mixed signals from her and now, I can't decide, whether I should back off for a while or try to work harder and be more patient

 

We are both +- 23 years old and she is my schoolmate... we don't see each other too often, because we are both having different timetables and generally, because we are both ending our degree, we don't go to school much.

 

I liked her for a while (for example half a year, i attended her birthday party where she invited me or events she organized) but I had to solve relationship problems with my ex first. The first problem i did was to solve these problems kind of late, because now, i have almost no time to ask her out face 2 face (exam period, school leaving exams etc...). Another problem is that she flies to US for a three months in a month to work & travel.

 

So did asked her out via FB for a coffee, she was cool and said yes... without any effort, only one question was enough and now there is a problem, because we do have a problem to settle down a date, when I suggest something, she is usually busy and says something like "we'll arrange something in the week", but then she does not respond by herself... she did it about three times and now i don't know what else to do.

 

I do understand that she has virtually no time (job, school, one club at school which organises events, sports, school leaving exams, thesis - i surely know that she doesn't go out much because of time)... But I don't understand this behaviour, because on the other hand, when we're somewhere out, she is cool, smiles, we talk without any problems, sometimes she "accidentaly" touches me (even for a longer time, at the afterparty i was sitting at a bench with my hand at a backrest, she came behind, talked to me, our hands met for a minute or two...), looks at me, in written form she is extending the words (like heey..) and sometimes winks, last week we were even at a afterparty and we got drunk together a lot, talked a lot, the only problem was she was never alone, because some guys were chasing her too... (tough evening, she is a popular one )

 

Another thing may be that she is shy or afraid, she did have only one boy for a five years, they broke up 9 months ago and from that time she did not have anyone, from her words even sexually (she told us while she was drunk including a lot of other personal details - one of those guys was really intrusive).

 

So what to do now? She is leaving in a month and the only possibility I know is to meet her face2face is at her thesis defence or state exams... or continue inviting her via FB - for example on my birthday next week, which is our common friend organizing for me as a "surprise"... hm? Or leave it and do nothing except for an occasional chat/wishing luck for exams and try harder in September? I don't really know. Confused a little bit...

 

Thank you guys!

Edited May 19, 2015 by tfx

[SycamoreCircle]

Call her. Ask her out on a date. Have something specific in mind. If she agrees, great! If she declines, move on.

[tfx]

Wow, another mistake, should've taken her number already.